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So, I usually laugh and poke the faddish parenting philosophies. I was listening to a local NPR station this morning and there were a few people in the studio just speaking casually about their experiences. One had a little brother that was going on his first professional job interview and they were talking about the three biggest things that cause a 'millenial' *that's the new buzzword for the newest college grads* to flunk a job interview. According to the conversation in the studio it was this:

#3: texting, smart phoning and social mediaing during said job interview (does this really surprise anyone?)

#2: Failure to address superiors as such.

#1: Parents of job applicants... as in parents who attend job interviews and interfere on behalf of precious Johnny or shining star Judy.

I was shocked. Literally shocked. After all my time on CM I really shouldn't be, but... REALLY? Has it really gone that far? Does anyone really think this is acceptable?

As an aside, I have a friend who teaches UPPER level college courses who says she has parents in her office, on her phone and in her email on a weekly basis asking, complaining and cajoling about their college age children... I'm talking grad students here.

Is this really something we as a society are moving toward as not only an accepted but encouraged form of parenting? It sort of feels that way when I read some of the stuff I read here...


by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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by Member on May. 1, 2013 at 10:41 PM

 While I agree completely with this situation the parents going way to far I still despise the term helicopter parent it is way over used.

by Bronze Member on May. 1, 2013 at 10:45 PM

My mom was the complete opposite.

by on May. 1, 2013 at 10:48 PM
I don't know about anyone else here, but I would be mortified if my mother were discussing my grades with any of my professors.
by Bronze Member on May. 1, 2013 at 11:46 PM

It doesn't surprise me at all. DIsgusts and disappoints but doesn't surprise me. These parents are seriously misinformed on what ther job is, and it isn't to micromanage their child's life. I would never hire someone whose mom had to attend the interview. If the person can't even get a job on his own, that doesn't give me much confidence that he's independent enough to do the job. Would his mom fill in when he called off sick? Seriously.

by on May. 1, 2013 at 11:50 PM

My mom is like this with my 18 year old brother. He has like no common sense and she treats him like a baby. I can't stand it. He is applying for college right now and my mom is doing everything. She even filled out the application.

I tell her all the time to let them grow up, make mistakes, and learn from them. But she won't.

by on May. 1, 2013 at 11:57 PM
Lol there was this 18 year old working with a friend of mine at a video store nearby and he wouldn't do squat all day. Lazy as hell and he was trained so he knew what his job was.

He was one of those that uses "well you didnt tell me to...." Excuse.

Well the owners have my friend the okay to fire him and the kids dad came in the next day to defend his little snowflake and go on about how people don't know what to do if you don't tell them.

Yeah young people with no work ethic always make themselves out to be the victim
by on May. 2, 2013 at 12:02 AM

How can parents call and talk to college professors? I have 2 in college and I can't even check their grades online unless they give me the password! And if I call the registrar they can't give out any info either. I tried to just get #2's dual enrollment credits transferred and I couldn't do it. She's over 18 and they don't have to tell me anything. Of course mine do because they want me to keep paying lol

by on May. 2, 2013 at 12:15 AM

What these moms don't realize - and I'm trying not to generalize so forgive me - is that nobody knows what's going on in someone's life. I mean - my DD21 who has MILD Aspergers, would freak the hell out if she walked in and saw a boy (over the age of at least 8) in the bathroom. Imagine what a more severally handicapped woman would think? What about the ladies and teenage girls who have been sexually assualted? how triggering would that be to walk in and see a tall (cause 10yo's don't look 10 these days -my DS -and all the boys in his class- looks like he's 13)  male in the female bathroom? If your son has disabilities, teach him to use the disabled toilet. Or the family toilet. But if it's just a case of "being afraid to let go" get over it or don't take your son anywhere where he can't independantly use the male/family toilet.

Quoting jazzgirl205:

I'm not very surprised.  There was a post on CM about a month ago and it was unbelievable how many mothers escorted their 10 yo sons to the ladies room because they wouldn't let them go the mens room by themselves.  This happened to me and dd when dd was 10.  I told the boy he was too old for the ladies room and he had to go to the mens room.  The mother said, "It's alright if he's in here."  I told her it definitely wasn't and my dd and every other woman who goes to the restroom should be able to urinate in gender exclusivity.

Some mommies just can't turn it off.

by on May. 2, 2013 at 12:15 AM
Ugh! I hardly interfere now, and my twins are 8! People have GOT to let their kids grow up; they are not doing them any favors by raising adult babies.
by Member on May. 2, 2013 at 12:18 AM

This sounds very controlling to me. I'd be worried that she was a victim of domestic abuse.

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