Huma Abedin's Decision to Stand by Her Sexting Sleazeball of a Husband Is Bad for All Women (VIDEO)
Anthony Weiner could have had it all if only he could manage to keep his sexting habits (and his penis photos) to himself. Yesterday, it came out that Weiner, who is currently the front runner in the race for Mayor of New York, actually was still sexting last summer -- over a year AFTER the sexting scandal that forced him to leave congress. What the hell is wrong with this man?
A better question: What the hell is wrong with his wife? The press conference yesterday was miserable and uncomfortable with beautiful Huma Abedin looking humiliated, sad, and like she wanted to shrink back behind one of the cubicles and hide her face. But she didn't. Instead, she channeled Tammy Wynette and stood by her man.
Why? Why do all these political wives do this? I am sure Abedin -- a super star in her own right -- has her reasons. But I can't fathom what they might be. See below:
Our marriage, like many others has had its ups and its downs. It took a lot of work and whole lot of therapy to get to a place where I could forgive Anthony. It was not an easy choice in any way, but I made the decision that it was worth staying in this marriage. That was a decision I made for me, for our son, and for our family. [This is] between us and our marriage...we discussed all this before Anthony decided he would run for mayor. I love him, I have forgiven him, I believe in him and, as we have said since the beginning, we are moving forward.
The two share an 18-month-old son, which may be part of why she is sticking around. But the more cynical side of me wonders if this is just a political move. Abedin probably expected her congressman husband to do great things when she married him in July of 2010. Instead, all he has done (pretty much) is humiliate her. How can a marriage go through ups and downs when it has pretty much been in turmoil 2/3 of the time?
They were practically newlyweds when this story broke. It's just sexist. Plain and simple. Watching Hilary Clinton do this same thing all those years ago was sickening. Now Abedin is copying her boss. Of course, it is not just them. Many political wives choose to stick it out despite massive shame and public embarrassment. A few leave. But Abedin's decision to stay is anything but "personal."
It's sexist. It's wrong. And it sends a horrible message to women everywhere, some of whom have powerful husbands, many of whom do not. Political media strategist Adam Weiss said:
They are that power-hungry that she stands there and she accepts the absolute disgracefulness of serial cheating from her husband. Huma comes from the Clinton school of forgiveness — power is more important than dignity.
But is it? What message does that send to our girls? Abedin stands to lose her power (after all, when even the New York Times is telling you to quit, the fight is over) AND her dignity.
Sorry, Abedin, but that is not personal. If you choose to stand by your man privately, by all means shrink away from the public eye and do so. But this decision is very public and thus allowed public scrutiny and I am angry that it sends a horrible message to daughters everywhere. It's fine if your husband treats you horribly and humiliates you so long as he is on his way to power.
Do you think Huma Abedin did the right thing here?