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The Quiverfull: The evangelical Christians opposed to contraception

Posted by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:35 PM
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The Quiverfull: The evangelical Christians opposed to contraception

Sarah Dawes and her childrenSarah Dawes, of Derbyshire, and her "quiver full" of children

A Christian evangelical movement where followers avoid contraception and have as many children as they can is spreading to the UK. They are The Quiverfull, writes Cat McShane.

"Get married. Have a quiver full of kids if you can."

So said unsuccessful presidential candidate and father-of-five Mitt Romney in a recent speech to graduates. It was a conscious echo of Psalm 127.

The psalm - where children are compared to arrows for war - is the inspiration for the Quiverfull movement.

"Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They shall not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate."

Christians in the movement believe in giving up all forms of contraception and accepting as many children as God gives, both as a sign of obedience to God and in a bid to ensure the future of the faith.

In the US, Quiverfull families frequently reach up to a dozen children with the numbers of adherents in the tens of thousands. But now the movement is gaining popularity in other countries.

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Mitt Romney

Get married, have a quiver full of kids if you can”

Mitt Romney's speech to Southern Virginia University graduates

In the UK, where the average family size is 1.7 children, this makes couples who follow its teachings stand out.

Vicki and Phil have just had their sixth child. "I feel this is the normal [situation] God created and God initially wanted, and that actually society has gone a little skew-whiff," says Vicki, of south London.

Vicki and Phil were both raised as Christians, but came to Quiverfull ideas after they were married. Early on, they used contraception, but after Vicki responded badly to the contraceptive pill, they began merely avoiding sex during Vicki's most fertile time of the month. From there they decided to do without contraception completely.

"Over time, we realised that actually if He [God] wants to conceive a baby during that time, and he made her naturally desire her husband more, maybe that's what he'd prefer us to do," she says.

In common with other Quiverfull families, Vicki had to wait for her husband to come round to her ideas.

"He saw it wasn't such a scary thing to do after all, and that God wouldn't overwhelm us with more than we could handle. One baby at a time arrived, and we were handling it, so we felt our marriage was being blessed by this choice and we continued."

The movement is growing in the UK through informal social networks and the Christian homeschooling community. Doug Philips, a leading American Quiverfull figure, is behind the organisation Vision Forum, a major provider of home education materials.

Vicki and Phil were encouraged by the teachings of Nancy Campbell, a Tennessee-based preacher influential in the movement. Her ministry, Above Rubies, advocates motherhood as a woman's highest calling. Its magazine is distributed to more than 100 countries worldwide, with a circulation topping 160,000.

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Vyckie Garrison and family

Cat McShane's documentary, The Womb as a Weapon, will be broadcast on the BBC World Service on 18 May at 19:32 GMT.

Pictured are Vyckie Garrison and family, before they left Quiverfull.

Vicki found out about the ministry through a blog by a mother and began subscribing to the magazine and attending Campbell's annual retreats. This year's European tour saw Campbell visit six countries in a month, preaching at women-only and also family retreats attended by like-minded couples and their burgeoning broods.

Campbell believes that many women have forgotten their biological, and for her, God-given function. "He created her with a womb. And in fact that's the most distinguishing characteristic of a woman. In the American Webster's 1928 dictionary, it says that woman is combination of two words: womb and man. She is a womb-man."

But there's more to the Quiverfull mindset than a love of big families. It's based on a backlash against the growing acceptance of birth control and feminism within Christianity.

Sarah Dawes, 34, from Derbyshire, has six children. She had worked in an office and a shoe shop before embracing the Quiverfull life. "I always wanted a big family, but when I read Above Rubies it was like drinking when you're thirsty," she says.

Dawes says that her career didn't offer her any comparable fulfilment. "If you look at the children you're filled with so much love for them that even if it's a rough day there's nothing better. You don't get that from a job."

Quiverfull ideology also advocates a return to "traditional" roles in the home, where women are wife and mother first of all. They are their husband's "helpmeet", designed to support him as head of the household and primary breadwinner.

Dawes's husband Damian, who is self-employed, admits the pressures of raising a large family on a single income can be stressful. "They're all great kids, but sometimes it's a bit overwhelming and you think, how am I going to pay?"

He has doubts about continuing to follow Quiverfull teachings on family planning. "I don't want any more at the moment. I'd like to have a break."

Vyckie Garrison and her children after the birth of her youngest childGarrison nearly died after the birth of her last child

One woman who tested her faith in Quiverfull to the limit is Vyckie Garrison, a mother of seven. Once a cornerstone of the Quiverfull movement in the US, she left in 2008. Her website No Longer Quivering is described as a "place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse".

