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Do you agree these are the reasons people are not successful?

Posted by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 9:55 PM
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#1 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Laziness

I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?
 

#2 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Entitlement

Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want. Quit thinking you are owed something. You’re not. Get to work.
 

#3 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Fear

You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though... what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?
 

#4 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Negativity

You may not realize it, but the people you associate with might be negative [orifices]. They could be soul-sucking beings who don’t want anyone to be successful. Get rid of them, now! Surround yourself with successful people. People you want to be like.
 

#5 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Stop Thinking

How much do you want to bet you have paralysis by analysis? You think way too much about what you could or should do. Doers get what they want, and everyone else gets what they get. Stop analyzing and start doing.
 

#6 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No Goals

You plan nothing. You believe that someway, somehow, everything you always wanted will just magically happen. So you “play it by ear” and wait. You need goals to shoot for. Otherwise, you’re just treading water.
 

#7 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – “They”

There’s no “they”. There’s no secret group of people that controls your success or failure. You’ve made that up to make you feel better about yourself. The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything. It’s easy to blame “them” though, isn’t it? Weak.
 

#8 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No “X” Factor

You can’t do it because you’re not pretty enough. Or don’t have a strong personality? You don’t have the “X” factor? Wow, what an unbelievably lame excuse. The truth is even jerks, idiots and boring people can be just as successful as anyone else. Your problem is you don’t believe it yet.
 

#9 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Time Waste

You’re a classic time-waster. You spend hours and hours every day working on not-working. You do things that aren’t productive. How are you ever going to get anything done, or reach any goal if you keep wasting time? You’re not. So you might as well give up now if you’re going to keep this path.
 

#10 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Social B.S.

You spend way too much time in social media land.  You waste probably about 50% of your productive hours of the day doing this. The sad part is, you know it, but you can’t stop. So you can’t get anything done that matters.
 

#11 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Think Small

You think way too small. You are constantly looking only a day or a week ahead instead of years ahead. Because of this, you never get anywhere, and you never lead; you always follow.
 

#12 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Want It

You don’t really want to be successful. Sure, you like to dream about it like everyone else. But in your heart you are afraid of what might happen if you really get it. That’s B.S. fear your brain is feeding you. Success is change, and it feels really, really good. Tell your brain to shut the [foolishness] up.

#13 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Believe

You never believed that it’s possible. Society taught you that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Everyone else should just settle. If you really want to believe that, go ahead. The rest of us will be at the front of the line because we believe.



ETA and food for thought: The only measure of success that matters is your own.

2nd ETA: These 13 reasons are a collabrative of self reflections of why people believe they are not as successful as they want to be.

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Suzy_Sunshine
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 9:58 PM
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those are some of the reasons

GotSomeKids
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 9:59 PM

some, but not all.

daniamng
by New Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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I agree.
MrsSamMerlotte
by Bronze Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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stormcris
by Christy on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:00 PM

What else do you see as reasons?

Quoting Suzy_Sunshine:

those are some of the reasons


stormcris
by Christy on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:01 PM

What else do you see as reasons?

Quoting GotSomeKids:

some, but not all.


lga1965
by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:02 PM
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 All good points!

I know #3 and #5 were two of my biggest problems .

FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:02 PM
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I can certainly see some truth in each one.

But I cannot, nor will I, say each one defines the basis for every one.

Generalizing, meaning, including every one in to one, or two, categories without knowing their situation, in depth,  is not wise.


Suzy_Sunshine
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:04 PM
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lack of preparation

mental illness

substance abuse

low intelligence

poor work ethic

etc...

Quoting stormcris:

What else do you see as reasons?

Quoting Suzy_Sunshine:

those are some of the reasons



teri4lance
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 10:05 PM

it's pretty good general advice.

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