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Rachel Zoe's Son is Getting Flack For His "Girly" Hair

Posted by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:27 AM
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Rachel Zoe's Son is Getting Flack For His "Girly" Hair

by Sarah Bernard

Uberstylist Rachel Zoe often posts photos of her 2-year-old son Skyler on Instagram. "Talk about bed head! xoRZ" was the caption for this latest shot which showcases his amazing saucer eyes as well as his now trademark fluffy curls.

Pretty undeniably adorable, right?

Well, not to everyone. For reasons I don't quite get this particular snapshot has inspired some pretty hostile comments

From the mild, "STOP MAKING YOUR BOY LOOK LIKE A GIRL" to the downright offensive, "Omfg are you nuts? Cut your kids hair you retard!"

First of all, whatever you think of Rachel Zoe's talent/show/persona/ clothing, why insult a little kid? Second of all, when did the world of little boy hair get so conservative?

It used to be that boys had army-style buzz cuts. Now that only happens in my kids' school if there's a lice outbreak! Pretty much all the boys in grade school have some version of what would be called "long hair" if we were living in the 1950s. From shags to Bieber-esque side swipes to tresses you could easily put up in a ponytail.

Still, there's something about gender-bending hairstyles that gets a reaction from people -- old and young -- even in this day in age.

Last week, a little boy in my daugther's first grade class came to school with the front of his hair pulled into one of those high ponytails a la David Beckham.

The kid was wearing skinny jeans and a t-shirt and, I thought, looked pretty darn cool. Other boys in the class did not agree. He got teased and questioned and teased some more until my daughter -- a fan of ponytails -- told him that she thought he looked great and was "very brave."

What?! Since when is a ponytail brave? These are kids who are being brought up in a world where plenty of their friends have two daddies or two mommies, where many dads stay home and many moms win the bread, where antiquated notions of gender roles seemed firmly, securely in the past. But the hair! The hair is what gets them. 

The next day, quite impressively, the little boy brought the ponytail back. And nobody said anything.

What do you think of little boys with "girly" haircuts?

by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:27 AM
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candlegal
by Judy on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:28 AM
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He does look like a girl.   I guess that is what she wants.

m0m23b0ys458
by Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:36 AM
My youngest son has hair past his shoulders.He has taken a lot of flack for it.He has even cut his hair in a traditional boy cut because of being teased, but has since grown it out again.

That being said, my son's hair is stick straight.If it were as curly as this little guy's hair,I would want him to keep it short.
jessilin0113
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:39 AM
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My middle son's hair is super curly.  If he would have let me comb it without a fight I would have kept it longer.  It didn't get quite this long but he definitely had a luxurious Afro for a while.  

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:41 AM
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What is wrong with a boy looking like a girl? Why does that bother people so much? What does that show about what we as a society think of girls and women if boys in any way look like girls and this is the reaction? What's so wrong with looking like a girl? Why is it so shameful to look like a girl? Girls that look like boys don't get this much flack (they do, but not nearly as much). 

rfurlongg
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:42 AM
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Eh. No harm for him to have long hair. People need to get a life.
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babyblue415
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 8:50 AM

looks like a girl to me

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:02 AM
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I'd have a hard time cutting that hair too! He's adorable! Looking like a girl? Is that a crime now? Something bad about girls, that you don't want to be mistaken for one? I'm sure this TWO YEAR OLD is a perfectly normal toddler and will grow into a perfectly normal human being no matter how long his hair is.

He'll be grabbing his penor and peeing on the toilet seat in no time...then no one will mistake him for a girl.

denise3680
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:07 AM
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He sure is a cutie:) I personally like short hair on boys but not because of any phobias It is just a preference, but to each his own:/
SuperChicken
by on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:09 AM

I would have guessed he was a girl, but so what.   It's often hard to guess girl or boy in toddlers.

Citygirlk
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2013 at 9:12 AM

He looks like Shirley temple. Lol.

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