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Are women foolish to love stilettos?

Posted by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 3:06 PM
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Are women foolish to love stilettos?

By Rachel Simmons, Special to CNN

updated 11:16 AM EDT, Thu June 27, 2013

Editor's note: Rachel Simmons is co-founder of Girls Leadership Institute and author of "The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence." Follow her on Twitter: @Racheljsimmons

(CNN) -- I've long been haunted by a chilling statistic from an old study: 54% of women 18 to 25 said they would rather be hit by a truck than be fat.

When I read it, I was aghast. Who, I wondered, were the women who would choose blood and broken bones over some extra body weight?

Turns out they are my friends -- and maybe yours. And, perhaps, a few men (more on that later).

"How fast is the truck going?" my friend Lisa asked. "How fat would I have to be?"

"Does it run over my lower half or upper half?" Naomi mused. "Oh, also," she said, chewing on a Japanese noodle as we chatted over dinner, "you might have to get your jaw wired shut and then you'd definitely lose weight."

But women don't need to wade into traffic to suffer for beauty; these horrific would-you-rather games are closer to reality than we might think.

Many of us endure pain in the service of beauty every single day. We rip off our hair with hot wax, jam our soft skin into modern-day corsets, and burn our scalps with dyes.

We ask doctors to suck out the fat in our thighs, pump Botox into our faces and inflate our breasts with silicon. We smush our feet into unholy angles in skyscraper heels, and as medical professionals have said yet again, those fabulous Louboutins cause everything from muscle strains and ligament tears to stress fractures.

Aren't we beyond this? Haven't we come a long way, baby? You would think that the End of Men might also herald the end of the Brazilian.

Hardly.

According to the American Society for Plastic Surgeons, nearly 15 million cosmetic surgery procedures were done last year, a 5% bump for the industry. Botox and facelifts saw the biggest increases. The founder of Spanx recently became the world's youngest female self-made billionaire, to the tune of $250 million in annual sales.

At a moment when girls and women have never been more empowered, they are in thrall to ever more ruthless standards of beauty. This is likely not a coincidence.

In her 1991 bombshell book, "The Beauty Myth," a young Rhodes Scholar named Naomi Wolf observed that as the women's movement powers up, the beauty industry clamps down on our self-esteem.

Unprecedented billions of marketing dollars have been unleashed to promote beauty as essential to female confidence. Yet beauty is defined in such a way as to be inaccessible to all but an elite few. Still, we buy into it. As our paychecks increase, so does our beauty spending -- and suffering.

Is the price of freedom an actual pound of flesh?

Not just freedom, as it turns out, but success. Beauty pays off -- literally.

Cornell professor Michael Lynn has found that attractive waitresses make better tips.

Daniel Hamermesh, an economist at the University of Texas at Austin, studies pulchronomics, or the economics of beauty.

In his book, "Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful," he reports that attractive women are more likely to land a wealthy spouse, and that attractive American workers will earn $230,000 more in their lifetimes than their less fetching colleagues. Unattractive women are less likely to work at all than their attractive peers, a phenomenon that does not show up in men.

Hamermesh goes so far as to propose legal protection for "ugly" people through an extension of the Americans With Disabilities Act.

By this logic, is the nearly $4,000 a woman will spend on mascara in her lifetime a kind of perverse retirement investment? Apparently we women have to spend money to make money, though perhaps not in the way we anticipated.

Lest the guys think this is yet another unfortunate burden for women to shoulder, think again. Men are showing up in the crosshairs of beauty marketers and under the knives of surgeons.

Last year, fewer women had breast enlargements, but "moobs" -- that's man boobs -- clearly caused an unprecedented amount of anxiety. More than 21,000 breast reductions were performed on men, an increase of 5%. And in Hamermesh's work, men's salaries were docked more for unattractiveness than women's.

My friend Lisa can't stop thinking about getting hit by the truck.

"The thing is," she told me, "if I got run over it wouldn't be my fault, but being fat is something other people can blame me for."

That's precisely what beauty marketers want us to think: If we cripple our feet in heels, buy the Spanx, and go under the knife, hey, at least we tried.

I can't help but wonder who we are trying for, and if the extra cash is worth it. The beauty industry is driving that truck, and it's going to hit us no matter what.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/06/27/opinion/simmons-women-beauty/index.html?hpt=hp_t4

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punky3175
by Punky on Jun. 27, 2013 at 3:08 PM
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 I will not be giving up my heels, my mascara and if I could afford it, I'd be getting my legs waxed (or preferably lasered.) I can't see myself going under the knife for beauty though.

OHgirlinCA
by Platinum Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 3:09 PM

 Interesting...

Citygirlk
by Gold Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 3:09 PM

You how hardit is lose weight? Yes I'd rather be hit by a truck (and live) than be over weight again unless I'm pregnant.

Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:27 PM
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Two men are walking through a forest.  Suddenly, they see a tiger in the distance, running towards them.  They turn and start running away.  But then one of them stops, takes some running shoes from his bag, and starts putting the on.

        "What are you doing?" says the other man.  "Do you think you will run fast than the tiger with those?"

        "I don't have to run faster than the tiger," he says.  "I just have to run faster than you."



Whatever the standard of 'beauty', there will always be women competing to gain an edge over other women.

If all women wore 7 inch heels, there would be the 10% of women determined to jam their feet in to 9 inch heels.

The more types of operation the 'beauty' industry makes possible, the worst it is for women.

Bigmetalchicken
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:29 PM
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Love in general is a foolish thing, really. And if my shoes are wrong, I don't wanna be right.

greenie63
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:33 PM

If I could wear them I would . 2 years ago I broke my ankle 2 years ago and it just hurts too bad :-(

tanyainmizzou
by Platinum Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:36 PM
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You can have my stilettos when you pry them from my cold, dead feet because I tried to kill you.


I got these for my birthday!





muslimah
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:40 PM

 Lol I shouldn't laugh because it's not funny for me it is reality. I just told my husband the other day if I get fat to please put a bullet between my eye balls and I meant it. I refuse to live my life being fat.

Aslen
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:44 PM
YES THEY ARE FOOLISH! But, it's job security. I work for a foot and ankle specialist
viv212
by Gold Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 7:45 PM
Oh gosh I broke my foot last year so I know you're pain. I try to wear heels and I just can't. I wear wedges though and I can walk in those.

Did you get a plate and screws put in you also? I got a plate and 6 screws.


Quoting greenie63:

If I could wear them I would . 2 years ago I broke my ankle 2 years ago and it just hurts too bad :-(

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