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Brides Furious After Receiving Gift Basket for Wedding Gift

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Brides Furious After Receiving Gift Basket for Wedding Gift

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A bride started a war of words after two guests bought her a "cheap and embarrassing" gift consisting of candy in a basket.

Kathy Mason, from Hamilton, Ontario, and her boyfriend, created a food hamper for the same-sex couple. It was full of treats including pasta, olive oil, crutons, biscuits, Marshmallow Fluff and Sour Patch Kids.

A card attached to the basket read, "Enjoy…life is delicious."

But the couple was not impressed by the basket, and contacted Mason the next day via text to ask if they had the receipt. 

Mason was offended by the text, and decided she would make the exchange public through The Hamilton Spectator. She believed the gift was "thoughtful and not out of place."

At one point, the brides revealed that it cost $200 to have Mason and her boyfriend attend their wedding.

They said they booked a lakeside venue with catering that cost a total of $34,000. Because Mason only gave her a gift that cost $30, the bride thought she was being disrespectful.

"You ate steak, chicken, booze at a beautiful venue…if anything you should be embarrassed for being so cheap and embarrassing," she said.

The message exchange has since received many comments, mostly by people who agree with the bride.

One wrote, "As a person who has been invited to numerous weddings [and] a firm believer of the saying 'do unto others,' I am always sensitive when it comes to giving a gift."

"If I knew the couple is spending $100/plate, I make sure to give $250 or more not only to cover my and my fiancees dinner but to give the newlyweds a gift as well. I am getting married in September and would be furious if this happened to me."

Reader Victoria agreed, saying, "I have never received a hamper as a gift, again I'm European and we are bred to be very generous."

"Gift baskets are appropriate for showers, birthdays…etc. But in my culture anything less than a $100 per person monetary gift is insulting. I have Greek, Portuguese and other European friends who wholeheartedly agree."

When the married couple spoke to The Hamilton Spectator, they said their argument was likely sparked by cultural differences.

"I don't know what day or century they're living in," one said. 

Sources: Daily Mail, The Spec


by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 3:58 PM
Replies (31-40):
Sisteract
by Whoopie on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:12 PM

A gift is a gift- STHU.


if you're not money bags, do not have a high end wedding.

Within your means, folks.

JoshRachelsMAMA
by JRM on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:21 PM
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I went to this chick's wedding. She was abused by a previous boyfriend and when she was going through all that, I was there. Took her in and helped her through that ugly relationship. Fast forward, she meets her future husband everything is peachy keen and they decide to get married. She invited me and at the time, I was struggling to make ends meet, having separated from my husband and was with my babies who were just one and two at the time. I couldn't afford a gift, I gave her a card with $50 gift certificate to Macy's, where they were registered.
After her wedding she never spoke to me again. I learned through another person that she said my gift was cheap.

Good riddance to that $&@$.

Quoting DSamuels:No, they wanted CASH, not a gift. Someone else posted this and if you go to the link and read the texts they said they wanted cash.

Apparently it is regional. Almost all the weddings I've gone to have been in the south or Midwest and gifts are acceptable. In the east gifts are for showers, cash for the wedding, with the minimum being about $200. Boggles my mind.


Quoting erika9009:

OMG, I think the bride forgot it's not how much you spend that matters.

Maybe just maybe, the couple could not afford that $200 wine set from Macy's.  It's about sharing the day with the people you care about.  It's not about "what you can get out of it"


kenleespice
by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:27 PM

Then I'm really cheap lol.I don't give gifts at weddings.what does your love life have to do with me giving you a gift.

DSamuels
by Gold Member on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:29 PM
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Yeah, we've gotten gift cards to stores where they were registered before, usually around $50. No way in hell I can afford to put out $200 a wedding, except for my kids. Luckily we don't get invited to many weddings LOL

We got our daughter the table and chairs they wanted from JC Penney. It's now in our basement, since it was for 4 and they are now a family of 5. When we got a new table and chairs, we gave them our old one. I think we bought that set in 1981. The table is in great shape still, chairs - not so much. 

We got our son a nice TV. Of course that was when they were the big-ass ones with the tubes. I don't know if they still have it or not. They's been married 8 years now.

Quoting JoshRachelsMAMA:

I went to this chick's wedding. She was abused by a previous boyfriend and when she was going through all that, I was there. Took her in and helped her through that ugly relationship. Fast forward, she meets her future husband everything is peachy keen and they decide to get married. She invited me and at the time, I was struggling to make ends meet, having separated from my husband and was with my babies who were just one and two at the time. I couldn't afford a gift, I gave her a card with $50 gift certificate to Macy's, where they were registered.
After her wedding she never spoke to me again. I learned through another person that she said my gift was cheap.

Good riddance to that $&@$.

Quoting DSamuels:No, they wanted CASH, not a gift. Someone else posted this and if you go to the link and read the texts they said they wanted cash.

