Is My Cousin Jealous Of Me Or Am I Nuts?
Question: Is this person jealous?
Total Votes: 21
Hi all. Just wanted to get an opinion. I'm not a jealous person at all, so I don't understand the sentiment. I have a cousin who is close to my age, only a few years older.When we were teens she would never let me hang out with her. She wouldn't say "no" she just wouldn't tell me when or where she would hang out or invite me. I guess in my youth I was considered "pretty" and "thin" though I didn't consider myself pretty. (I had a very abusive mother who would constantly tell me otherwise). As a result of the emotional abuse, I'm probably a little insecure. Anyhow my cousin had bad acne and was a little overweight.
As an adult, things have changed a little. My cousin diets an excercises a lot. I think she looks amazing. She's had lots of plastic surgery (which she pretends she hasn't, like no one will notice). She has a very good, high paying job that gives her significant power and allows her to travel alot, she moves from place to place. She is 40 now and is unmarried. She had no boyfriend for many years until recently. She is dating a very nice man. Older, but nice. No kids. Personally I think she has a fabulous life. She buys expensive clothes and makeup, and has a lot of friends.
I in turn, am a stay at home mom with a husband who does well, I have two gorgeous kids, a nice house and a very ho hum existence, but unlike her no exciting job or my own disposable income. I used to run a home business but am no longer doing that. Still, everytime I see her (when I go to her family's home) her mom is basically my second mom, (I spend a lot of time with my aunt while my cousin lives out of the country), its uncomfortable when she is home. She basically ignores me, doesn't talk much about her job, never asks me about my life, doesn't really talk to my kids. I really admire her and respect the work she does but when I ask questions she blows me off. I feel like I'm pulling teeth trying to get her to engage. Last time she came to visit, her house was filled with the flu and when she came to my house to "see the baby" she refused to wash her hands and hung out around my newborn. She basically screamed at me and called me ridiculous for asking her to wash her hands (in my own house).
For Christmas she gave my newborn son a pair of slippers (sized for a 14 year old). She has never sent a single gifts for any of my kids, though I remember her and her family always. I help her mom a lot when she is gone because she suffers from a chronic ailment. When I asked her if she had a boyfriend, just as casual conversation, she replied "YES SEVERAL" in a bitchy way. She does a lot of things like this. And then recently I posted pictures of another cousin on Facebook holding my kids. She didn't hit like, or comment. She just shared the photo captioning it "MY AMAZING BROTHER!" So weird. What is up with this person? Is this jealousy? I just can't imagine anyone being jealous of a stay at home mom who is too busy to shower!! It isn't something to be jealous of imo. But I don't know. And if it does sound like jealousy, how do I handle it? Do I respond with kindness, ignore, or what? This is family, so I will have to see her for the rest of my life unfortunately.