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Because Racism still Exists: My Saturday Night

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I also posted this on my facebook page. 

This will be a rambling rant. Read and agree or disagree (or hit some kind of middle). As long as you spell words correctly I don't care how you respond to it. You're free to be an asshole just as I'm free to be an asshole. 

This shit going on down in Florida has cause me to be more angry than usual. Over time I've calmed down and I'm not really the activist I was many years ago. I let that fall to the wayside for my own mental health. 

Letting that activism fall to the wayside for my mental health is part of having white privilege. 

Let me explain: 
On Saturday night I went out with the girl that my family is hosting through this program at UIC. She wants to be a teacher and they are doing all kinds of stuff in this area with children. She's black. Now, my mother picked her because my mother knew without a doubt the other host families would not want her because she's black (all the other host families are white and my mother knows most of them). My mother has her own racist tendencies but she knows how this world works and she didn't want Britney to have a hard time getting placed. 

That racist bullshit aside, I went out with her on Saturday night. Because we wanted to. Britney has been working very hard and I thought we'd have some fun. I said hey, let's go to the Irish Heritage Center for Irish fest. It's a great party. We got there at 9:30 pm and the security (white male) told us that they were closed, they weren't selling anymore tickets. I knew from previous years that the party went at least till 1 am and tickets were sold till at least 10 pm. I asked him why they are closed this year at 9:30 and previous years the party would go till 1 am. He just repeated that they were closed and no longer selling tickets. I got mad and started yelling and that's when Britney pulled on my dress and said "let's just go before you get the cops called." And of course that's when I started in how I'm related to half of those assholes, ugh. Long story short I said FINE! We'll go to Sidekicks. Which we did. 

At Sidekicks, Britney and I sat at the bar and listened to older white men express happiness at Zimmerman getting a "not guilty" verdict. I was half way into a Long Island Ice Tea and ready for a fight but yet again, Britney pulled on me and said "Don't start no shit cause I'm the one who's going to get into trouble." And my drunk ass was like hell no! Then an older white guy, liking my skanky dress, sits next to me and buys me another long island and proceeds to tell me how women have financially ruined America. I stayed calm, I swear. I did. I explained to him how the economic woes of our times is directly related to the repeal of the Glas-Steagal act in 1994 by Clinton which prevented all kinds of bullshit on Walstreet. He looked at me, said I was right (!!!!!) and bought me a shot, and went home to his wife. 

Moving on. Britney called her boyfriend and told him to meet us at Sidekicks. She hasn't seen him in 3 weeks. Her boyfriend Nate and his cousin Scooter arrive (it's about 1 am at this point) and they are denied entry into Sidekicks. The bouncers said they had open containers of alcohol and that's why they couldn't let them in. They had water bottles full of water. 

So, act of injustice number three in the span of three hours, Britney, myself, her bf and his cousin find ourselves in the parking lot of Sidekicks just talking. Mainly about the insanity of the verdict in Florida. The house next to the parking lot lights up, a dog comes out with the owner, next thing we know Sidekicks security is telling us that we are being too loud and the people in the house are threatening to call the cops and we have to go. Keep in your fucking minds that I WAS THE LOUDEST PERSON. Me. Drunk white girl. I was the loud one and I wasn't even that loud. I really wasn't. Ok, maybe a little loud. But not loud enough to be disturbing the sleep of people in a house. So we move on to the Parking lot of Suzies to get some food to feed my drunk ass. 

While waiting in line at Suzies, there were some Polish assholes (they had the polish flag on the rear view mirror) in a car in the drive through. We were at the walk up window. These assholes were in their douchbag car, making rude and sexual gestures at me. They saw me, knew I was with three black people, two of them black males, and tried to pick a fight without getting out of their stupid car. They were betting on me telling my friends what they were doing, knowing they would do something about it. I just sat down at the picnic table and waited for my food. The assholes finally drove off blasting stupid euro tech music. It was then that I told Britney, Nate, and Scooter what those fuck faces were doing (and it was bad people, the gestures we really really bad). Immediately Nate and Scooter were like "why the fuck didn't you say something?!!?" Because I knew they would have retaliated and there would be a fight and they would be the ones to get into trouble with the police. 

I don't really go out a lot but when I do, it's usually with white or Hispanic friends. I experienced some mega crazy racist shit in the span of five hours with my black friends. And they personally experience it every single day of their lives. 

Racism isn't over. People are assholes. White people in particular. We are trained that way through a variety of sources. Our culture itself, our media, our history. 

This shit is beyond Trayvon and what happened to him. This is about racism still being alive and well in America. This is about a justice system that is NOT built to protect them, it was never meant to protect them. 

