I'm sure we have discussed this before but lets see if I can somehow understand.
Here are a few scenarios to give you an idea...........
5 year old kiddo and mom show up to a birthday party for a 2 year old.
The very moment they walk on to the property the 5 year old takes a dump truck away from the 2 year old, running off to play with it. The 2 year old stands there, pointing to the truck and saying his version of 'dump truck'. The mom of the 5 year old tells the 2 year old he must share and that her son will give the toy back when he is done with it. No other kids had arrived yet and no other toys were outside at this point, yet.
No kids are allowed in the house the party is at, outside of having to use the restroom. And then the parent should go in the house with them. The house is small and there was no reason for kids to be inside.
5 year old says he must use the restroom. He goes in to the house and another adults asks if he needs to use the restroom. Yes. Off he goes. When he comes out he stops and looks around and instead of heading back outside he goes towards the 2 year old's bedroom. He is stopped by an adult, redirected to head back outside to the party. He tells the adult he wants to play with the toys that are in the bedroom. No, there are some toys outside. The boy tells the adult he WANTS other toys. He is redirected outside, again. He goes up to his mother, crying because he cannot go in the house and play in the bedroom. Mom asks adult why her son cannot go in and play in the bedroom. It was explained, again, that the toys the kids have outside are outside toys and enough for them to play with. No kids in the house, it is small and the party is outside. Mom tells her son they don't want to share with him, he must stay outside.
Time to open presents. All kids want to gather round and watch the birthday boy/girl open presents. Natural. But when a kiddo tries to open the presents for the birthday boy/girl, the parent should stop them. Not tell others it is okay as he is only wanting to see what the present is. Then, as presents are being opened same kiddo takes two of them and runs off to actually open the toys. Mom, once again, tells her son no one is being nice and wants to share with him.
Every one was attempting to be nice with their redirection of the kid and letting the mom know she was wrong.
It came to the point where I had had enough.
Are you that mom? Why would any one be that mom? Help me understand this type of mom. Well, if that is possible. But I am willing to try.