Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Current Events & Hot Topics Current Events & Hot Topics

Abstinence Education Teaches Rape Victims They’re Worthless, Dirty, And Filthy

Posted by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:32 PM
  • 45 Replies

Very insightful...I love this young lady more and more everytime I hear about her!

link

Elizabeth Smart: Abstinence Education Teaches Rape Victims They’re Worthless, Dirty, And Filthy

Elizabeth Smart, human trafficking victim and sexual violence prevention advocate

Elizabeth Smart became a household name after she was kidnapped from her home in Salt Lake City, UT at the age of 14 and held in captivity for nine months. She was forced into a polygamous marriage, tethered to a metal cable, and raped daily until she was rescued from her captors nine months later. Smart was recovered while she and her kidnappers were walking down a suburban street, leading many Americans who followed her story on the national news to wonder:Why didn’t she just run away as soon as she was brought outside?

Speaking to an audience at Johns Hopkins about issues of human trafficking and sexual violence, Smart recently offered an answer to that question. She explained that some human trafficking victims don’t run away because they feel worthless after being raped, particularly if they have been raised in conservative cultures that push abstinence-only education and emphasize sexual purity:

Smart said she “felt so dirty and so filthy” after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn’t run “because of that alone.”

Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about abstinence and compared sex to chewing gum.

“I thought, ‘Oh, my gosh, I’m that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.’ And that’s how easy it is to feel like you know longer have worth, you know longer have value,” Smart said. “Why would it even be worth screaming out? Why would it even make a difference if you are rescued? Your life still has no value.”

Now in her mid-twenties, Smart runs a foundation to help educate children about sexual crimes. She now believes that children should grow up learning that “you will always have value and nothing can change that.”

Social psychologists and sexual abuse counselors agree that comprehensive sex education can help prevent sexual crimes. Teaching children about their bodies gives them the tools to describe acts of abuse without feeling as embarrassed or uncomfortable, and it also helps elevate their self-confidence and sense of bodily autonomy. A shame-based approach to genitalia and sexuality, on the other hand, sends kids the message that they can’t discuss or ask questions about any of those issues.

Nonethless, abstinence-only education programs have a long history of imparting harmful messages that shame youth about their sexuality instead of teaching them the facts they needto safeguard their health. A high school in West Virginia recently made national headlines after hosting a conservative religious speaker who allegedly told students “if you take birth control, your mother probably hates you” and “I could look at any one of you in the eyes right now and tell if you’re going to be promiscuous.” In Smart’s home state of Utah — which is home to a large religiously conservative Mormon community — sex education is currently mandated, but lawmakers have repeatedly pushed to weaken the state law and reinstate an abstinence-only curriculum.

 Sexy If its unladylike, fattening or fun, I'm in!
  

by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:32 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
romalove
by Roma on May. 6, 2013 at 1:40 PM
3 moms liked this

I admire Elizabeth Smart more than I can ever say.

Teaching girls self respect will go a long way towards keeping them out of early sexual relationships.

jeweldragons
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:41 PM
1 mom liked this
Okay her teacher was an idiot. I don't believe abstinence teaches rape victims they are trash. It teaches you not to screw around before marriage which seems to be a damn hard concept to understand with our teens and college women in our country. Rape is the exception because you are forced-therefore it doesn't violate the rule of abstinence because you were forced to have sex against your will. I thought she was dropped off somewhere on the side of the highway.
romalove
by Roma on May. 6, 2013 at 1:42 PM


Quoting jeweldragons:

Okay her teacher was an idiot. I don't believe abstinence teaches rape victims they are trash. It teaches you not to screw around before marriage which seems to be a damn hard concept to understand with our teens and college women in our country. Rape is the exception because you are forced-therefore it doesn't violate the rule of abstinence because you were forced to have sex against your will. I thought she was dropped off somewhere on the side of the highway.

What?

jeweldragons
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:43 PM

And why we are at this discussion we need to teach our sons to keep it fucking zipped until they are man enough to provide for a child.

romalove
by Roma on May. 6, 2013 at 1:44 PM
1 mom liked this


Quoting jeweldragons:

And why we are at this discussion we need to teach our sons to keep it fucking zipped until they are man enough to provide for a child.

Sex education is for both boys and girls, not just girls.

Peanutx3
by Ruby Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:45 PM

I agree. 

Quoting romalove:

I admire Elizabeth Smart more than I can ever say.

Teaching girls self respect will go a long way towards keeping them out of early sexual relationships.



jeweldragons
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:45 PM

Quoting romalove:


Quoting jeweldragons:

Okay her teacher was an idiot. I don't believe abstinence teaches rape victims they are trash. It teaches you not to screw around before marriage which seems to be a damn hard concept to understand with our teens and college women in our country. Rape is the exception because you are forced-therefore it doesn't violate the rule of abstinence because you were forced to have sex against your will. I thought she was dropped off somewhere on the side of the highway.

What?


I'm saying that her teacher is an idiot for comparing having sex to a piece of chewed gum.
parentalrights1
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:45 PM
5 moms liked this
Another reason I argue with slut shamers alot.

There's no such thing as sexual purity (arguable if you get a disease but that's another thing altogether lol)

You're no different. You aren't defined by your virgin or not so virgin status. There's more to a person than sexual status. Your vagina doesn't fall off if you have sex. You aren't any less desirable.

It's just a mind game
Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:46 PM
This

Quoting romalove:

I admire Elizabeth Smart more than I can ever say.

Teaching girls self respect will go a long way towards keeping them out of early sexual relationships.

tnmomofive
by Bronze Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:47 PM


This

Quoting jeweldragons:

Okay her teacher was an idiot. I don't believe abstinence teaches rape victims they are trash. It teaches you not to screw around before marriage which seems to be a damn hard concept to understand with our teens and college women in our country. Rape is the exception because you are forced-therefore it doesn't violate the rule of abstinence because you were forced to have sex against your will. I thought she was dropped off somewhere on the side of the highway.



Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN