This is just my own advice to anybody who wants it. It's hard-earned advice and tonight I feel like shouting it from the rooftops.
When somebody you love is in the hospital or rehab facility, somebody has to go there and advocate for him or her. You have to make sure the wrong things don't happen and you have to ensure that the right things do happen. A close caregiver does not have to abide by visiting hours. Close caregivers can take turns at bedside round the clock. The visiting hours don't apply. If any misguided hospital employees try to say otherwise, you ask the doctor to put a round the clock companion in the orders.
And speaking of the orders...know what meds your person is supposed to take. Make sure every one is in the orders in the appropriate dose. Then make sure they bring the meds at the appropriate times. Today, I literally spent ALL DAY making sure the antibiotics my mom is supposed to have administered thru her mediport were properly given. That meant digging in, calling doctors, arguing with nurses and not budging until they brought in an instructor to teach the rehab nursing staff how to insert the apporpriate needle, flush the line and do a bunch of other stuff I don't know thing one about. And then, when it was leaking, I had to make sure they called her back to the facility to figure out why and fix it. If I wasn't there today, the nurses would have given her the abx thru a vein which is NOT the treatment that the oncologist and infectious disease doctors agreed upon.
I also had to back up mom when she insisted that she never wore a diaper before and didn't need one today. And I brought a blanket from home because they only give one blanket per patient. If patients are cold, they are supposed to use the bedspread. Except the bedspread is made of a nylon blend that makes it slide onto the floor every time people move...and especially with my mom being a chemo patient...ain't no way that's getting picked up off the floor and getting put up on her. These are little things. But they're also very big things.
Other things I suggest...bring pasteries for the staff. They aren't the ones who make the policies that result in the problems patients encounter. Be chill. Getting emotional slows shit down. Never talk bad about the staff to other patients/visitors...that creates snowballs of discontent. And don't bring candy to the diabetics, McDonald to the cardiac patients, etc. If that's the best help you have to offer, maybe you'd best just stay home after all.