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How can you hate someone you do not know? I have always found this interesting. People hate the Boston Bombers, they hate Obama, they hated Bush, etc. Is it just a word we throw around or do you really feel hate for these people?
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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JTROX
by Gold Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:00 AM

Yes.  People overuse the word.   

Quoting romalove:


Quoting JTROX:

Just because you don't support another's choices doesn't mean you hate them.

This is true.

When you act towards denying them the same rights you have, though, because you don't like their "choices" (what a crappy word to veil what we are really talking about here), others may view that as hateful.

Even if you do it with a heart full of love.


punky3175
by Punky on May. 1, 2013 at 6:03 AM
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Ok - I've read through and just 'wow' and some people's arrogance and 'holier than thou-ness.' I'm glad my world comes in all kinds of shades of grey. The beauty of having a truly open mind. :-)

And now to answer the OP. I don't have time for hate. I know I've felt hatred towards my ex-husband and it was toxic. I've learned to move past that feeling and accept that while I'm not his biggest fan, I'm 'stuck' with him because of kids. As for hating people I don't know? Nah - better things to so with my time. I can't hate someone I've never met. I can find their actions, words, portrayed attitudes/personalities disgusting and reprehensible but I don't hate them.
toomanypoodles
by Ruby Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:06 AM

 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

Ok. I am just the opposite but my outlook isn't based in religion.

Quoting toomanypoodles:

 


Quoting Debmomto2girls:


 You never see the "gray areas" of situations?  Is everything right or wrong?


Quoting toomanypoodles:


 


Quoting romalove:




Quoting toomanypoodles:


 Good question.  I've been called a hater because I am a Christian and call sin sin.


These people don't know me, they just hate what I stand for.  They hate my values, my principles and what I believe. 


There are lots of Christians who are not called "haters".  


What do you think the difference between them and you is?


 They stay quiet and never speak up.  They are weak, I am bold.  I call sin sin and stand up for what I believe.  I cannot remain silent in the face of evil and wickedness. 


If that makes people hate me, then so be it.


 




 


 There is good and evil, right and wrong.  You're correct, there are no grey areas in my outlook.  I stand up for my convictions and will take my truth to my grave.  God's word is God's word and I will stand upon it. 

 Mine is.  100%.  lol

romalove
by Roma on May. 1, 2013 at 6:09 AM
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Quoting punky3175:

Ok - I've read through and just 'wow' and some people's arrogance and 'holier than thou-ness.' I'm glad my world comes in all kinds of shades of grey. The beauty of having a truly open mind. :-)

And now to answer the OP. I don't have time for hate. I know I've felt hatred towards my ex-husband and it was toxic. I've learned to move past that feeling and accept that while I'm not his biggest fan, I'm 'stuck' with him because of kids. As for hating people I don't know? Nah - better things to so with my time. I can't hate someone I've never met. I can find their actions, words, portrayed attitudes/personalities disgusting and reprehensible but I don't hate them.

Oh, your beautiful brain....

<3

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:15 AM
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I agree. When I was younger, I had very thin skin. The older I got the more I realize I do not care what others think of me if I know I am doing the right thing. My "Christian" MIL tells me I will burn in hell if I am prochoice.. Those comment used to bother me. Now I tell her I will have some great company;)

Quoting romalove:


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I think people have a hard time deciphering between hate, non-belief and judgement.



I may judge someone's action i.e. I do judge mom's who smoke around their kids but I do not hate. As a nurse, I have strong opinions on certain things but I do not hate someone because of their choices even when I really believe they are wrong.







Quoting toomanypoodles:

 Good question.  I've been called a hater because I am a Christian and call sin sin.



These people don't know me, they just hate what I stand for.  They hate my values, my principles and what I believe. 

I think it has to do with the thinness of the skin.  :-)

romalove
by Roma on May. 1, 2013 at 6:17 AM
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Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I agree. When I was younger, I had very thin skin. The older I got the more I realize I do not care what others think of me if I know I am doing the right thing. My "Christian" MIL tells me I will burn in hell if I am prochoice.. Those comment used to bother me. Now I tell her I will have some great company;)

Quoting romalove:


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I think people have a hard time deciphering between hate, non-belief and judgement.



