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If You Are Atheist But Grew Up In a Home of Faith...

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Do you miss anything?

I'm just curious. If I were atheist I would really struggle with giving up Pesach/Passover seders.

Or do you still do certain religious holiday celebrations, just without religious significance now? Like Christmas with all of the commercialism & none of the Christ?
by on May. 8, 2013 at 11:17 PM
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by on May. 9, 2013 at 12:08 AM
I could be but I have I don't believe in the bible.

Some think believing in Jesus alone makes you christian but I don't know if I want to be lumped with the same religion as WBC and alot of the bigots anyway..

And I practice tarot which isn't really christian. I believe in psychics and spirit guides and communicating with them.

It's just a big cluster fuck so I am in all kinds of different groups (like pagan, christian, and psychics)

It's too hard to classify me. I find pagans to be really accepting and not pushy though so I hang around those groups more often

Quoting Bookwormy:

If you believe in Jesus, why aren't you an unaffiliated Christian?

Quoting parentalrights1:

Not atheist but no longer identify as christian

I keep up old holiday traditions. Everyone loves the fat chimney dweller and egg shitting rabbit

And I guess it's still sorta appropriate since I believe in Jesus

by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 12:08 AM
There are usually plenty of comunity groups for pagans, gay or straight we dont care. Has she looked into a uu church or anything so she can still have the comfert of the comunity and support? I am also pagan tell her i say hi!!

Quoting Bookwormy:

My partner isn't atheist, but is now Pagan. Leaving the Methodist church for her was an act of survival as a lesbian. Still, it was like ripping her insides out, such a loss of community & sense of order & belonging I guess. Seems so sad to me.

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by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 12:17 AM

Sorry, I had the reverse, I was of faith being raised by an atheist and a co dependent that would just put her head in the sand when the sparks started to fly. She claimed to believe, but she also believed she was better than others. It was a very interesting education in difference.

by on May. 9, 2013 at 12:26 AM

I miss going to church.  I really loved church and my friends and I think about going back for my little girl to have those experiences but I would be lying.  Religion just all of the sudden seemed so ridiculous to me.  I'm not sure what happened to change my mind but I sometimes wish I still blindly believed..... 

by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 12:36 AM

I like the aesthetics of the catholic church: the insense, the ritual, the holy water, the stone, the stained glass. 

and that's about it. 

I was raised lapsed catholic. 

by Ruby Member on May. 9, 2013 at 12:43 AM

I was raised Mormon.  It was effing boring.  Don't miss a thing.  :P

by on May. 9, 2013 at 3:46 AM
Nothing that I can think of.
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by Silver Member on May. 9, 2013 at 3:54 AM

fuck no! I don't miss anything about it. I dont really care about holidays. I do the christmas thing because obviously my family wants me to come over and celebrate, so I go over there. I dont do easter. to be honest I'm not really into holidays, but I LOVE halloween. But yeah, I don't miss anything about growing up in a religious home, If I could go back and do it again, I would age promptly as to get as far away from it as possible.

by Roma on May. 9, 2013 at 5:30 AM

I grew up in a Jewish home with atheist parents.

My grandparents were, one set, Orthodox, and the other set Reform.

We did Passover every year at the Orthodox grandparents in Brooklyn.  My grandfather was from the old country, with a thick accent, a much older man, who could read the Hebrew in the Haggudah, but could not interpret it much.  This meant if he got lost at any point, we would have to go back to the beginning.  Sometimes dinner took 8 hours lol, and with all the times you had to drink wine, it led to little kids being sleepy and drunk!

I am now married to a Catholic who does not practice.  We always did all the holidays with the kids, telling them the "why" and celebrating with the traditions, foods, music, and yes sometimes the commercialism, giving them the fun and festivities but not religious indoctrination.

They were told the religious stories and reasons, though, and my children have always known that if they wish to pursue religion they are free to do so.

If you were an atheist you would have Passover just as you have it as a believer, but without the religious reverence.

by on May. 9, 2013 at 6:47 AM

No, I miss absolutely nothing about the way religion was celebrated in my home.  

However, I love being in a beautiful church/cathedral.   Love those big echoey spaces, stained glass windows, etc.  I love religious music and I very much enjoy performing in churches.  

We celebrate Christmas and other holidays in a nonreligious way and have the family traditions developed by me and DH and DS.      

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