Garrison suffers from a rare bone condition that made pregnancy dangerous. Her husband had a vasectomy after baby number three. But after reading Campbell and other Quiverfull authors, her ideas and the vasectomy were reversed.

Garrison continued to get pregnant against all medical advice, almost dying with the birth of her last - and seventh - child. But for a true believer, dying in childbirth is supposedly a noble act, she says.

"I really believed that I wouldn't die unless God willed that I die, and if he did then I would accept that, because obviously he's the smart one, and has the big picture and knows the whole plan."

There are plenty of critics of the Quiverfull beliefs. Heather Doney, who grew up in a Quiverfull household in the US, says the emphasis on men leading the house is a problem.

Heather Doney as a child - and in 2012Heather Doney - pictured left as a child - grew up in a Quiverfull household

"Absolute power corrupts absolutely. In these situations you're giving the man ultimate power - you're saying the only one that can check his power is God," she says.

Head of the household

Quiverfull families tend to believe in male headship - the principle, also derived from the Bible, that men should lead households.

Feminists are perhaps the fiercest critics of the budding Quiverfull movement.

They accuse it of trying to undo the equality and freedom won for women over decades of struggle, and claim that the idea of automatic male leadership is anachronistic.

But advocates say their approach to family life is both authentically Christian, and the best training for children to take on what he sees as the moral decay afflicting American society.

Within the Quiverfull movement, having larger families is part of a broader plan.

"Mothers determine the destiny of the nation," Campbell says. "We're in a battle for the kingdom of God and the kingdom of darkness. And our children are all part of that battle."

Campbell believes there are specific groups of people with high birth-rates that she is worried will soon outnumber Christians. "We are limiting our children. And then we are allowing other cultures to come into our nation who are having a lot more children than us.

"Gradually, down the line, the culture is going to change, without anyone doing anything except having children, or not having children," she says.

Back in south London, affecting the destiny of the nation was something Vicki could identify with. "I do think I'm raising my children to be future voters, and possibly to be future politicians, the MPs."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22526252

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gdiamante
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:53 PM
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"Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They shall not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate."

There's another name for that quiver full of arrows, from modern warfare: CANNON FODDER.

I've never understood the clinging to that phrase. A hunter or warrior has a quiver full of arrows because he knows he's going to lose most of them. Each individual arrow is therefore of little worth. Do people really believe that of children?

BookGirl419
by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:04 PM
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I could never have that many children. I honestly don't care what they do, just so long as they aren't trying to keep others from doing what they feel is right by trying to ban birth control.
desertlvn
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:05 PM

My DH has family members who are part of the quiverful movement. I'm not a big fan.

Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:18 PM
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It's not so different than ultra-Orthodox Judaism around which i was raised. 8-13 kids, mom running the home, covering her hair & dressing modestly, dad hopefully earning a living or studying Torah, not feminist at all, etc. i haven't seen it portrayed in a reality show yet, but i don't have cable.
mikiemom
by Ruby Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:20 PM
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they are welcome to follow what-ever beliefs they choose. When young girls become of age they should be able to choose for themselves but as long as they are not trying to force the rest of us to live by their religious rules, I don't care what they do.

Arroree
by Ruby Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:21 PM
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I hate how this idea is pressed, these people end up having all these kids that they don't actually want or appreciate, they just keep having them because they're told they're supposed to. 

I'm number 2 of 8 and from my experience all the attention and care is spent on the youngest while the eldest become nothing more than free labor. In the end it isn't fair to any of the children.

BellaByrdie
by Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:36 PM
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I guess I am going to hell then.  I could get pregnant again but it would kill me.  SOOOO is god trying to tell me something Like die bitch die.  hmmmm I don't think so. 

Also why would put that much stress on your husband.  SMH


desertlvn
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:45 PM



Quoting Arroree:

I hate how this idea is pressed, these people end up having all these kids that they don't actually want or appreciate, they just keep having them because they're told they're supposed to. 

I'm number 2 of 8 and from my experience all the attention and care is spent on the youngest while the eldest become nothing more than free labor. In the end it isn't fair to any of the children.

My experience with it hasn't been pleasant either. Lots of noise and chaos, babies crying in playpens for long stretches of time, girls doing household chores while boys literally swing from doors, very little one on one time, eating from paper plates so as to lessen the dishes to be washed..... lots of chaos.


talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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A real feminist wouldn't be insulting or angry with this If that is how a woman wants her life.
But they are really few and far between. Being a woman means acting like these women dictate.
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