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I see a lot of posts and comments from young girls 18-25 on here that say they are married.

Posted by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:11 AM
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It must be an American thing because for the most part Canadians don't marry really young. Why do think that is? Religious up bringing? Trying to escape home life? Trend? I'm curious...
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wickedfiress
by Kellie on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:28 AM

It's not an "American thing". People marry young all over the world. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

Wikipedia is not the greatest source, but it's there. The average ages for first marriages for Canadians and Americans is only different by 3 years. 

and at this source (http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_age_at_fir_mar_for_wom-people-age-first-marriage-women) the age differs by 2. 

:)

It's amazing how people don't hold themselves to the standards they set for others.

junebaby11
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:29 AM
Im 21 we are engaged but have been for 2 years im not bothered about getting married really
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mattiehatter
by Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:31 AM
I was days from 22 when I married my Husband. There was no real rush. I just knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him as his wife.
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loverbug75
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:33 AM
I meant only in North America.


Quoting wickedfiress:

It's not an "American thing". People marry young all over the world. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

Wikipedia is not the greatest source, but it's there. The average ages for first marriages for Canadians and Americans is only different by 3 years. 

and at this source (http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_age_at_fir_mar_for_wom-people-age-first-marriage-women) the age differs by 2. 

:)


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wickedfiress
by Kellie on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:38 AM


Quoting loverbug75:

I meant only in North America.


Quoting wickedfiress:

It's not an "American thing". People marry young all over the world. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

Wikipedia is not the greatest source, but it's there. The average ages for first marriages for Canadians and Americans is only different by 3 years. 

and at this source (http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_age_at_fir_mar_for_wom-people-age-first-marriage-women) the age differs by 2. 

:)


Okay? The stats for the North American countries are on there. 


It's amazing how people don't hold themselves to the standards they set for others.

loverbug75
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 4:46 AM
Maybe it's an average but to me it seems like a much larger gap. It wasn't a judgement just an observation. I was curious as to why.
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mrs.ninjaa
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 5:31 AM
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I'm 22 and married. We chose to get married because we love each other and know that this is what we want. We didn't do it just to say oh hey I'm married. We knew what we were getting into and actually know that we're in this forever. Wasn't in a rush, or running from anything and we were fully supported by our families. Yeah, we're on the younger but we went into this fully aware of what it means.

Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 6:03 AM
Quoting wickedfiress:

The average ages for first marriages for Canadians and Americans is only different by 3 years. 

3 years?   That's a significantly large difference.


jeweldragons
by on Apr. 21, 2013 at 6:07 AM
I got married at 19. I'm Muslim and my religion encourages us to marry young so we avoid falling into the trap of fornication which is a sin in Islam. Also my family wanted me to go to college and I had no desire to go to college. My family also hates Muslims and as I'm the only Muslim in my family I faced and still/will always face difficulties for my faith so partly why I got married is because I knew it would be easier for me as a new Muslim to practice my religion if I got married. Plus I was ready to settle down and start a family.
jhslove
by Bronze Member on Apr. 21, 2013 at 6:18 AM

Canada is part of North America. Do you mean a U.S. thing?

To answer your question, I think there are a lot of reasons. For some, it's related to religious upbringing, for others it's a way to escape an unpleasant home life, for others it's just because they met the right person at a young age. For some it's because they got knocked up and decided to get married. Just like there are all kinds of reasons for waiting until a later age. Personally, I was 25 when I got married--my husband and I had been together for three years, we knew we wanted to  build a life together, and we were ready. I wasn't in a rush to get married, that was just when it happened.

I do think it's important to recognize, however, that by the standards of a lot of other cultures, particularly non-Western ones, the North American average age at first marriage is actually quite late. I suppose it would seem early if you're looking at things through a very narrow, Western lens, but if you widen your view to be more global, the average here doesn't seem that early anymore.


Quoting loverbug75:

I meant only in North America.


Quoting wickedfiress:

It's not an "American thing". People marry young all over the world. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage

Wikipedia is not the greatest source, but it's there. The average ages for first marriages for Canadians and Americans is only different by 3 years. 

and at this source (http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_age_at_fir_mar_for_wom-people-age-first-marriage-women) the age differs by 2. 

:)




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