I may judge someone's action i.e. I do judge mom's who smoke around their kids but I do not hate. As a nurse, I have strong opinions on certain things but I do not hate someone because of their choices even when I really believe they are wrong.







Quoting toomanypoodles:

 Good question.  I've been called a hater because I am a Christian and call sin sin.



These people don't know me, they just hate what I stand for.  They hate my values, my principles and what I believe. 

I think it has to do with the thinness of the skin.  :-)

I'm sure I will too LOL

punky3175
by Punky on May. 1, 2013 at 6:19 AM
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Well if I'm wrong in my heathen ways, I'll be sitting right there beside you. :-)

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I agree. When I was younger, I had very thin skin. The older I got the more I realize I do not care what others think of me if I know I am doing the right thing. My "Christian" MIL tells me I will burn in hell if I am prochoice.. Those comment used to bother me. Now I tell her I will have some great company;)



Quoting romalove:


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I think people have a hard time deciphering between hate, non-belief and judgement.





I may judge someone's action i.e. I do judge mom's who smoke around their kids but I do not hate. As a nurse, I have strong opinions on certain things but I do not hate someone because of their choices even when I really believe they are wrong.











Quoting toomanypoodles:

 Good question.  I've been called a hater because I am a Christian and call sin sin.




These people don't know me, they just hate what I stand for.  They hate my values, my principles and what I believe. 

I think it has to do with the thinness of the skin.  :-)

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:20 AM
I have never been divorced. Heck my dh was my first boyfriend.. Lol. But, I have a lot of divorced friends and I found the ones who hang on to the hate grow very bitter towards life. You have a good outlook on it.

Quoting punky3175:

Ok - I've read through and just 'wow' and some people's arrogance and 'holier than thou-ness.' I'm glad my world comes in all kinds of shades of grey. The beauty of having a truly open mind. :-)



And now to answer the OP. I don't have time for hate. I know I've felt hatred towards my ex-husband and it was toxic. I've learned to move past that feeling and accept that while I'm not his biggest fan, I'm 'stuck' with him because of kids. As for hating people I don't know? Nah - better things to so with my time. I can't hate someone I've never met. I can find their actions, words, portrayed attitudes/personalities disgusting and reprehensible but I don't hate them.
Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:21 AM
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I will bring the Margueritas;)

Quoting punky3175:

Well if I'm wrong in my heathen ways, I'll be sitting right there beside you. :-)



Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I agree. When I was younger, I had very thin skin. The older I got the more I realize I do not care what others think of me if I know I am doing the right thing. My "Christian" MIL tells me I will burn in hell if I am prochoice.. Those comment used to bother me. Now I tell her I will have some great company;)





Quoting romalove:


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

I think people have a hard time deciphering between hate, non-belief and judgement.







I may judge someone's action i.e. I do judge mom's who smoke around their kids but I do not hate. As a nurse, I have strong opinions on certain things but I do not hate someone because of their choices even when I really believe they are wrong.















Quoting toomanypoodles:

 Good question.  I've been called a hater because I am a Christian and call sin sin.





These people don't know me, they just hate what I stand for.  They hate my values, my principles and what I believe. 

I think it has to do with the thinness of the skin.  :-)

toomanypoodles
by Ruby Member on May. 1, 2013 at 6:22 AM

 

Quoting punky3175:

Ok - I've read through and just 'wow' and some people's arrogance and 'holier than thou-ness.' I'm glad my world comes in all kinds of shades of grey. The beauty of having a truly open mind. :-)

 lol....read thorough the posts and found...not much but Roma and me battin' back and forth.  I guess you're referring to arrogant, holier than thou me.  lol

That's okay.  Not everyone likes my style--or my God like I do.  ;)

I don't suppose you see your words as judgmental and hateful, right? 

No, your kind never do. 

The mind can get filled with all sorts of ridiculous garbage when it hangs open like that. 

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