Before I begin, I want to make it very clear this is not in any way a bash post, I am genuinely curious about something.
I don't personally know a lot of lesbians, this is just a story that will have some questions following it. It's just a setup to make the questions more relevant. Okay, so, My friends coworker is a lesbian, always has been without doubt. She has now been with her girlfriend for 3 years. Her girlfriend used to be in a straight marriage and has 3 children. I guess she was friends with this girl the whole time, but they didn't discuss it or pursue any relationship until after she divorced her husband. the girlfriend identifies as a lesbian, and I'm not skeptical as to whether or not she is, it just got me thinking. I have another friend who is a lesbian, and the idea of male genitalia completely freaks her out. She would never have sex with a guy. So my question is mostly targeted towards lesbians with biological children conceived by sex with a male partner. How did the children come about? (obviously some people are bi, but lesbians specifically). Was being in a relationship with a man a cover? or, was it with a man you really loved, just in a different way than you would with a female partner? I just found myself curious about this girls relationship. Like if her girlfriend knew she was lesbian the entire time and didn't want to come to terms with it, or if she didn't start out a lesbian and ended up one? I guess that seemed odd to me because I've always felt your sexual preferences start from day 1. But perhaps a sexual preference could lie dormant? so to speak? or, my other theory is that maybe this girl wasn't a lesbian by identification, but her relationship was so close with her girlfriend that her gender just didn't matter. I am genuinely interested in hearing your stories and would love to learn something new today! Any experiences you have to share are welcome!