We are fucked up and I am angry and damnit, for my mental health, I have to do something about it. Starting with writing a letter to the people who run the Irish Heritage Center. 

End of rant. Carry on. Don't be a fucking tool.

by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 4:46 PM
Replies (151-160):
SherryBerry106
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:24 AM

 

I suspect that was it.

Not sure how that came up, but if the desire was to better the world, because mixed race kids are better than non-mixed, then that is horribly racist in itself.

Quoting LoveMyBoyK:

What makes you think there was no other reason (like love, maternal instinct, and/or a desire to better the world) for her to marry a black man and have children with him?


Quoting SherryBerry106:

 


Please clarify the question.


Quoting LoveMyBoyK:

What makes you think that?



Quoting SherryBerry106:


 



Her judgement is in question because she did this in spite of her everyday rantings on how racist the country is, no other reason.



Quoting LoveMyBoyK:

*blink*

Her judgement is in question for falling in love with someone whose skin tone doesn't match hers? Your post made no sense.




Quoting SherryBerry106:



 




This is confirmation on your bad judgment.




Daily you are on the site railing about how racist the country and our people are, yet you seek out a black man to procreate children with.




Now you feel like locking them away, although it was not there fault, that you used this bad judgment.




Sad.




Quoting sweet-a-kins:

It is certainly harder watching it through the eyes of your children....there have been a few occasions where I have felt locking them away was the best option

Great reply , thanks for sharing





Quoting RandRMomma:

Most cannot imagine the shit I've experienced in my lifetime. Then, when people find out I'm biracial, all hell breaks loose. Sometimes, I have to remind myself that all white people aren't racist assholes because my Irish Italian family is full of wonderful people that would kill for me. (There are some wonderful ladies on CM too. You know who you are!) I've had white people get pissy with me for claiming me my Irish and Italian heritage. They say "you only have that because your ancestors were slaves." So, I show them a picture of my egg donor and they shut their mouths.



This country needs to wake up. Part of the reason that I would NEVER fight for this country is because of the ever so prevalent racial injustice colored minorities, particularly blacks, endure. People are so blind. They think things have changed because of the Civil Rights Act. The shit I see people say and do makes me want to lock my family away and never come out again. But, I can't be a coward like that. I'm most upset with myself for bringing children into this vile and nasty world that has only gotten worse.



I share your pain. I wish more would understand.



 




 




 



 



 


 



 

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 11:14 AM

I'm mainly aiming that at Sherryberry for all this racist nonsense she's spewing. I poke trolls. Can't help myself. She's blaming the shit Sweet's kids go through on her choice to have bi racial children instead of on fucked up white people. That's all kinds of insane. 

Quoting LoveMyBoyK:
White people are are not bad. Comments like "worse than we already are" feed negativity and promote further racial division.
Quoting mehamil1:

Why are people like you treating her kids like shit because they are bi racial? 

She fell in love with a black man and had kids with him. I donated my eggs to a black woman and the sperm donor was a black man. That child is bi racial. 

Seriously, get over yourself. You are making white people look worse than we already are. 

Quoting SherryBerry106

Not people like me at all.

Why would she intentionally subject her kids to that?

Quoting mehamil1:

Well, it's true. And now her children are suffering because of people like you. 

Quoting SherryBerry106:

Her judgement is in question because she did this in spite of her everyday rantings on how racist the country is, no other reason.

Quoting LoveMyBoyK:
*blink*

Her judgement is in question for falling in love with someone whose skin tone doesn't match hers? Your post made no sense.
Quoting SherryBerry106:

This is confirmation on your bad judgment.

Daily you are on the site railing about how racist the country and our people are, yet you seek out a black man to procreate children with.

Now you feel like locking them away, although it was not there fault, that you used this bad judgment.

Sad.

Quoting sweet-a-kins:
It is certainly harder watching it through the eyes of your children....there have been a few occasions where I have felt locking them away was the best option

Great reply , thanks for sharing 
SandyLaxner
by Bronze Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 12:21 PM

I'm not white I'm pinkish,really.  And a little piece of my heart died when I was called one of the biggest racist on these boards.

Looking4Truth
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 2:31 PM

 Oh, I can tell you always "has."  haha  Oh, I won't repeate what my hubby has to say about you.  It wouldn't be nice.

Quoting RandRMomma:

You told your husband bout me? How completely awesome of you. ~

Just calling it like it is.

Says the woman that spews unintelligent worthless drivel, and believes that Obama is a Muslim born Kenyan. LOL! Okay then. I love the hypocrisy.

