As a black woman, I really don’t understand the anger surrounding Paula Dean.
Now from what I understand, correct me if I'm wrong, the anger surrounding PD is a result from an interview/comments she made. As I recall the comments were about her wanting a "traditional southern wedding" for her brother (she wanted all middle -aged black men in white suits and black bow ties) and her admittance of the use of the N word back in the 1980s
What I can't understand is why everyone is so upset. Her wishes for her brother's wedding are common and most of us are guilty of the same in our everyday lives. I also just can't seem to wrap my head around why anyone would be upset with her for something she said damn near 3 decades ago.
It is no different that when we go to a Chinese restaurant and expect to be served and greeted by Oriental people. Though many of us do not want to admit it to ourselves or recognize or subconscious expectations, it is no less true of a fact.
When I see the huge uprising of her comments from 30 years ago I get infuriated. It is nothing but pure hypocritical judgments on the part of her attackers. She was born and raised in the south during its tumultuous racist past. Those feelings were still around and common during the 80s. Her use of the word was negative, but not uncommon nor something she should be held accountable for. Her actions and comments show she is deeply affected by those around her and societal judgments. Her admittance of using the word recently as a result of "blacks saying the word" shows her ignorance, but it also shows the vast amount of confusion surrounding the word in its current urban and slang usage.
This should have been a learning and growing experience, not a shaming one. Her persecution will do nothing but harden her own racist feelings (or just create new ones) and further demote the weight of the feelings of real racial discrimination and torment towards black people.
We have forced people to pick sides. This will come back to bite us in the near future.
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