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S/O of Men's Abortion Rights Post

Posted by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:29 AM
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So I'm curious.

Since abortion is becoming more and more restricted in America, and since most abortions are done in the first trimester, and since we don't have a way of determining paternity that early in the pregnancy, my question is....

For those who think men should have the right to stay an abortion, how do you reconcile that men can't prove they are a father at an early enough stage in the process to have the abortion if the woman wants to?

Should any man just be able to say "I think that's mine" and stop a woman?

Should this only apply to the married?

How would this be handled?

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:29 AM
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notabosley
by Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:42 AM
The whole notion disgusts me, my uterus my choice.
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romalove
by Roma on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:44 AM


Quoting notabosley:

The whole notion disgusts me, my uterus my choice.

Thanks for your response.

I agree with you that men shouldn't have a say, but I am trying to point out a valid practical reason that has nothing to do with "equity".

How can a man show early enough in the pregnancy that the baby is his?

Just saying it?

Frightening to me.

ashleyrenee24
by Ashley on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:48 AM
Lets say a woman needed the consent of the father to get an abortion, she could easily find a man who is not the father to sign the paper. She could even lie and say she was raped. I don't see how people would think this will work.
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romalove
by Roma on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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Quoting ashleyrenee24:

Lets say a woman needed the consent of the father to get an abortion, she could easily find a man who is not the father to sign the paper. She could even lie and say she was raped. I don't see how people would think this will work.

A good point.

And what if two men claim paternity of an embryo of a few weeks, one wanting the woman to continue the pregnancy?

The nightmare that would ensue....

Carpy
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 9:57 AM
My nephew never quite got over the abortion his ex had.
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notabosley
by Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 10:01 AM
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It would be impossible, we don't have the technology to prove paternity without negatively affecting the fetus. Before 24 weeks gestation, it's a logistical nightmare.

Quoting romalove:


Quoting notabosley:

The whole notion disgusts me, my uterus my choice.

Thanks for your response.

I agree with you that men shouldn't have a say, but I am trying to point out a valid practical reason that has nothing to do with "equity".

How can a man show early enough in the pregnancy that the baby is his?

Just saying it?

Frightening to me.

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romalove
by Roma on Apr. 20, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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Quoting Carpy:

My nephew never quite got over the abortion his ex had.

That's very sad.  :-(

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on Apr. 20, 2013 at 10:05 AM
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I don't get how that would work or why anyone would think it is a good idea.
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