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Posted by on May. 4, 2013 at 6:49 PM
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Do you have expectations of your children?

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules?

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be?

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit?

Do you expect them to be religious?

Do you expect them to graduate?

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you?

Do you want your children to question authority?

How many times will you bail them out of jail?

Will you loan them money?

Will you make excuses for them?

Marriage before Sex?

Marriage before kids?

Could they ever disappoint you?

Would you love them if they were gay?

Differing political views?

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-Celestial-
by Pepperlynn on May. 4, 2013 at 6:49 PM
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Do you have expectations of your children? No. I actually encourage them to make their own decisions from what they eat to what they dress

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? We have no rules in this house, well no throwing knives..

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? I expect them to be hard working self reliant adults.

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? Oh Gawd yes, most times I just shake my head and walk off..

Do you expect them to be religious? No. 

Do you expect them to graduate? Yes. I told them I would like to see a high school diploma from each of them. College is not mandatory

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? We debate every night. 

Do you want your children to question authority? Yes. To question everything. We really enjoying questioning the school boards view of History and religion.

How many times will you bail them out of jail? None. I have told them over and over that their is common sense situations in life and to examine each reaction before acting

Will you loan them money? For school and necessities yes, for a pack of smokes (if they do smoke) no..

Will you make excuses for them? Oh no. They have to answer for their self

Marriage before Sex? None of my business

Marriage before kids? They don't have to get married but I hope who ever father their child is in the picture for the long haul

Could they ever disappoint you? Yes. But they wil amaze me even more

Would you love them if they were gay? Yeppers

Differing political views? Yes. I always like a good debate. But I'm pretty sure I have nothing to worry about there..

Sisteract
by Whoopie on May. 4, 2013 at 6:56 PM

Do you have expectations of your children? Sure

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? As minors, yes....adults get to do their own thing.

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? No

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? Yes

Do you expect them to be religious? No

Do you expect them to graduate? Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? Yes

Do you want your children to question authority? Respectfully, yes

How many times will you bail them out of jail? never thought about this one

Will you loan them money? Yes

Will you make excuses for them? No

Marriage before Sex? If they decide (which they have)  NO

Marriage before kids? I'd prefer this, yes

Could they ever disappoint you? Sure

Would you love them if they were gay? Sure

Differing political views? Sure

Peanutx3
by Ruby Member on May. 4, 2013 at 6:59 PM
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Quoting -Celestial-:

Do you have expectations of your children?  I do have expectations of my kids.

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules?  Yes I want them to follow my rules.

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be?  No I expect my children to be who they want to be.

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit?  Yes my children have no problem with self expression.

Do you expect them to be religious?  No I don't.

Do you expect them to graduate? Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you?  When they are old enough then yes.  My oldest is getting to that point.

Do you want your children to question authority?  In certain circumstances yes.

How many times will you bail them out of jail?  Good question.  I guess it may depend on what they did.

Will you loan them money?  Probably

Will you make excuses for them?  I try not too.

Marriage before Sex?  That will be their decision.

Marriage before kids?  Again their decision.

Could they ever disappoint you?  Yes if they committed a heinous crime.

Would you love them if they were gay?  Of course

Differing political views?  Sure, I don't have the same political views as either of my parents.



gludwig2000
by Gina on May. 4, 2013 at 7:02 PM
Do you have expectations of your children? Of course Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? They need to be decent human beings. Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? Mine are grown, for the most part and they are what they want to be. Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? There is a time and a place for everything, and that is how mine were raised. Home, they could pretty much do anything as long as they weren't destructive or disrespectful. Do you expect them to be religious? No Do you expect them to graduate? Yes. 2 of mine are furthering their educations now, one will go to college in the fall when she graduates hs, and my youngest son is now trying to get his GED. If only he had listened to me,lol. Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? One of my biggest regrets when they were teenagers, was allowing them to speak their minds when they were younger,lol. The one that is getting his GED right now wasted himself, he would have been a great lawyer. Boy is he quick on his feet when thinking and debating me. Do you want your children to question authority? Again, there is a time and a place for everything. Respect it, but also respect themselves enough to question when something is wrong. How many times will you bail them out of jail? Haven't yet, and don't plan on it. Will you loan them money? If I have it, yes. Will you make excuses for them? I try not to. Marriage before Sex? For 3 of them, its too late. Maybe the last one. Marriage before kids? I would prefer this, but its not up to me. They know how tough it is to do it on their own, and one of them didn't listen but she is still with her son's father and they are talking marriage. Could they ever disappoint you? Yes but I wouldn't stop loving them. Would you love them if they were gay? Yes Differing political views? Yes
survivorinohio
by René on May. 4, 2013 at 7:05 PM


Quoting -Celestial-:

Do you have expectations of your children? yes

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules?  yes

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? no

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? no

Do you expect them to be religious? I hope for it

Do you expect them to graduate? yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? yes

Do you want your children to question authority? appropriately

How many times will you bail them out of jail? depends

Will you loan them money? yes

Will you make excuses for them? no but I am one to look for reasons.

