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Should a past abortion be used against a woman in a custody trial?

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Judge Orders Woman to Talk About Her Abortion During Custody Trial

by Kiri Blakeley

An abortion is personal business. But one woman who is involved in a nasty custody battle has been ordered by a judge to talk about her abortion in the courtroom. The woman, Lisa Mehos, is in the middle of a custody dispute with her husband, a wealthy banker named Manuel John Mehos, over their two children. For some reason the man's lawyer was able to subpoena Lisa Mehos' medical records, where he found out she had had an abortion -- he was not responsible for the pregnancy and the couple were together at the time. So what on Earth does this have to do with custody arrangements?

The lawyer, Eleanor Alter, apparently tried to use the abortion to prove that Lisa Mehos was a "hypocrite" because she didn't want her ex-husband to have the kids over Easter, since he was an "atheist."

Additionally, since the woman had testified that she'd had no men over in front of her children, the judge thought it relevant that she'd had an abortion (uh, can children not be conceived somewhere besides in front of children?). Also, the lawyer argued that since Lisa Mehos is saying her husband is causing her "stress" -- she wants to prove that perhaps it is the abortion that caused her stress.

Anyway, this sounds like one helluva contentious divorce. All kinds of things are being thrown into the mix here. I just have no idea what an abortion has to do with anything. The lawyer reportedly said:

This is a woman who complains that she’s under great stress only caused by Mr. Mehos. I would be the first person to acknowledge that having an abortion, especially a two- to three-month late abortion, would be stressful.

Wow, I'm glad the lawyer seems to know what Lisa Mehos is feeling! An abortion can cause stress for sure, but it might also not cause stress. It is quite possible that a nasty divorce battle causes MUCH more stress than an abortion.

Why is this anyone's business? This is a legal medical procedure. It seems like the abortion is just being thrown into the case to embarrass Lisa Mehos (not that she should be embarrassed) and to bring some moral judgment down on her.

Since the ex-husband reportedly once tearfully confessed to his wife that he'd cheated on her with dozens of prostitutes, and he reportedly was arrested for hitting her in front of their children, he is really the one who should be embarrassed.

Shame on the judge for ordering this.

What do you think of an abortion being used against a woman in a custody trial?

by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 8:26 AM
Replies (11-20):
supercarp
by Silver Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 9:46 AM
3 moms liked this

 I hate when people say "end of story," as if they have the authority to prevent people from arguing with them.


Quoting lizzy_ellie:

Abortion is horrible, end of story. But this family sounds a little fucked up to me.. I feel bad for the kids that have to deal with this shit.


 

sweetaspie630
by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 9:51 AM
3 moms liked this

I am TOTALLY anti-abortion, and I still think the judge is a woman hating IDIOT. And yes, I know the judge is a woman. This is scary, and sets up a VERY BAD precedent if this isn't appealed.

Euphoric
by Bazinga! on Sep. 26, 2013 at 9:59 AM
1 mom liked this

 No

PamR
by Pam on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:00 AM
1 mom liked this

No

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:13 AM

Ok umm what the fuck?

Sbellemommy
by Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:19 AM

Her ex is a douche and I hope someone throat punches him.  However, I do think it was funny that she tried to say her husband shouldn't have the kids on easter becasue he is an atheist.  She is a hypocrite because it is very hypocritical for a christian to have an abortion. If you are going to argue on the grounds of religion you better make sure your hands are clean.

parentalrights1
by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:21 AM
2 moms liked this
Taking away women's choices is horrible. End of story


Quoting lizzy_ellie:

Abortion is horrible, end of story. But this family sounds a little fucked up to me.. I feel bad for the kids that have to deal with this shit.


mamasfamilyof4
by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:24 AM
1 mom liked this

This is absolutely, crazy, well we can definitely see that as described in the story, the husband is wealthy, and he can pay the lawyer to disclose and view  her medical records, this is supposed to be private, this is insane.  and definitely No,this should have absolutely nothing to do with custody, nothing at all. He may have wealth but he won't have peace of mind in going along with this.

owl0210
by Bronze Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:25 AM
1 mom liked this
One more step back for women in this country. SMFH
LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:32 AM
2 moms liked this
Do I need to worry that a yeast infection could be used against me in a court of law someday? I'm obviously doing something wrong and not taking care of my own body or it wouldn't have happened. How can I be expected to take care of my children when I am so reckless?
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