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wages of (anti-gay) hate: in a parent's words

Posted by on May. 23, 2013 at 1:59 AM
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MY DAUGHTER WAS ARRESTED, EXPELLED AND CHARGED WITH A FELONY FOR A SAME-SEX RELATIONSHIP SHE HAD AS A MINOR

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Kaitlyn Hunt with her father Steven Hunt Jr.

On Saturday, February 16, our family's world was torn apart and our daughter's life turned upside down.

The police came and arrested my daughter, put her in handcuffs and no reason was given at all.

They refused to tell her mother anything at first because she had turned 18.

My daughter was ripped out of her mother's arms, hysterical. The police finally told us she was being arrested on “probable cause." When they said sexual battery on a person 12-16 years old, it was clear what was going on.

It had to have been my daughter's girlfriend's parents.

My daughter, Kaitlyn, was in a romantic relationship with a student at her school who was also a teammate on the basketball team.

She is a high school senior living in Indian River County, Florida.

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Kaitlyn on the cheerleading team.

Until halfway through the school year, she was a student at Indian River High School, where she had been a cheerleader, a varsity basketball player and was busy preparing for a career serving others in the nursing field.

Kate was a popular student who was voted as the student with "most school spirit." Kate's girlfriend was a freshman student enrolled in international baccalaureate courses with upperclassmen and a fellow player on the basketball team with Kate.

While Kate was three years older than her girlfriend, they were peers. But when Kate's girlfriend's parents learned of their relationship, they went directly to the police to press charges without sharing their objections with Kate or her family.

The police taped a conversation between Kate and her girlfriend, which led to Kate's arrest. Kate was interrogated extensively without a lawyer present. I am a former police officer, so she trusted the police and didn't feel she had anything to hide. Kate was eventually charged with two counts of felony lewd and lascivious battery on a child 12-16.

The prosecutor later offered a plea deal of felony child abuse, with two years house arrest followed by one year probation. Today, the girls are 18 and 15.

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Kaitlyn at a school dance.

Kate's girlfriend has taken no part in her prosecution and adamantly denies she is a victim, but the law grants her no rights in this matter. Kate has offered to permanently cease contact and leave the state if charges are dropped, but that offer has been rejected by the prosecutor and the girlfriend's parents.

Before the legal trouble began, Kate was already a target at her school.

After the relationship started, the basketball coach approached her and said, "Kaitlyn, can I talk to you? I heard you have something going on with another female player on our team, and I can't have that kind of drama on my team, I don't allow it and I wouldn't ever. So, I'm sorry, but playing on our team won't work out for you."

Yes, that's right, my own daughter was removed from a sport she loves simply because she was in a relationship with another "student."

Now, it didn't stop there. The girl's mother found out about the relationship, and, as several people told me, the girl's mother said that there's no way her daughter could be gay.

Anyone who knows my daughter Kate knows how wonderful she is.

Kate is an 18-year-old senior about to graduate with an exemplary record at school and home. She has always been a wonderful student, respected and well liked. She has cheered on the varsity cheer team all throughout high school, sung in chorus and was voted most school spirited. She has never been in trouble, ever. She truly is the model student and child.

This relationship occurred when they were both minors, and my daughter's girlfriend's parents waited until she turned 18 to arrest her.

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Kaitlyn was voted "most school spirit."

These people never came to us, never tried to speak to us, didn’t try to get the school involved to speak to us and tell us they had a problem with the girls dating, not one single word.

Instead, they set out their vengeance and had Kate arrested on felony charges.

It was Kate's senior year -- she only had a few months until graduation and we wanted her to finish. But the parents petitioned the court and asked the judge to remove Kate from school, even though the judge already ruled Kate could continue school. But this other student's parents feel like my daughter “made” their daughter gay.

My daughter's girlfriend has said from day one, she cares about my daughter, she never wanted her parents to do this, she was 100% consenting and it was by her own choice that she was with my daughter.

She doesn’t want Kate to be punished.

My daughter's life is being destroyed. Kate is deeply depressed, crying all the time and suffering night terrors.

I will do whatever it takes to fight for my daughter.

And I'm finding out that I am not alone.

Internet activist group Anonymous launched #OpJustice4Kaitlyn on May 19 and released a statement addressed to the Indian River County State Attorney's Office that reads in part: "Kaitlyn Hunt is a bright young girl who was involved in a consensual, same-sex relationship while both she and her partner were minors. She has a big future ahead of her and there are people, thousands of people in fact, that have no intention of allowing you to ruin it with your rotten selective enforcement."

How can you help?

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My daughter means the world to me.

First, sign this petition.

Second, if you would like to help with the considerable legal fees, you can purchase a bracelet that says "STOP THE HATE, FREE KATE."

Third, if you're a resident of Florida, please contact your state legislators and tell them the law needs to protect high school peers from prosecution.

Find your state legislators here.

Fourth, share this story!

Share with everyone. If you know a high school student, make sure he or she knows the law.

Please -- let's stop the hate. Free Kate.
by on May. 23, 2013 at 1:59 AM
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Goodwoman614
by Satan on May. 23, 2013 at 2:05 AM
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The parents of the 15 y.o. intentionally waited until Ms. Hunt turned 18, for the purpose of having her arrested and charged as an adult, in the hopes that Ms. Hunt would suffer the most severe legal consequences possible.

They were and are unmoved by the protestations of their own daughter. 