Apparently it is regional. Almost all the weddings I've gone to have been in the south or Midwest and gifts are acceptable. In the east gifts are for showers, cash for the wedding, with the minimum being about $200. Boggles my mind.


Quoting erika9009:

OMG, I think the bride forgot it's not how much you spend that matters.

Maybe just maybe, the couple could not afford that $200 wine set from Macy's.  It's about sharing the day with the people you care about.  It's not about "what you can get out of it"



katy_kay08
by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 7:32 PM
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See it's this type of thing that just pisses me off.  A good person, present in their right mind, would realize that the gift you gave was extremely generous when one steps back and thinks about all that you were going through and possibly sacrifices made to give such a gift.  

When I've thrown parties and even with our wedding, our focus was on having our closest and dearest family there with us to celebrate.  The fact that they came to celebrate with us was always gift enough.  

Quoting JoshRachelsMAMA:

I went to this chick's wedding. She was abused by a previous boyfriend and when she was going through all that, I was there. Took her in and helped her through that ugly relationship. Fast forward, she meets her future husband everything is peachy keen and they decide to get married. She invited me and at the time, I was struggling to make ends meet, having separated from my husband and was with my babies who were just one and two at the time. I couldn't afford a gift, I gave her a card with $50 gift certificate to Macy's, where they were registered.
After her wedding she never spoke to me again. I learned through another person that she said my gift was cheap.

Good riddance to that $&@$.

Quoting DSamuels:No, they wanted CASH, not a gift. Someone else posted this and if you go to the link and read the texts they said they wanted cash.

Apparently it is regional. Almost all the weddings I've gone to have been in the south or Midwest and gifts are acceptable. In the east gifts are for showers, cash for the wedding, with the minimum being about $200. Boggles my mind.


Quoting erika9009:

OMG, I think the bride forgot it's not how much you spend that matters.

Maybe just maybe, the couple could not afford that $200 wine set from Macy's.  It's about sharing the day with the people you care about.  It's not about "what you can get out of it"



JoshRachelsMAMA
by JRM on Jun. 21, 2013 at 11:22 PM
Thank you for understanding.

Quoting katy_kay08:

See it's this type of thing that just pisses me off.  A good person, present in their right mind, would realize that the gift you gave was extremely generous when one steps back and thinks about all that you were going through and possibly sacrifices made to give such a gift.  

When I've thrown parties and even with our wedding, our focus was on having our closest and dearest family there with us to celebrate.  The fact that they came to celebrate with us was always gift enough.  

Quoting JoshRachelsMAMA:

I went to this chick's wedding. She was abused by a previous boyfriend and when she was going through all that, I was there. Took her in and helped her through that ugly relationship. Fast forward, she meets her future husband everything is peachy keen and they decide to get married. She invited me and at the time, I was struggling to make ends meet, having separated from my husband and was with my babies who were just one and two at the time. I couldn't afford a gift, I gave her a card with $50 gift certificate to Macy's, where they were registered.

After her wedding she never spoke to me again. I learned through another person that she said my gift was cheap.



Good riddance to that $&@$.



Quoting DSamuels:No, they wanted CASH, not a gift. Someone else posted this and if you go to the link and read the texts they said they wanted cash.



Apparently it is regional. Almost all the weddings I've gone to have been in the south or Midwest and gifts are acceptable. In the east gifts are for showers, cash for the wedding, with the minimum being about $200. Boggles my mind.





Quoting erika9009:

OMG, I think the bride forgot it's not how much you spend that matters.

Maybe just maybe, the couple could not afford that $200 wine set from Macy's.  It's about sharing the day with the people you care about.  It's not about "what you can get out of it"



Mommabearbergh
by Gold Member on Jun. 21, 2013 at 11:31 PM
I think they should be greatful for any thing they give. Like another has said weddings are about the couple declaring their love. I swear that is a super bitchy thing to do. I got mostly money for a wedding present but I was grateful for items that were given to me
snookyfritz
by Platinum Member on Jun. 21, 2013 at 11:40 PM

A very thoughtful gift.

gdiamante
by Silver Member on Jun. 22, 2013 at 12:49 AM

Here's what Emily Post says about wedding gifts:

How much should I spend?

There is no rule, so it is entirely up to you. Let your affection for the bride and groom and your budget be your guide.  


Out of all the wedding gifts we got back in 1993, there are two that we use on a regular basis, to this day. One is a Revere Ware tea kettle that probably cost about $40. The other was a non stick deep dish pizza pan and slicer.  Expensive doesn't mean useful! And wedding gifts are supposd to help a couple set up their home.
copasetic1
by Member on Jun. 22, 2013 at 12:54 AM

 Wow. Spending that much on a wedding is outrageous. If she wanted a return on her money, she should have invested it. Of course, no investement I know of would give her $250 for every $200 she put into it. She has effectively let everyone know what kind of person she is.

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