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Sensitive post. Is anyone here a parole examiner, or do you know one? What are their qualifications and education? *edt*

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Long story in a nut shell. 

I was molested by a convicted murderer and rapist when I was 4.5. He had just been released from prison after a an 11 year sentence for his first rape and murder, yes only 11 damn years, and 2 weeks after he assaulted me, he raped and murdered another woman, then raped and bludgeoned another woman and left her for dead. She survived, but lost an eye, and suffered tbi from her injuries. He was sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole. That was in 1986. 

The courts where unaware of my assault at the time he was sentenced as my parents were not yet aware of what happened. 

He has mailed threats to my family over the years, made it a point to know where we are, and I believe sends the letters to scare us. It's a game for him. 

We got a call a few months back that he has a "parole" hearing. Dumbfounded, we contacted the parole commission. I still don't quite understand how he is being given an opportunity at parole, but originally we were told there is no way he would have it granted. I was asked to write a letter to the parole board and several other family members did also. 

Today I got a call from my mom. The "parole examiner" gave their recommendation FOR parole. That means he could be back in my area in as little as 2 months. 

What is a parole examiner, and what are their unique qualifications? Are the a psychiatrist, or psychologist? I cannot for the life of me understand how any sane or educated person could allow this monster back out on our streets. I am furious. I am scared, and I am disgusted. 

I have started a letter to this moron. I have had to rewrite numerous times because my emotions get the better of me and I sound like an uneducated, foul mouthed moron. 

I don't know what to do. The parole hearing is scheduled for 1 May. I am sick over this. Advice  is very much welcomed. 


*edit* Talked with the state attorney. He has requested another examination for this week by a psychiatrist and a different examiner, and assured me he will fight tooth and nail to make sure he is not paroled. He also said the surviving victim will be present at the hearing to testify, and that if he thinks the parole board is looking like they may approve parole, he will request a continuance so that I, and my family can be heard in person. Fingers crossed. 


*edit #2* The parole hearing has come and gone. Neither my mom or I was able to attend due to the changes they made and we still have not heard the outcome. I am in knots. She thinks they would have called ASAP if he was paroled, and I think they would have called ASAP either way to put our minds at ease or warn us. I also think they might delay if it was bad news for us.  I don't know what to think. I left a message today with our contacts. Hoping to hear tomorrow. I cannot sleep, and my anxiety is getting out of control. ;-( I feel like puking. 


*edit #3* he isn't getting out. His parole wasn't "denied" as such, but was given a date in 2019 where he goes up for parole again. I don't really understand the ins and outs of this, they call it an "extension", but from what we were told they can just keep giving him these extensions and denying to parole him at the time of the hearing. The state attorney said that is what they will continue to do. I am thrilled and beyond relieved he isn't getting out, however it also means we will have to continue to do this every so often until he bites the dust. Thank you for those prayers and advice. I very much appreciated the support. It's been a hell of a few months. ;-) 

by on Apr. 20, 2013 at 7:30 PM
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NWP
by guerrilla girl on Apr. 20, 2013 at 8:10 PM
So sorry. You have a meeting with this ag?

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Ps. In trying to give a short account... I left out the detail he is my dad's brother. "My uncle" although I cannot stomach calling him that. My dad won't even mention him. When he committed his first rape and murder my parents were seniors in Highschool. You can only imagine the media frenzy they went through. So you see the issue I have. 


Quoting NWP:

Well I hope the attorney general can be an effective advocate for you. I wonder if the media can be of use. From the sound of it, you wouldn't even have to share your part of the story. The stuff he was convicted of alone is enough to prove he is a monster.




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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Apr. 20, 2013 at 8:12 PM


My mom said he contacted her today. Off hours obviously, but we don't have a lot of time. I wasn't home during the day today, so she gave him my info and he will be calling me for an interview tomorrow at 12pm. 

Quoting NWP:

So sorry. You have a meeting with this ag?

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Ps. In trying to give a short account... I left out the detail he is my dad's brother. "My uncle" although I cannot stomach calling him that. My dad won't even mention him. When he committed his first rape and murder my parents were seniors in Highschool. You can only imagine the media frenzy they went through. So you see the issue I have. 


Quoting NWP:

Well I hope the attorney general can be an effective advocate for you. I wonder if the media can be of use. From the sound of it, you wouldn't even have to share your part of the story. The stuff he was convicted of alone is enough to prove he is a monster.






NWP
by guerrilla girl on Apr. 20, 2013 at 10:23 PM

Well then I will be thinking of you tomorrow around that time. I hope you find he is committed to keeping this monster behind bars.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


My mom said he contacted her today. Off hours obviously, but we don't have a lot of time. I wasn't home during the day today, so she gave him my info and he will be calling me for an interview tomorrow at 12pm. 

Quoting NWP:

So sorry. You have a meeting with this ag?

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Ps. In trying to give a short account... I left out the detail he is my dad's brother. "My uncle" although I cannot stomach calling him that. My dad won't even mention him. When he committed his first rape and murder my parents were seniors in Highschool. You can only imagine the media frenzy they went through. So you see the issue I have. 


Quoting NWP:

Well I hope the attorney general can be an effective advocate for you. I wonder if the media can be of use. From the sound of it, you wouldn't even have to share your part of the story. The stuff he was convicted of alone is enough to prove he is a monster.







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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Apr. 21, 2013 at 1:34 AM


Thank you. I genuinely appreciate it. :-) This is going to be hard. 

Quoting NWP:

Well then I will be thinking of you tomorrow around that time. I hope you find he is committed to keeping this monster behind bars.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


My mom said he contacted her today. Off hours obviously, but we don't have a lot of time. I wasn't home during the day today, so she gave him my info and he will be calling me for an interview tomorrow at 12pm. 

Quoting NWP:

So sorry. You have a meeting with this ag?

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Ps. In trying to give a short account... I left out the detail he is my dad's brother. "My uncle" although I cannot stomach calling him that. My dad won't even mention him. When he committed his first rape and murder my parents were seniors in Highschool. You can only imagine the media frenzy they went through. So you see the issue I have. 


Quoting NWP:

Well I hope the attorney general can be an effective advocate for you. I wonder if the media can be of use. From the sound of it, you wouldn't even have to share your part of the story. The stuff he was convicted of alone is enough to prove he is a monster.









afwifeandmommy3
by Bronze Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 1:43 AM
That doesn't make sense at all
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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Apr. 21, 2013 at 1:46 AM


Nope, it sure does not.... 

Quoting afwifeandmommy3:

That doesn't make sense at all



DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Apr. 21, 2013 at 2:22 AM

Finished my letter to the "parole examiner". Sans uneducated bs. Ugh... This blows. 

DestinyRoseLC
by Bronze Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 2:38 AM
I hope all works out for you.
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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Apr. 21, 2013 at 2:39 AM


Thank you, ;-)

Quoting DestinyRoseLC:

I hope all works out for you.



BellyFlop
by Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 3:52 AM

http://www.dhrm.state.va.us/services/compens/70000/descrip/72502.htm

What is a parole examiner, and what are their unique qualifications?

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