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So, I usually laugh and poke the faddish parenting philosophies. I was listening to a local NPR station this morning and there were a few people in the studio just speaking casually about their experiences. One had a little brother that was going on his first professional job interview and they were talking about the three biggest things that cause a 'millenial' *that's the new buzzword for the newest college grads* to flunk a job interview. According to the conversation in the studio it was this:

#3: texting, smart phoning and social mediaing during said job interview (does this really surprise anyone?)

#2: Failure to address superiors as such.

#1: Parents of job applicants... as in parents who attend job interviews and interfere on behalf of precious Johnny or shining star Judy.


I was shocked. Literally shocked. After all my time on CM I really shouldn't be, but... REALLY? Has it really gone that far? Does anyone really think this is acceptable?

As an aside, I have a friend who teaches UPPER level college courses who says she has parents in her office, on her phone and in her email on a weekly basis asking, complaining and cajoling about their college age children... I'm talking grad students here.

Is this really something we as a society are moving toward as not only an accepted but encouraged form of parenting? It sort of feels that way when I read some of the stuff I read here...

Discuss.





by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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Lorik1969
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:28 PM
That's not being a helicopter, that's helping. My daughter called me before an important interview for an ego boost lol! I reminded her of her accomplishments and helped with with questions she thought they might ask. I didn't tell her what to say, but rather critiqued her answers.


Quoting Piskie:

As a parent, I will totally be involved in my daughters first job....

I the background! I'll help her prep for interviews, tell her what I'd expect as an employer etc. I'd give her the tools to do it herself.

KimmyShaw
by Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:33 PM

I was listening to the radio this morning too that was talking about this! They had people call in to tell about wierd interview stories and some young girl brought in her cat and started playing with it LOL Then of course they turned it dirty ;P

Piskie
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:43 PM
Yes.... Can't tell you how many young people I've interviewed that have no idea of budgeting, interview technique, business behavior etc....
No one knows anything until they learn... And learning how to function in a business environment seems to be something people aren't teaching.


Quoting Lorik1969:

That's not being a helicopter, that's helping. My daughter called me before an important interview for an ego boost lol! I reminded her of her accomplishments and helped with with questions she thought they might ask. I didn't tell her what to say, but rather critiqued her answers.




Quoting Piskie:

As a parent, I will totally be involved in my daughters first job....


I the background! I'll help her prep for interviews, tell her what I'd expect as an employer etc. I'd give her the tools to do it herself.


i.m.r.
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:49 PM
I feel like a helicopter parent right now, but dd just turned two and I'm a first time mom. That said, I could never see myself doing anything stated above. Once she's a grown adult, she has the responsibility to do her homework, study for tests and own up to any abissmal grades she may or may not achieve. Not only that, but once she's out of post secondary education she will hopefully be able to go to a job interview without her mommy. She will have already had jobs previous to her "career" though so maybe she'll be better prepared. It's like the highschool kids at work who have mommy and daddy call in sick for them... It just makes me *facepalm* every single time...
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Lorik1969
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:53 PM
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Why teach anything when all you have to do is call their boss and tell them to quit picking on your little pumpkin lol. I managed a restaurant and parents would pick up applications for their kids, which is fine. I would wait to see who brought the app back. If it was mommy, I didn't even bother with them. If they can't be bothered to turn in their own app then they don't really want the job.


Quoting Piskie:

Yes.... Can't tell you how many young people I've interviewed that have no idea of budgeting, interview technique, business behavior etc....

No one knows anything until they learn... And learning how to function in a business environment seems to be something people aren't teaching.




Quoting Lorik1969:

That's not being a helicopter, that's helping. My daughter called me before an important interview for an ego boost lol! I reminded her of her accomplishments and helped with with questions she thought they might ask. I didn't tell her what to say, but rather critiqued her answers.






Quoting Piskie:

As a parent, I will totally be involved in my daughters first job....



I the background! I'll help her prep for interviews, tell her what I'd expect as an employer etc. I'd give her the tools to do it herself.



Lorik1969
by Bronze Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:57 PM
I was 10 when I started babysitting. The parents called me to arrange a time. If I had to cancel, my parents made me do it. My job, my responsibility. I agree with you, a 17 year old who isn't responsible enough to manage her own job isn't responsible enough to care for a child!


Quoting LDavis33:

I hired a local 17-year-old to babysit now and again for my son last summer.  But after I hired her, I ended up only dealing with her mother.  If I called to see if she was available, her mother would check her schedule.  If she had to cancel for one reason or another, her mother would call me.  It didn't take me long to decide to find a different babysitter.  If she isn't capable of picking up the phone and calling me, or checking her own schedule, then she isn't capable enough to watch my son.

It's scary that there are young adults out there who aren't capable of handling even the simplest of situations or responsibilities.


TranquilMind
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:59 PM

 Yes, one of mine is in school, and I can't imagine calling either. 

The only one that really surprised me - but it shouldn't - is that people are texting or using the phone DURING job interviews?  Really?  That is just RUDE.  But then, everyone is so rude with their phones anyway, I suppose it is inevitable.  Moms ignoring their kids, with their faces glued to the screen.  People staring at their phone while driving!(I wish I could arrest everyone who takes out a phone while driving).  People yakking loudly wherever they are. 

Rude.

The unwillingness to address superiors with titles isn't that surprising, because lots of parents don't even teach their kids to call other parents Mr. and Mrs. anymore.  The overly familiar addressing of superiors would be a natural outcome of that. 

Quoting MeAndTommyLee:

What?!  Oh my Lord, this is really sickening.  Two of our kids attend univeristy at the moment and I can not imagine calling, emailing or dropping in on one of their professors for anything EVER.  This type of parenting is forgien to me and I guess I am a parent of these `millanial' children.

And who in the hell does not turn off their cell phone during a job interview?  That is just rude!  It puts off an aura of superiority, sell-importance and all bad qualities.  Does it surprise me?  Yes and no.  And parents attending job interviews?!  For what?  YOU will not be working there.  Cut the cord! 

 

 

pamelax3
by Gold Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 2:02 PM

This just blows my mind. My DD is 16 and looking for a job now and I can tell you I will not do anything other than boost her ego before an interview

momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 2:05 PM

I didn't ask my parents to do that stuff for me, and I won't be sitting in on my son's job interviews, either.  

When I taught college I had parent contact, usually after some kid had blown off class (ignoring the attendance policy) and not turned in assignments and was in danger of failing because of it.   

Momforhealth
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 2:06 PM

Failure builds character.

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