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Who here has made requests as to whom treats them while in the hospital?

Was it a request based on religious beliefs? Personal preference? Culture beliefs?

Was the request granted or not?

I'm just curious and thought it would be an interesting discussion...
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by on Sep. 30, 2013 at 10:35 AM
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pamelax3
by Gold Member on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:16 PM

I have never made any request like these.

Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:19 PM
Oh geez...
I would think that hanging a plan of care without your consent would be illegal?


Quoting Mipsy:

We have barred an interventional radiology team from my sons case because they decided the minute we weren't there to go behind our back and change our request they previously agreed to simply because they liked the other option better. My son has to see interventional radiology every 3 months to have the same procedure done until he no longer needs a specific feeding tube. We do not trust that team alone with our child.
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Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:20 PM
I've known a few people who have made similar requests.

Quoting Ziva65:

When I had my triplets I pretty much demanded there would be no students, and no residents. I already felt like a guinea pig... They forgot a few times, I sent them out quickly.

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Debmomto2girls
by Debbie on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:22 PM

If you are worried about having every whim accomndated, check into a hotel not a hospital.

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I have never had to do an overnight in a hospital, but if I did I would expect them to accomodate anything that was possible given how much I am paying to be there.


“No human race is superior; no religious faith is inferior. All collective judgments are wrong. Only racists make them” 
― Elie Wiesel

cjsbmom
by Lois Lane on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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I've never made a request. In fact, when I went into labor, my doctor wasn't even on call, because I went into labor two weeks early and he was away on vacation. I was stuck with the most arrogant asshole OB I've ever met. All the nurses said that he was an ass, but he was good at what he did, so I overlooked his lack of bedside manner. 

I have had both  male and female OBGYNs, I've had both  male and female primary care doctors. My current family doctor is Indian. None of that stuff bothers me. If the person is qualified to do the job, that's all I care about. 

Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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This post isnt about race so please don't make it about race.

Another discussion occurred in a different thread and I was curious to see how many people have made Requests when in the hospital.


Quoting sweet-a-kins:

 You weren't barring a whole race or sex


I hospital cannot change schedules or hire extra male/female or white/black staff based on a racist persons "request"


What happens of only white nurses are working and someone is requesting a black nurse? or vice versa?


What happens in intensive care, a specialized field, when the entire staff is male...should they fire half of them and hire women? no...


Quoting Mommy_of_Riley:

Personally I had a HORRIBLE nurse when I had my son and when I went into labor (at the same hospital) with oldest daughter that nurse was on call. I saw her in the hallway and I told my doctor I needed to make a request about the L&D nurses. The doctor gave me the nurses name and I wrote down that "insert name here" was NOT allowed in my room at anytime and was NOT allowed to care for my child.

My request was granted and I had no problems thankfully. It turns out I wasn't the only patient to complain about her either...

 

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Debmomto2girls
by Debbie on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:25 PM

What country do you live in? Do you really believe there is enough staff to acomndate every request?

Quoting Liastele:

With my first I demanded only women work on me. Female OB, female nurses, female students, female doctor for my epidural, etc. Granted, of course. For my tubal I request an all female team as well. I do not like to be naked in front of male medical staff unless its an emergency.

I honestly do not see the problem with making such requests. Religion, culture, or personal reasons, we should all be comfortable with our medical care. Unless its an emergency, there should be the option to be picky. The nurse in the spin off had no right to sue her employer.


“No human race is superior; no religious faith is inferior. All collective judgments are wrong. Only racists make them” 
― Elie Wiesel

Debmomto2girls
by Debbie on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:29 PM

It is very disheartening to see in this thread and the other how many people think so little of nurses. 

To think a hospital and it's employees are only there to cater to your every whim is shameful. 

Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:30 PM
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Good hospitals are accommodating.

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

If you are worried about having every whim accomndated, check into a hotel not a hospital.

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I have never had to do an overnight in a hospital, but if I did I would expect them to accomodate anything that was possible given how much I am paying to be there.


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Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Sep. 30, 2013 at 12:34 PM
Who says we think "so little of nurses"? I loved and respected my L&D nurses except for the one.

No one said anything about catering to someone's every whim. Everyone I've seen reply had requests fulfilled if it was possible . Some did not because it wasn't possible (doctor out of town for example).


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

It is very disheartening to see in this thread and the other how many people think so little of nurses. 

To think a hospital and it's employees are only there to cater to your every whim is shameful. 

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