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I Support Gay Rights because I am Catholic

Posted by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 4:31 AM
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I support gay rights because I am Catholic

I support gay rights because I am Catholic, not in spite of it.

I grew up Catholic. Catholicism was early morning and late night masses, hot cross buns on Good Friday, wearing a pretty white dress for my first Communion, confused friends who wanted to know if I worshipped Mary. It was glowing candles on the dinner table during December, and palms folded into crosses in April. It was simple, and it was good. I believed it then, and I believed it now.

But it is not as simple now as it was then. Now I realize being Catholic isn’t defined by whether or not you attend Fish Fridays, but is a complex world of the orthodox and the not-so-orthodox. I am not an orthodox Catholic (used in the sense of one who follows every belief to the letter, not in the sense of the church that became identified as such during the Great Schism). And there is a reason that we have that term “orthodox” or “traditional” (the term my husband’s uncle, a religious, used instead of our term which I believe was “crazy conservatives” at brunch last week). Because despite Catholicism’s call for us to adhere to one set of beliefs, we do recognize, at least popularly, that there is a myriad of beliefs, experiences, and practices that create Catholicism. All this to say, my beliefs here do not reflect the beliefs of the Catholic Church, which opposes the legalization of gay marriage.

But I believe in it, and other gay rights, because I’m Catholic, not in spite of it.

You see, if the Church had wanted to turn me off of supporting the marginalized in our society, it should not have read the Sermon on the Mount to me each year. It should have silenced Jesus’ cry of blessings on the poor in spirit, the persecuted, the meek, the peacemakers, and those who thirst for righteousness.

The Church should not have taught me of the love God has for all of his people. It should have taught me instead that Jesus only came for those who were rich, who were white, who were straight, who were male, who were powerful, who were orthodox.

If the Church wanted me to oppose gay marriage, it should not have taught me that scripture is historical and contextual. It should have taught me instead that it is always literal, but it did not. It should not have taught me that God is love. It should not have taught me about the dignity of the human person, that everyone deserves a place to live, a place to work, a place to eat without being discriminated against.

It should not have taught me about the beauty of marriage. How the love between two people mirrors the love of God and his people. It should not have instilled me with the morals of faithfulness, commitment, and love if it had wanted me to discourage those practices in others.

The Church taught me instead about personal conscience (Catechism) and that “A human being must always obey the certain judgment of his conscience. If he were deliberately to act against it, he would condemn himself” (1790). It taught me that the conscience is inscribed on our hearts by God.

The Catholic Church taught me not to judge. And not in some trite “love the sinner but hate the sin” (but secretly hate the sinner too because that’s just easier) way, but in a deep, true way.  It taught me to look inwardly to my own faults, not outwardly to the faults of others.

It taught me to fight for the rights of the least among us. It reminded me that those whom society deemed okay to hate, we were required to love.

Of course, some will say that I am a shining example of the fallen American laity. They will remind me that the Church does not conform to the whims of modern society, and instead follows the teachings of Christ.

To which, I would respond that I agree. The Church is bigger than simple societal whims of oppression, of hate, of bigotry, of fear. I would say that the Catholic Church, at its core, preaches love and acceptance, hope and grace. If it wants me to adhere to another belief set, one of prejudice and marginalization, it should have taught me something else.

I support gay rights because I am Catholic. Not because I do not understand the teachings of the church, or because I simply choose not to follow them out of convenience sake, but because I do believe them, because I do follow them. And it’s not just me. A study  in 2011 showed that Catholics are more in favor of same sex marriage than any other religious group, and more than Americans as a whole.

If the Catholic Church wanted me to oppose gay rights, it shouldn’t have told me what Christ taught.

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SilverSterling
by MrsSilverusSnape on Sep. 5, 2013 at 6:16 AM

Thank you for posting this..Intresting I must say..

SuperChicken
by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 6:21 AM
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I love this.   

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 6:30 AM
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Thank you for posting this.  It is not a secret that I have been struggling with being Catholic for a long time now.  This is how I thought for years. Most Catholics I know use birth control, support same sex marriage and many I know are Prochoice.

My problem is I can no longer see it the way this writer feels. I used to make peace with Catholicism by remembering and practicing what I felt was good about the church. For me, the good no longer outweighs the bad I feel.

Anna92464
by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 6:34 AM
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*HUGS* 

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

Thank you for posting this.  It is not a secret that I have been struggling with being Catholic for a long time now.  This is how I thought for years. Most Catholics I know use birth control, support same sex marriage and many I know are Prochoice.

My problem is I can no longer see it the way this writer feels. I used to make peace with Catholicism by remembering and practicing what I felt was good about the church. For me, the good no longer outweighs the bad I feel.



lilmoosesmom
by Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:03 AM
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My brother's boyfriend and his parents are Catholic. It's a struggle for them some times, but mostly they are very supportive of him now. They also adore my brother. I can't remember where they teach though.
billsfan1104
by Jules on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:29 AM
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I think it's a big misconception that Catholics are hateful towards gays. The church is against the Homosexual act in itself, but not against the person. They are suppose to live a chastise(I hope this is the right word) and not do the actual act. But the church also preaches that we are not to judge, harm, damn anyone to hell, or hate them.
. I know many gay activist think that being against gay marriage is hateful, and that's where I disagree.
I love my church and I will defend her. But I think that the author of this article, gets most of it right, but some of it wrong.

candlegal
by Judy on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:36 AM
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Here you go.


2357   Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex.  It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures.  Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained.  Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts  as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered".  They are contrary to the natural law.  They close the sexual act to the gift of life.  They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity.  Under no circumstances can they be approved.

2358  The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible.  They do not choose their homosexual condition; for most of them it is a trial.  They must be accepted with respect, compassion and sensitivity.  Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.  These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

2359   Homosexual persons are called to chastity.  By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of the disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.
Quoting billsfan1104:

I think it's a big misconception that Catholics are hateful towards gays. The church is against the Homosexual act in itself, but not against the person. They are suppose to live a chastise(I hope this is the right word) and not do the actual act. But the church also preaches that we are not to judge, harm, damn anyone to hell, or hate them.
. I know many gay activist think that being against gay marriage is hateful, and that's where I disagree.
I love my church and I will defend her. But I think that the author of this article, gets most of it right, but some of it wrong.

 

jessilin0113
by Platinum Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:57 AM
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So even the church admits homosexuality is not a choice?  But still would like to force people to not live naturally.  Interesting. 

SyllabaryBisque
by Bronze Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 8:00 AM
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Beautifully written. I love it.

candlegal
by Judy on Sep. 5, 2013 at 8:24 AM
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It is not natural.


Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts  as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered".  They are contrary to the natural law.  They close the sexual act to the gift of life.  They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity.  Under no circumstances can they be approved.

Quoting jessilin0113:

So even the church admits homosexuality is not a choice?  But still would like to force people to not live naturally.  Interesting. 


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