That's not what I love to do at all. Deflect, fuck, and dodge the issues at hand. That's what people like you like to do. If my wanting to dive in, and discuss the issues at had is seen as immature by you, then so be it. I has always been an ace when it comes to communication.


Quoting Looking4Truth:

 If you actually ever paid attention to my posts, I stated quite emphatically, and more than once, that my grandchildren experienced a great deal of racism when they lived in Idaho.   As a matter of fact, I posted a story about something that happened to my oldest grandson when all he was doing was walking to his younger brother's school to pick him up.  The police were called, he got handcuffed, and well, it's not worth repeating to the likes of you who happens to be so set in your own opinion that everyone is a racist, it's pretty much the only thing that ever comes out of your mouth.  As far as my daughter and her husband calling their boys, "Bi-colored," the fact that you assume it's racist doesn't surprise me in the slightest.  In fact, it proves the statement I made just before this one.  Oh, and thank you very much for saying this, because I told my husband that I bet it wouldn't even take you an hour to spew forth your favorite word.....racist.  hahaha  Now, whether or not you believe me about my grandchildren, is so far down on my list of things that matter, oh wait!  It isn't even ON my list!  RandRMomma, when will you learn that your opinions to me are nothing more than unintelligent, worthless, drivel.  I think you're the type of woman who just loves to argue, just so you can insult anyone and everyone who happens to disagree with you.   Frankly, you bore me, but you do make me realize why I was so happy to get out of junior high school.  Now you can sit there and stew on what I've said for a few seconds, and then let your insults and racist accusations fly.  I however won't be here to listen to you, so please feel free to have at it to your heart's content.  I'm sure you'll enjoy yourself.  You've demonstrated rather convincingly that this is what you love to do.  So have fun RandRMomma!!


 


Quoting RandRMomma:

"Bi-colored?" Are you serious. That term sounds extremely racist.

I don't believe that your family is mixed, let alone that your allegedly mixed grandchildren have NEVER experienced racism in America. Please.



Quoting Looking4Truth:


 I'm starting to wonder where a lot of you live!  My grandchildren are black and they hang around with a large group of kids made up of blacks, whites, hispanics and a couple of oriental kids.  There is no racist hatred going on.  I've never even seen one incident of that ever since they moved away from Idaho.  Idaho, in my opinion, is the most racist state in this country.  My daughter and her family did have to deal with racism there, many times unfortunately, but once they moved to So. California, nothing like that has happened, not even once.  All the kids that my grandsons hang out with don't have a single problem with racism, and they are definitely a mixed lot of teenage boys.   My daughter and her family also never use the term "biracial" when they refer to my grandsons.  They say that the boys are "Bi-colored."  Their opinion is that the term "biracial" is inaccurate because they are not a mix of two different races, since everyone is of the same human race.  They are just a mix of two different colors!  Anyway, they aren't having any racially based experiences anymore and I am extremely relieved.  Racism does still exist in the world, but it is not everywhere and it is not nearly as bad as it used to be in the past.  I should know.....I lived there...in the past.  Now I just dated myself.


 

 

LuvmyAiden
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 2:42 PM

Racism exists all over the planet. Less so in countries with less diversity for obvious reasons. Hell in Europe you can be snubbed and told to do business elsewhere for the wrong accent even though you are the same color as the person snubbing you. I hate it when people act like this shit ONLY happens in the US. It happens everywhere, in fact it is much worse in many countries. I get that it sucks and it would be a much better world if people looked at one another and just saw PEOPLE instead of race or religion or gender. Unfortunately we don't live in utopia. There will always be racist asshats(of ALL colors), we just have to rise above and try to be the change we want to see.

jcribb16
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:17 PM

Good point.  That's what being responsible and accountable is all about. I wonder how her friends would feel if they even suspected this was true...

Quoting 12hellokitty:

IMO it's a little racist of you to assume the events where because of the skin color of your friends and not your behavior.
Quoting mehamil1:

I have been to the IAHC many many many times in much skankier clothing. I have been there later than that to that same festival. Never have I ever been denied entry. 

Also, I've made more noise in a parking lot of a bar and not gotten kicked out. 

My behavior had nothing to do with shit that happened. It had everything to do with the fact that I was with black people. if I hadn't been, none of this would have happened because I've done ALL of this before (and more) in the past with white people and hispanic people and non of this shit happened. 

This was racist bullshit. All of it. I'm pointing it out and you don't like it. 

