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Teachers are to teach not to raise your children

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It seems to me that parents are expecting teachers to actually raise their child/children. They complain when problems in their house happens with their children that have nothing to do with school but they still think that the teachers should get involved.  Here is an idea, don't let your preteens text or get on facebook that is where a lot of the drama starts.  We cannot discipline a child for something that happens at night at the house, I have my own house to deal with at the end of the day I sure do not need a bunch of drama queens to deal with.  Sorry rough day at school.

by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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LindaClement
by Linda on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:16 PM

It is used by bullies --who don't behave any better live, in my experience.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Maybe not in that situation, but you cannot deny the fact that social media is a huge tool in bullying. My personal opinion is that children have zero business on FB, MySpace, twitter, etc. I have yet to hear of a single positive that has come out of children having access to these things. 

I hate it when I see children of friends have sent me a friend request. I always email them back and explain I don't have children on my FB page. I find it inappropriate. 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 There is a lot of bullying in the schools that have nothing to do with Facebook.  In my younger dd's class, an overweight girl is constantly teased and the teacher does NOTHING about it.  She won't talk to the kids doing the teasing. Facebook has nothing to do with that.




Debmomto2girls
by Debbie on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:17 PM
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 Yes, I agree it can play a part. But, I do not blame the teachers for that. I blame the parents and the "kids will be kids" mentality.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

 

Maybe not in that situation, but you cannot deny the fact that social media is a huge tool in bullying. My personal opinion is that children have zero business on FB, MySpace, twitter, etc. I have yet to hear of a single positive that has come out of children having access to these things. 

I hate it when I see children of friends have sent me a friend request. I always email them back and explain I don't have children on my FB page. I find it inappropriate. 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 There is a lot of bullying in the schools that have nothing to do with Facebook.  In my younger dd's class, an overweight girl is constantly teased and the teacher does NOTHING about it.  She won't talk to the kids doing the teasing. Facebook has nothing to do with that.

 

 

 

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:19 PM
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I had a hard enough time in school long before the advent of social media and cell phones. I can only imagine what these kids are going through. 

I don't plan on letting my son have a cell phone. If he wants one, he'll have to pay for it himself. even then I am pretty sure I'll have to take it away at night while he's in high school. I'm not looking forward to those years at all. 

Debmomto2girls
by Debbie on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:19 PM

 And I forgot to add....the only positive thing that has ever come out of Facebook for us as a family is we can keep in contact with my sister and her family who live 2,000 miles away and we only see 1 time per year.  We each post pics daily and it is the only way my 16 y.o. nephew will talk to me...lol. But, thast is really it

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

 

Maybe not in that situation, but you cannot deny the fact that social media is a huge tool in bullying. My personal opinion is that children have zero business on FB, MySpace, twitter, etc. I have yet to hear of a single positive that has come out of children having access to these things. 

I hate it when I see children of friends have sent me a friend request. I always email them back and explain I don't have children on my FB page. I find it inappropriate. 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 There is a lot of bullying in the schools that have nothing to do with Facebook.  In my younger dd's class, an overweight girl is constantly teased and the teacher does NOTHING about it.  She won't talk to the kids doing the teasing. Facebook has nothing to do with that.

 

 

 

FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:21 PM
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Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 It upsets my dd too.  She is suh a quiet, shy kid. She wants to stick up for this girl and say something to these bullies but she is scared.  My oldest would have done it in a heart beat.  It is a tough call on my part.  I kind of want to tell her to stick up for this girl but I do not want them turning on her.  She does include this girl in as much as she can and talks to her but won't tell the bullies to knock it off. It's a tough one.  And her teacher is an ass. My oldest hd her and she was an ass than too.  I should have requested a new teacher but she didn't want me to and I believe they have to learn to deal with difficult situations.  I am tempted to email the principal but I am afraid they will tell the kids it was me and turn it around on my dd who honestly cannot handle it

Quoting FromAtoZ:


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 There is a lot of bullying in the schools that have nothing to do with Facebook.  In my younger dd's class, an overweight girl is constantly teased and the teacher does NOTHING about it.  She won't talk to the kids doing the teasing. Facebook has nothing to do with that.

