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FYI (if you're a teenage girl)

Posted by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 9:55 PM
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FYI (if you’re a teenage girl)

 

Dear girls,

I have some information that might interest you. Last night, as we sometimes do, our family sat around the dining-room table and looked through your social media photos.

We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow – you sure took a bunch of selfies in your pajamas this summer!  Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.

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I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.

I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.  What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.

So, here’s the bit that I think is important for you to realize.  If you are friends with a Hall boy on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, then you are friends with the whole Hall family.

Please understand this, also: we genuinely like keeping up with you. We enjoy seeing life through your unique and colorful lens – which is what makes your latest self-portrait so extremely unfortunate.

Those posts don’t reflect who you are! We think you are lovely and interesting, and usually very smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what you were trying to do? Who are you trying to reach? What are you trying to say?

And now – big bummer – we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know your parents care about you.

I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it?  You don’t want the Hall boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?

Neither do we.

And so, in our house, there are no second chances, ladies. If you want to stay friendly with the Hall men, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent.  If you try to post a sexy selfie, or an inappropriate YouTube video – even once – you’ll be booted off our on-line island.

I know that sounds harsh and old-school, but that’s just the way it is under this roof for a while. We hope to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity don’t linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls.

Every day I pray for the women my boys will love.  I hope they will be drawn to real beauties, the kind of women who will leave them better people in the end. I also pray that my sons will be worthy of this kind of woman, that they will be patient – and act honorably – while they wait for her.

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Girls, it’s not too late! If you think you’ve made an on-line mistake (we all do – don’t fret – I’ve made some doozies), RUN to your accounts and take down  anything that makes it easy for your male friends to imagine you naked in your bedroom.

Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy.

You are growing into a real beauty, inside and out.

Act like her, speak like her, post like her.

I’m glad we’re friends.

Mrs. Hall

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Link is HERE.

What do you think of this?  

by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 9:55 PM
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lga1965
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:00 PM

 I think that is great! Good !

Its.me.Sam.
by Gold Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:10 PM
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hmmmmm... sounds a little judgemental.. and kind of like SHE is oversexualizing them...as if a bikini pic = bad kid unworthy of her sons.
i have a grown daughter..and i have a son nearing 10.. this is not what how i would address this topic with my son, and i DID always advise my daughter that those pic stay online forever and that she needs to understand what she is representing.  but yeah..  a couple of pics dont mean a girl has no character.. and teaching your son that a girl who may pose a little on the sexy side has less character than one that doesnt may give him the idea that girls who do pose sexy are less than or somehow immoral and thats just not good for women... we all know what happens when you start with that crap.  
i did like how she said she hopes her sons will be worthy of a good woman.  but a good woman can also come in the form of a young girl who took some not so modest pics of herself in her younger years as she was discovering herself and her sexuality.
 

AlekD
by Gold Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:14 PM

Sounds reasonable to me. 

stringtheory
by Gold Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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Agree, and this also stood out to me:
"We hope to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity don’t linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls"

As though their dear sons could not be responsible for lingering on these pictures if they remain unblocked. Or that the boys aren't capable of deciding to block these girls themselves if they don't like the pictures? Its putting all the responsibility of controlling Men's lust on the woman... As usual.


Quoting Its.me.Sam.:

hmmmmm... sounds a little judgemental.. and kind of like SHE is oversexualizing them...as if a bikini pic = bad kid unworthy of her sons.
i have a grown daughter..and i have a son nearing 10.. this is not what how i would address this topic with my son, and i DID always advise my daughter that those pic stay online forever and that she needs to understand what she is representing.  but yeah..  a couple of pics dont mean a girl has no character.. and teaching your son that a girl who may pose a little on the sexy side has less character than one that doesnt may give him the idea that girls who do pose sexy are less than or somehow immoral and thats just not good for women... we all know what happens when you start with that crap.  
i did like how she said she hopes her sons will be worthy of a good woman.  but a good woman can also come in the form of a young girl who took some not so modest pics of herself in her younger years as she was discovering herself and her sexuality.
 

stacymomof2
by Ruby Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:33 PM
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Meh. Over the top. Is that her boys shirtless on the beach? Hmmmmm.

I think she may not be teaching the lessons she thinks she is teaching.
Its.me.Sam.
by Gold Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:36 PM
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hahaha good point..he IS "scantily clad" hahahaha
plus.. is it just me or is it weird that her whole family sits around the dining table and looks through girls social media photos.  i have this weird image of her and her husband and her boys gathered around while she pulled up young girls photos and proclaimed "see this... posting a pic of herself in a bikini!.. what a tramp" "this is a whore. see there she has a crop top on and shorts that are shorter than mid thigh" "look boys..see here another slut in here skirt booty tooching" "low class trash right here in her push up bra" "boys boys boys these are bad bad girls and you should just never ever associate with them"  hahahaha

Quoting stacymomof2:

Meh. Over the top. Is that her boys shirtless on the beach? Hmmmmm.

I think she may not be teaching the lessons she thinks she is teaching.



parentalrights1
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:42 PM
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Blah blah blah

Girls with sexuality are dirty whores with no integrity or value blah blah

Sluts are responsible for our boys blah blah

I'm a shitty future mother in law blah blah
RandRMomma
by Maya on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:42 PM
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I don't think she's being reasonable. She's very judgmental, IMO. Doing stupid things as a teenager doesn't mean that those girls would be "unworthy" of her boys' love and affection when they're older.
sstripedmonkey
by Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 11:02 PM
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It seems a little over the top but I get it, if I caught my daughter posting some pictures like that there would be hell to pay.
leakymommy2
by Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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I like it.
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