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Children belong to their commuities and not the parent according to MSNBC

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Melissa Harris-Perry saying in an MSNBC "Lean Forward" ad, "We have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents or kids belong to their families and recognize that kids belong to their communities."

by on Apr. 8, 2013 at 12:15 PM
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12hellokitty
by Platinum Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 8:20 PM

 

 

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 9:12 PM

Your experience may have been more pleasent than others. My parents experiences were pretty horrific. 

Quoting Carpy:

I am going by, "I was there".

Quoting mehamil1:

I'm not looking only at the bad stuff. I'm simply pointing out the fact that 50 years ago wasn't exactly great. We have a romanticized view of that era because of shows like The Andy Griffith Show, I Love Lucy, and Leave it to Beaver. The fact of the matter was that very few families and communities looked like that. I'm going by statistical data here, not by being negative. 

I shall look into that book. 

Quoting Carpy:

Why can some people only look at the bad things?  Nobody wants to return to that.  I suggest reading the book-From Front Porch to Patio.  You will get a glimpse of the "good" in  "theGood old days".

Quoting mehamil1:

50 years ago domestic violence wasn't talked about, ever. Or child abuse. Alcoholism was rampant. Both sets of my grandparents were alcoholics and it royally fucked over my family mainly because of the stigma and culture of silence about it 50 years ago. There was racism and discrimination everywhere. Those were not the good ole days, not at all. 

yourspecialkid
by Platinum Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 9:27 PM

 Considering the quality of the "village" these days...I think I will raise my children myself...the "community" can worry about their own.

coolmommy2x
by Silver Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 9:39 PM
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Everyone in a community is responsible for the community. It's called looking out for one another...not raising each other's kids.
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muslimahpj
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 2:06 AM

LOL. 


Carpy
by Ruby Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:04 AM
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And that holds true with people today.  Yes, I did have a Leave to Beaver childhood, while some did not.  You see children today with childhoods that are pretty horrific.  But back when I was a kid, if something was amiss, the chances of people being aware of it were pretty high.  A lot of things are missing from communities now that were not when I was a kid.   I posted this the other day, but I think it can hold true for here too.


I come across a lot of people who simply live their whole lives pleasing others. Not that it is a bad thing all the time, but rather the habit of pleasing others constantly, takes your independence away. We are a society that is too dependent on what other people think about us. We care more about what someone else thought about what we said, or how we looked than what we think about ourselves. I see so many people who simply live out their parents dreams, in hopes that satisfying someone else's wishes will somehow end up satisfying themselves. I see others who struggle with love, because they have this false impression that if someone doesn't like them, then something must be wrong with them. So they spend their whole lifetime changing themselves so that someone out there will find them attractive instead of giving time to find their own voice. The way I look at it, you should never change yourself to appease someone else. Nor should you ever look in books for instructions on how to live your life. By doing so you will only end up following someone else's road. Look only inside yourself. You must trust your own voice, think with your own mind, follow your own heart, and believe in your own dreams. Only you know what you need or what is good for you. You can only survive and succeed when you are true to yourself and not to the opinions of others. Do not look at life through the eyes of someone else; do not end up second-guessing your own thoughts and feelings in the false belief that others are automatically wiser than you are. Trust your self, listen to your heart, chart your own course, be your own North Star and be the one of a kind person that you are... to sum it all up.. We have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner peace. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. Dr. Moorehead "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away..." Stephanie Marrott

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Quoting mehamil1:

Your experience may have been more pleasent than others. My parents experiences were pretty horrific. 

Quoting Carpy:

I am going by, "I was there".

Quoting mehamil1:

I'm not looking only at the bad stuff. I'm simply pointing out the fact that 50 years ago wasn't exactly great. We have a romanticized view of that era because of shows like The Andy Griffith Show, I Love Lucy, and Leave it to Beaver. The fact of the matter was that very few families and communities looked like that. I'm going by statistical data here, not by being negative. 

I shall look into that book. 

Quoting Carpy:

Why can some people only look at the bad things?  Nobody wants to return to that.  I suggest reading the book-From Front Porch to Patio.  You will get a glimpse of the "good" in  "theGood old days".

Quoting mehamil1:

50 years ago domestic violence wasn't talked about, ever. Or child abuse. Alcoholism was rampant. Both sets of my grandparents were alcoholics and it royally fucked over my family mainly because of the stigma and culture of silence about it 50 years ago. There was racism and discrimination everywhere. Those were not the good ole days, not at all. 


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