This upsets me.  The teacher should indeed step in.  This is taking place in her classroom, her school, her domain.  Something needs to be done.

I don't think, and I could be wrong, that these type of situations is what the OP is talking about.

 

It is indeed difficult.  When M was a little younger, she was exactly as your youngest daughter.  She always gravitated towards those other kids picked on and bullied.  Yet she could not stand up to those doing it.

She has since then and, at times, it has come back to cause her more problems than any thing else.  It is indeed hard to stand up for others when nothing is done to prevent the treatment in the first place.  

My 18 year old, her Senior year, organized students to help those who were being bullied.  A group of the kids would walk students to class, sit with them at lunch, be there for them after school, at all hours.  Just in an attempt to lessen their horrible days at school and to stand up, with in the 'rules', to the bullies.  Often times the school turned their eye to what was going on but these kids helped so many and a few times, even were able to get through to the punks who were doing the bullying.  If only this was the norm rather than the few.

My daughter has had to learn when to speak up and when to go to an adult.  If that adult will listen, that is.  

LindaClement
by Linda on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:23 PM
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I watched so many kids have a hard time at school that we kept our kids out of it entirely.

Seemed simpler.

Quoting mehamil1:

I had a hard enough time in school long before the advent of social media and cell phones. I can only imagine what these kids are going through. 

I don't plan on letting my son have a cell phone. If he wants one, he'll have to pay for it himself. even then I am pretty sure I'll have to take it away at night while he's in high school. I'm not looking forward to those years at all. 


PestPatti
by on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:26 PM

I don't know any kids who have access to social media who have had "issues".  But then again they act the same way in person as they do online.  

Don't blame the social media, blame the user.   

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Maybe not in that situation, but you cannot deny the fact that social media is a huge tool in bullying. My personal opinion is that children have zero business on FB, MySpace, twitter, etc. I have yet to hear of a single positive that has come out of children having access to these things. 

I hate it when I see children of friends have sent me a friend request. I always email them back and explain I don't have children on my FB page. I find it inappropriate. 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 There is a lot of bullying in the schools that have nothing to do with Facebook.  In my younger dd's class, an overweight girl is constantly teased and the teacher does NOTHING about it.  She won't talk to the kids doing the teasing. Facebook has nothing to do with that.




kaylasmom22
by Bronze Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:29 PM
Well dd is in kindergarten and if she won't behave at home ( mostly doesn't want to do hw or read) I do tell the teacher. The teacher doesn't mind talking to her and I have seen teachers take away play time at the parents request for bad behavior at home.(mostly pre-k students)
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stormcris
by Christy on Apr. 22, 2013 at 5:58 PM

Could you tell some other schools that? There are a few, maybe many, that believe they have the right to discipline a child no matter where any incident happens. 

Sorry you got dragged into drama and I agree it is not something you should have to deal with as it is the parent who should.

stacymomof2
by Ruby Member on Apr. 22, 2013 at 6:29 PM

If the school is raising them, it is their problem.  That is what raising means, there is no break from raising kids.

Quoting kailu1835:

If it didn't happen at school, then it isn't tour problem. The schools problem is not telling the parents to deal with their own out of school issues.

Quoting marinequeen:

We have a female student who has been known to be dishonest, needless to say she comes from a my child can do no wrong type of parent.  She complained that two boys had been sexting her at 10 at night, should be in bed, and that she had nothing to do with it.  We talked to the boys only to find out they had different stories when confronted she denied it all.  Well things got heated and the father of one of the boy brought in his boys phone with the texts on them, she had been taunting them and also was saying that because she was a girl that we would believe her.  Well, we took care of that one, which had nothing to do with school only to turn around again and have more problems, this time about a sleepover, this is not a school issue yet the parents say we should discipline these other girls with detentions, ugh!


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