Marriage before Sex? not my call

Marriage before kids? not my call

Could they ever disappoint you? yes

Would you love them if they were gay? yes

Differing political views? yes


How far you go in life depends on your being: tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of both the weak and strong.  Because someday in life you would have been one or all of these.  GeorgeWashingtonCarver


katy_kay08
by on May. 4, 2013 at 7:06 PM


Quoting -Celestial-:

Do you have expectations of your children?   yes

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? - yes

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? - No

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? - For the most part

Do you expect them to be religious? - No

Do you expect them to graduate? - Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? - Yes

Do you want your children to question authority? - occasionally

How many times will you bail them out of jail? - not known

Will you loan them money? - Yes

Will you make excuses for them? - No

Marriage before Sex? -  That will be a private choice each of them makes for himself

Marriage before kids?  - I would prefer they wait until after they are married and I would like them to wait to marry until they are a bit older.  

Could they ever disappoint you?  - Yes, disappointment is a part of life.  While they may disappointment me I have an inifinite supply of forgiveness and hope for them.  

Would you love them if they were gay?  - Absolutely

Differing political views?  - Sure


lizzielouaf
by Gold Member on May. 4, 2013 at 7:07 PM

Do you have expectations of your children? I do

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? I do

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? In certain regards, yes. Professionally, no. 

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? Within reason, yes. They can't go fling poo on the neighbors house as an expression of aggravation.

Do you expect them to be religious? No

Do you expect them to graduate? Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? I do

Do you want your children to question authority? I want them to know the difference between right and wrong and question those in authority when they do wrong.

How many times will you bail them out of jail? Depends

Will you loan them money? yes

Will you make excuses for them? I have before 

Marriage before Sex? I seriously don't think I can control that one

Marriage before kids? There's worse things

Could they ever disappoint you? Yes

Would you love them if they were gay? Of course

Differing political views? Yes

thecoffeefairy
by Bronze Member on May. 4, 2013 at 7:11 PM
Do you have expectations of your children?
Yes

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules?
Yes

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be?
No

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit?
Yes

Do you expect them to be religious?

No
Do you expect them to graduate?
Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you?
Yes

Do you want your children to question authority?
At appropriate moments. They need to know when to.

How many times will you bail them out of jail?
Once. It better be a dn good reason too.

Will you loan them money?
Yes

Will you make excuses for them?
Depends on the excuse

Marriage before Sex?
Oh hell no! That's antiquated and a great way to make them feel trapped with the wrong person.

Marriage before kids?
Yes

Could they ever disappoint you?
Yes but I would still love them

Would you love them if they were gay?
Of course. I really don't care about sexual orientation

Differing political views?
That's fine too

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JCB911
by Bronze Member on May. 4, 2013 at 7:19 PM


My Kids are 3 and 5.

Do you have expectations of your children? obvioulsy

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? As kids yes, as adults - yes to a certain extent

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? No, I don't know what I want them to be tough

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? No,  Otherwise I'd be ok with them hitting and yelling at each other and I am not. As far as makeup, piercings - IMO that's hardly expression that's just going along with others.

Do you expect them to be religious?  I hope for them to be, they are being raised to be - but it's their choice, obviously

Do you expect them to graduate? High school - YES, that's just a given. College - eh, college is a scam, so if they can make a life and avoid it that'd be great (and way cheaper!)

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you? At 3 and 5, sure, it's amusing when they try.

Do you want your children to question authority? YES!

How many times will you bail them out of jail?  Bail out with MY/OUR money - Zero times.  Helping them get money from their bank account to bail them out - sure, once.

Will you loan them money?  Depends on the circumstances. If they are responsible then we'd be more likely to.

Will you make excuses for them?  I try not to but . . . (ha!)

Marriage before Sex?  I can only hope I raise them to see the importance in that.

Marriage before kids?  Absolutley - that's one area I hope they learn is an absolute MUST.  I'd support them, but i'd be disappointed.

Could they ever disappoint you?  See above.  Sure they can, when they know better but don't do better.

Would you love them if they were gay?  Why wouldn't we?

Differing political views?  I hope they are well educated enough to see past the views of the other side, I hope they are well-educated enough to consider all options and know their mind.  I hope they are well-educated enough to make a emotional-free, sensible decision in these matter. 

fireangel5
by Gold Member on May. 4, 2013 at 7:34 PM

Do you have expectations of your children? Yes

Do you want your children to follow a set of rules? Yes

Do you expect your children to be what you want them to be? Nope

Do you allow your children to express their self how they seem fit? Depends on where when and how

Do you expect them to be religious? Yes 

Do you expect them to graduate?   Yes

Do you allow your kids to have an honest debate with you?  Yes

Do you want your children to question authority?  in situations when they feel the authority is wrong

How many times will you bail them out of jail?   Depends on why they are there

Will you loan them money?  If they really need it and if I have it

Will you make excuses for them?   Nope

Marriage before Sex?   Not my decision

Marriage before kids?   I certainly hope so

Could they ever disappoint you?   Yes

Would you love them if they were gay?  yea

Differing political views?  Don't think thats an issue but yes

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