Quoting yourspecialkid:

 So you went out around 9:30 pm in a skanky dress, pitched a fit, got drunk pitched some more and it is somehow everyone else's fault.  Okay.  I hope you feel better now.



autodidact
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:28 PM
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you missed this part of the OP:


Don't be a fucking tool.

Quoting yourspecialkid:

 So you went out around 9:30 pm in a skanky dress, pitched a fit, got drunk pitched some more and it is somehow everyone else's fault.  Okay.  I hope you feel better now.

 



Autodidact, Unrepentant Heathen

autodidact
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:36 PM


yeah, you WOULD class this as "nice" 

Quoting candlegal:

You responded to that in a much nicer way than it deserved.   Kudos to you.

Quoting yourspecialkid:

 So you went out around 9:30 pm in a skanky dress, pitched a fit, got drunk pitched some more and it is somehow everyone else's fault.  Okay.  I hope you feel better now.

 




Autodidact, Unrepentant Heathen

autodidact
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 5:38 PM


it's NOT a good point. 

the OP has gotten into the Irish festival before, she was barred in this instance. 

she got into the bar, but her black friends who were NOT with her at the door, were denied entrance. 

Quoting jcribb16:

Good point.  That's what being responsible and accountable is all about. I wonder how her friends would feel if they even suspected this was true...

Quoting 12hellokitty:

IMO it's a little racist of you to assume the events where because of the skin color of your friends and not your behavior.
Quoting mehamil1:

I have been to the IAHC many many many times in much skankier clothing. I have been there later than that to that same festival. Never have I ever been denied entry. 

Also, I've made more noise in a parking lot of a bar and not gotten kicked out. 

My behavior had nothing to do with shit that happened. It had everything to do with the fact that I was with black people. if I hadn't been, none of this would have happened because I've done ALL of this before (and more) in the past with white people and hispanic people and non of this shit happened. 

This was racist bullshit. All of it. I'm pointing it out and you don't like it. 

Quoting yourspecialkid:

 So you went out around 9:30 pm in a skanky dress, pitched a fit, got drunk pitched some more and it is somehow everyone else's fault.  Okay.  I hope you feel better now.





Autodidact, Unrepentant Heathen

jcribb16
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:00 PM
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I also see where she said why they weren't allowed entrance.  We weren't there to know exactly what was in those bottles.  I honestly do not know whether to believe her or not - she had already been causing problems (when Britney asked her not to.)  

I'm not getting the full story of where Britney is even from, either. She's with a "host" family, staying with Mehamil's mom, and then Mehamil continued to cut down all of the other white moms for being racist, so she, even though some racist, figures she could do the hosting (I feel is partially exaggeration.)  If Britney is from the same area, why would she need a host family?  Or if she's from another state or country, then how long has she been there, and when did this "bf" and his cousin enter the picture?  How long is this program is another question, related to her already having a "bf."

There are too many questions about that night that would need to be clarified before knowing just what exactly happened, who was to blame, and whether or not the whole situation carried on because of Mehamil's conduct in public, or because of her "black friends," etc.

I frankly feel, in my opinion, that she's blaming her "black friends" as being unfairly cut down racially, rather than being accountable and responsible for her own actions and attitude.  Like I said, this is my opinion, only based on what I've said above.  

Honestly, I saw nothing at first, attitude or otherwise, coming from Britney.  It seems Britney was more concerned about keeping this poster calmed down in public, for fear of being embarassed by her actions and loud behavior, than being concerned of being treated racially wrong.  Reminder - this is just my own personal opinion.

Quoting autodidact:


it's NOT a good point. 

the OP has gotten into the Irish festival before, she was barred in this instance. 

she got into the bar, but her black friends who were NOT with her at the door, were denied entrance. 

Quoting jcribb16:

Good point.  That's what being responsible and accountable is all about. I wonder how her friends would feel if they even suspected this was true...

Quoting 12hellokitty:

IMO it's a little racist of you to assume the events where because of the skin color of your friends and not your behavior.
Quoting mehamil1:

I have been to the IAHC many many many times in much skankier clothing. I have been there later than that to that same festival. Never have I ever been denied entry. 

Also, I've made more noise in a parking lot of a bar and not gotten kicked out. 

My behavior had nothing to do with shit that happened. It had everything to do with the fact that I was with black people. if I hadn't been, none of this would have happened because I've done ALL of this before (and more) in the past with white people and hispanic people and non of this shit happened. 

This was racist bullshit. All of it. I'm pointing it out and you don't like it. 

Quoting yourspecialkid:

 So you went out around 9:30 pm in a skanky dress, pitched a fit, got drunk pitched some more and it is somehow everyone else's fault.  Okay.  I hope you feel better now.






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