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If You Are Atheist But Grew Up In a Home of Faith...

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Do you miss anything?

I'm just curious. If I were atheist I would really struggle with giving up Pesach/Passover seders.

Or do you still do certain religious holiday celebrations, just without religious significance now? Like Christmas with all of the commercialism & none of the Christ?
by on May. 8, 2013 at 11:17 PM
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SuperChicken
by on May. 9, 2013 at 6:57 AM

I still go to Church for weddings and funerals, but I can't say I miss it.   I never really felt the peace people speak of in Church.  

Raintree
by Ruby Member on May. 9, 2013 at 7:52 AM

I actually find that certain holidays mean more now.

For example- Christmas was always over-the-top and commercialized IN the church. I've taken a more paganish slant to certain holidays and somehow that makes more sense to me. Also, I have synaesthesia, and I've always had 'the wheel of the year' in my mind- long before I was aware of any pagan principles having to do with that.

I think I miss the community part of it. But I don't really miss that particular community- they were a judgy lot.

IhartU
by Gold Member on May. 9, 2013 at 8:20 AM

 I miss all the pot-luck meals. The church was ALWAYS having those.

marmie41
by Member on May. 9, 2013 at 8:46 AM
I am a christian mother whose son became an atheist at the age of 18/19 he is now 24. I do not think there is anything about religion that he misses. He does still attend church we me on Christmas Eve and Easter and mothers day. He also had a faith based wedding last year, his wife is a Christian. He also bows his head for meal prayers at my house and will even call me if prayers are needed for his friends. He always starts out the convo with "Momma I know you pray so I am calling to ask you to pray for so and so or such and such.". He also takes no offense when I tell him I am praying for him. I once asked him why this did not offend him (because of all the post on CM.). He said because I am doing it out of love and that he knows I am praying for peace and happiness for me, not because I think he is going to hell.
marmie41
by Member on May. 9, 2013 at 8:48 AM
LOL that would be the one thing my son would miss now that you mentioned it. He loves to eat and cook.


Quoting IhartU:

 I miss all the pot-luck meals. The church was ALWAYS having those.


Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 9:14 AM
1st she found UU's women's spirituality group, then CUPS, then Festival of the goddess, & finally Reclaiming Paganism. She also is fully accepted by my family & our Jewish communities.

None of that is quite the same as the very strong connections she had in her community of origin. And she is someone who liked girls by kinder/1st grade. And was positively active in church from birth. That's where she found her identity, her role models, etc.


Quoting pixie92:

There are usually plenty of comunity groups for pagans, gay or straight we dont care. Has she looked into a uu church or anything so she can still have the comfert of the comunity and support? I am also pagan tell her i say hi!!




Quoting Bookwormy:

My partner isn't atheist, but is now Pagan. Leaving the Methodist church for her was an act of survival as a lesbian. Still, it was like ripping her insides out, such a loss of community & sense of order & belonging I guess. Seems so sad to me.


Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 9:25 AM
OK, I *guess* you know you best, LOL! You do sound a lil' Pagan. Do you believe in other dieties besides Jesus? If so, that ain't typical Christian! I like to sometimes call myself JudeoPagan or a Jewitch. You can be ChristoPagan if you want!


Quoting parentalrights1:

I could be but I have I don't believe in the bible.



Some think believing in Jesus alone makes you christian but I don't know if I want to be lumped with the same religion as WBC and alot of the bigots anyway..



And I practice tarot which isn't really christian. I believe in psychics and spirit guides and communicating with them.



It's just a big cluster fuck so I am in all kinds of different groups (like pagan, christian, and psychics)



It's too hard to classify me. I find pagans to be really accepting and not pushy though so I hang around those groups more often




Quoting Bookwormy:

If you believe in Jesus, why aren't you an unaffiliated Christian?






Quoting parentalrights1:

Not atheist but no longer identify as christian







I keep up old holiday traditions. Everyone loves the fat chimney dweller and egg shitting rabbit







And I guess it's still sorta appropriate since I believe in Jesus



GLWerth
by Gina on May. 9, 2013 at 9:28 AM

Agnostic here, but I don't miss the hypocrisy that churches engender.

There are rituals that people follow, but in the end, most of them go forth and do the exact opposite of what those red words in the Bible suggest.

Faith is a lovely thing. Religion is an ugly thing to me.

pansyprincess
by Silver Member on May. 9, 2013 at 9:31 AM

I was raised Catholic.  There is nothing I miss.  We still celebrate Christmas and Easter, but with no religious ties to them.  We celebrate the more pagan aspects of them ... the solstice, and rebirth, etc.

I can see people missing the comraderie if you were very active in your church as a child.  We went to CCD, make our communion, confirmation, etc ... but the church didn't define our lives.  My friends happened to go to my church (most people in town did) but we weren't friend BECAUSE of church.  And none of us attended church outside of weekly mass (begrudgingly) and CCD.  Most people were cultural catholics ...

So yeah, I don't miss anything at all.  I have a strong group of friends with kids so my kids have that group of people we see and do stuff with.  I never bought into the faith peace of it anyone . .. so it was no loss.

Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 9:33 AM
After I wrote the line in the OP about all the commercialism with none of the Christ I started thinking about the "war on Christmas". I think it's being perpetrated by Christians who commercialize Christmas & they are making Chanukah difficult for me & mine. If they would just focus on Jesus' birth, my DD wouldn't be so jealous of Christmas, & I could just celebrate a minimalist Chanukah in peace!


Quoting Raintree:

I actually find that certain holidays mean more now.

For example- Christmas was always over-the-top and commercialized IN the church. I've taken a more paganish slant to certain holidays and somehow that makes more sense to me. Also, I have synaesthesia, and I've always had 'the wheel of the year' in my mind- long before I was aware of any pagan principles having to do with that.

I think I miss the community part of it. But I don't really miss that particular community- they were a judgy lot.


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