Jack_Squat
by Silver Member on May. 23, 2013 at 2:37 AM
How fucking horrible. :(

I have a male cousin who was prosecuted exactly like this. He had been with his gf for 2 years, been camping with their family AS her bf, and she had stayed over at his house. Her mother and father got divorced, girl didn't want anything to do with dad, dad filed charges on her bf out of revenge. My cousin is now a registered sex offender, and our family had to battle for him to be released from jail early after he was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer.
Goodwoman614
by Satan on May. 23, 2013 at 2:50 AM



Quoting Jack_Squat:

How fucking horrible. :(

I have a male cousin who was prosecuted exactly like this. He had been with his gf for 2 years, been camping with their family AS her bf, and she had stayed over at his house. Her mother and father got divorced, girl didn't want anything to do with dad, dad filed charges on her bf out of revenge. My cousin is now a registered sex offender, and our family had to battle for him to be released from jail early after he was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer.


I am so sorry about your cousin...

MessedUpMama
by Member on May. 23, 2013 at 3:21 AM

I hope that the parents of the girlfriend don't ever find out just how deadly their hate can be.

I knew a girl, a friend of my oldest son, who was a lesbian. Her parents felt the same way these parents seem to feel, but they didn't press charges on her girlfriend, possibly because their daughter was the older one. Anyway, they forced her to stop seeing her girlfriend. They sent her away to school, so that she would be "away from THOSE influences" that had "turned her gay". One evening, they got the call all parents dread. Their beautiful, intelligent, loving daughter had taken 20 sleeping pills and had washed it all down with nearly a fifth of whiskey. She was still alive, in the hospital, but she was brain dead. They kept her alive long enough for her parents to arrive. The police gave them a copy of the suicide letter she left. In it she laid the blame directly on her parents shoulders. "If you can hate the woman I love so much, just because she is a lesbian, I feel I have no expectation that you will not hate me just as much when you finally realize that I'm a lesbian too, and it's not going to change." It read in part.

Goodwoman614
by Satan on May. 23, 2013 at 3:32 AM



Quoting MessedUpMama:

I hope that the parents of the girlfriend don't ever find out just how deadly their hate can be.

I knew a girl, a friend of my oldest son, who was a lesbian. Her parents felt the same way these parents seem to feel, but they didn't press charges on her girlfriend, possibly because their daughter was the older one. Anyway, they forced her to stop seeing her girlfriend. They sent her away to school, so that she would be "away from THOSE influences" that had "turned her gay". One evening, they got the call all parents dread. Their beautiful, intelligent, loving daughter had taken 20 sleeping pills and had washed it all down with nearly a fifth of whiskey. She was still alive, in the hospital, but she was brain dead. They kept her alive long enough for her parents to arrive. The police gave them a copy of the suicide letter she left. In it she laid the blame directly on her parents shoulders. "If you can hate the woman I love so much, just because she is a lesbian, I feel I have no expectation that you will not hate me just as much when you finally realize that I'm a lesbian too, and it's not going to change." It read in part.

Hate. Is so sad. So destructive...

crying


obama._.nation
by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:30 AM
I feel sorrow for what happened to her. Even tho I don't really support homosexual relationships, I never judge nor would I if my kids would go down this road. The only issue I had was age. The moment sue turned 18, she could he charged as a pedophile, if im not mistaking. If I read correctly, she wasn't charged with that, and she should be extremely grateful on that part. Bird the pther parents, what they did was very cruel. I will say that. Their hatred on homosexuals needs to change. It's never ok to hate based on sexuality. Never. Even tho as a Christian, I'm not for it religiously reasons, I'm not against them as a human who has feelings, knows love, hurts the same, bleeds the same. This world is too full of hate
Clairwil
by Ruby Member on May. 23, 2013 at 7:33 AM
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Quoting Goodwoman614:

The parents of the 15 y.o. intentionally waited until Ms. Hunt turned 18, for the purpose of having her arrested and charged as an adult, in the hopes that Ms. Hunt would suffer the most severe legal consequences possible.

They were and are unmoved by the protestations of their own daughter. 

Would the charges or police reaction have been any less severe if it had been the parents of a 15 year old girl complaining about an 18 year old boy having sex with her?

obama._.nation
by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:34 AM
Yes, that is sad. Ppl like that parent is why I fear for our youth and how they live their lives, but parents don't approve. It's sickening. Kids will commit suicide, or turn to drugs, or other ways to deal with their pain.


Quoting Goodwoman614:




Quoting MessedUpMama:

I hope that the parents of the girlfriend don't ever find out just how deadly their hate can be.

I knew a girl, a friend of my oldest son, who was a lesbian. Her parents felt the same way these parents seem to feel, but they didn't press charges on her girlfriend, possibly because their daughter was the older one. Anyway, they forced her to stop seeing her girlfriend. They sent her away to school, so that she would be "away from THOSE influences" that had "turned her gay". One evening, they got the call all parents dread. Their beautiful, intelligent, loving daughter had taken 20 sleeping pills and had washed it all down with nearly a fifth of whiskey. She was still alive, in the hospital, but she was brain dead. They kept her alive long enough for her parents to arrive. The police gave them a copy of the suicide letter she left. In it she laid the blame directly on her parents shoulders. "If you can hate the woman I love so much, just because she is a lesbian, I feel I have no expectation that you will not hate me just as much when you finally realize that I'm a lesbian too, and it's not going to change." It read in part.

Hate. Is so sad. So destructive...

crying




Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on May. 23, 2013 at 7:53 AM
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I will never be OK with this kind of age difference in an adolescent relationship. In TX they needn't have waited until the elder partner turned 18yo to prosecute.

I could care less that they were lesbians. Would y'all be OK with this if your freshman DD were involved with a senior boy? If not, then this isn't OK either.

That said, this may not have been the best way to handle the situation. And I certainly don't approve of prosecuting homophobia. But this adult was having sex with a child, & that is illegal, irrelevant to their genders.
rfurlongg
by on May. 23, 2013 at 8:02 AM
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Taking the story at face value, it is terrible. I wish the judge would use leniency and listen to their peers and the 15yr old.
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