The other post (about the alcoholic who caused an accident) got me thinking (scary, I know, lol).
My father was/is an alcoholic. I would classify him as "highly functioning". I've heard from others that there is no such thing as a highly functioning alcoholic.
I know from family, in my adult years, that my father always had a drinking problem. I didn't realize he was an alcoholic until he told me so, well into my teen years. He was an exemplary father, although his marriages were less than stellar. He coached my soccer teams, came to my gym meets, tucked me into bed; was always available to talk, to cuddle, etc. He never drove when he'd been drinking, never drank until after dinner - and only then if we didn't have some place to be (like a soccer game, dinner out, errands, etc). His drinking never, ever interfered with his work and he was always up bright and early to leave for work, never drank while working. Our needs always came before his drinking. He was never violent (I was never even spanked as a child, although my wild child younger sister was).
He did always drink, every night, at some point. Now looking back, I remember him being "goofy" well into the evening, every evening, but it never stopped him from being a fantastic father.
He still drinks.
I'm okay with that.
He's an adult, his choices do not impact those around him (he has made sure of this; he realizes he is addicted to drinking and how to be safe about it; he simply has no desire to change it). I'm sure that these safety nets were sheer dumb luck on some level though, lol.
Others have expressed surprise that I'm "okay" with my father being an alcoholic. That I should be beating down his doors begging him to stop.
So what say you ladies? Is it ever okay to just let an alcoholic "be"?
I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol). Aimee