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Should a past abortion be used against a woman in a custody trial?

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Judge Orders Woman to Talk About Her Abortion During Custody Trial

by Kiri Blakeley

An abortion is personal business. But one woman who is involved in a nasty custody battle has been ordered by a judge to talk about her abortion in the courtroom. The woman, Lisa Mehos, is in the middle of a custody dispute with her husband, a wealthy banker named Manuel John Mehos, over their two children. For some reason the man's lawyer was able to subpoena Lisa Mehos' medical records, where he found out she had had an abortion -- he was not responsible for the pregnancy and the couple were together at the time. So what on Earth does this have to do with custody arrangements?

The lawyer, Eleanor Alter, apparently tried to use the abortion to prove that Lisa Mehos was a "hypocrite" because she didn't want her ex-husband to have the kids over Easter, since he was an "atheist."

Additionally, since the woman had testified that she'd had no men over in front of her children, the judge thought it relevant that she'd had an abortion (uh, can children not be conceived somewhere besides in front of children?). Also, the lawyer argued that since Lisa Mehos is saying her husband is causing her "stress" -- she wants to prove that perhaps it is the abortion that caused her stress.

Anyway, this sounds like one helluva contentious divorce. All kinds of things are being thrown into the mix here. I just have no idea what an abortion has to do with anything. The lawyer reportedly said:

This is a woman who complains that she’s under great stress only caused by Mr. Mehos. I would be the first person to acknowledge that having an abortion, especially a two- to three-month late abortion, would be stressful.

Wow, I'm glad the lawyer seems to know what Lisa Mehos is feeling! An abortion can cause stress for sure, but it might also not cause stress. It is quite possible that a nasty divorce battle causes MUCH more stress than an abortion.

Why is this anyone's business? This is a legal medical procedure. It seems like the abortion is just being thrown into the case to embarrass Lisa Mehos (not that she should be embarrassed) and to bring some moral judgment down on her.

Since the ex-husband reportedly once tearfully confessed to his wife that he'd cheated on her with dozens of prostitutes, and he reportedly was arrested for hitting her in front of their children, he is really the one who should be embarrassed.

Shame on the judge for ordering this.

What do you think of an abortion being used against a woman in a custody trial?

by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 8:26 AM
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by Platinum Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 2:19 PM

Oh, that is just awful... I would sue someone for violation of HIPAA .

This is outrageous.

by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 2:26 PM
This article is way too biased to be able to get a clear picture.
by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 2:29 PM
I think so!
by Ruby Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 3:26 PM
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The judge is an ass who needs to be disbarred for allowing it.  Abortion is a legal medical procedure, no matter your ethical and moral outlook on it, and using it as a weapon to make a woman look like a bad mother is disgusting!!

by Gold Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 7:25 PM

This seems like a total violation of HIPAA. It doesn't surprise me to read that the husband has apparently hit her, because these kinds of tactics are consistent with an abusive personality.

by Platinum Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 7:41 PM
That why everyone needs to have ROFR in their CO.
Bio parents are more important than grandparents.

Quoting jaxTheMomm:

Ok.  So I tried to read up on this a little more.

This has nothing to do with the divorce or whether or not she cheated on him - they are already divorced or separated, and the only stipulation regarding dating others is that she is not allowed to bring boyfriends to the home/around the children.

His lawyer subpoenaid her medical records and found that she had the abortion.  The weekend she got it, he apparently asked for the kids (must have been her weekend) because it was Easter, and she told him no, you aren't even religious.

Then she arrainged for her children to visit with grandma while she had the procedure done.

His lawyer says that basically means she's a hypocrite.  I don't understand why.  Religious people terminate pregnancies, too.

This isn't relevant to a custody case.  I think the judge should recuse herself - this is a slut-shaming sham.

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by Platinum Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 7:45 PM
Divorce proceedings in this country are crazy seriously!
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by on Sep. 26, 2013 at 9:45 PM

No way!  I don't believe in abortion for myself, but I don't think that should ever be used against someone especially in court.  

by AllieCat on Sep. 26, 2013 at 9:49 PM

This is ridiculous.

Her husband's attorney is reaching and it seems the Judge has some personal feelings he/she is allowing to come in to the court room.

by Platinum Member on Sep. 26, 2013 at 10:00 PM

 I do not debate abortion. Reading this, my comment is medical records should not be brought into this case. Those are private, and shouldn't be used. I am surprised a judge allowed private medical records in a case.

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