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On Entitlements, You Should be Embarrassed

Posted by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:05 AM
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A new report out by US Senator Jeff Sessions (R-Alabama) shows over 110 million people in the United States today are receiving some sort of handout from the government (http://www.theblaze.com/stories/this-chart-showing-welfare-dependency-will-ruin-your-day/).  That astronomical number does not include Social Security nor Medicare.  You’ll notice I didn’t say, “110 million Americans.”  Many who are receiving the handouts are not Americans and a number of those not even in the country legally.  Suffice it to say, the practice of giving people a reward of money, food, education, medical care, et al after they disregarded our sovereignty and laws to come here in the cloak of night is ridiculous and should be stopped immediately.

I want to focus on those who are either US citizens or who are here legally and are receiving entitlements.  By the way, that moniker is fallacious.  Fact is, in this country, we’re entitled to the rights afforded us by the Creator and that are enumerated in the Constitution.  We are entitled to equal opportunity to life, liberty and a pursuit of happiness.  I think I’ve read that somewhere.  We are not entitled to endless free money or food or housing or electricity.

I’m 46 years old.  I graduated high school in 1984.  I remember the kids who were on the free lunch program when I was in school.  They didn’t wear new clothes nor shoes.  They didn’t wear jewelry nor wear designer backpacks.  They were good kids — as happy as any of us, but there were just not as well off as some of the others.  I remember asking them about that card they carried with them that entitled them to a free lunch.  I don’t recall any of them being proud of it.  In actuality, they wanted to be like the rest of us and bring a bagged or boxed lunch or pay for their own lunches.  To put it bluntly, they were embarrassed.  More importantly, their parents were busy at work to get themselves into a better position to no longer need that hand out.  Generally speaking, they were well aware of the stigma that went along with being on the Free Lunch program for their kids and they did all they could to change it.  Today, we seem to live in an alternative universe.  There are more people receiving handouts then ever in our history.  Not only are we offering free lunch but free breakfast as well.  Parents should be embarrassed that they are giving up the responsibility of feeding their children to someone else.  People are not only not embarrassed to be on the receiving end, many are actually under the belief they are owed what they get.  Huh?  Who owes you that?  And why?

To that end, at that time, Unemployment was something you got for the shortest imaginable time until you were able to find some other work… any work.  You did not hold out until you found your dream job or even a job in your chosen field.  One worked anywhere doing just about  anything until that perfect opportunity presented itself.  The idea of staying on Unemployment for two years was unheard of.  It was embarrassing to not have a paycheck coming in.  When someone asked, “what do you do?” people were proud to answer the question.  If one was out of work, the answer would be, “between jobs,” followed up quickly with, “but, I’ve got three interviews tomorrow and expect to be back at it soon.”  Nobody was proud to exclaim, “I’m on Unemployment.”  That would be embarrassing.  Today, many on unemployment are fine with it.  The ne’erdowells in Washington have now extended this handout for two full years and the system is so mismanaged that people collecting this freebie are actually punished if they get part time work to make ends meet.  Another misconception of Unemployment is that workers pay into it so, “why shouldn’t I get back what I paid in?”  Well, you didn’t pay into it, you’re employer did.  And, at two full years, those contributions are long gone.  At this point, the government is just distributing money it doesn’t have.  Have you seen the federal debt lately?

The number in the US getting the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP or Food Stamps) has ballooned to 45 million people.  Forty five million people receive money to buy food for themselves and their families.  That’s a ridiculous number. Think about that.  Tens of millions of people in our great land, the “Land of Plenty,” have admitted they can’t feed themselves or their families?  Really?  They should be ashamed and embarrassed.  They’re not because A. the government changed the name from the embarrassing Food Stamps to the slick SNAP program.  B. people no longer carry actual, obvious Food Stamps, they carry a card that looks like a MasterCard or Visa.  C.  The program was supposed to be a bridge until you got on your feet and regained the ability to feed yourself and your family again, today it’s a never-ending supplement.  D. More and more restaurants and other outlets are accepting SNAP to pay for prepared food.  Just so I understand, you’re getting free food and  you don’t have the time to prepare it?  As an aside, I can’t figure out why those who are getting Food Stamps also seem to be first in line to get the free breakfast and/or free school lunches for their kids.  We’re (yup, the taxpayers fund all handouts, not the government) giving you free food and instead of taking that food and making a breakfast or lunch for your child, you also get free prepared food for them at school?  What a scam!  You should be embarrassed.

The government has systematically and systemically promoted programs to deflate the hopes and dreams of millions of people.  I couldn’t even begin to fathom taking never-ending handouts and expecting that’s all there was for me in regard to the American Dream.  Don’t get me wrong, I am 100 percent for limited and finite help for people in need.  We are the most generous people this planet has ever known.  But, when you are able to work yet collect unemployment, food stamps, Welfare, Disability, free housing, free electricity — you are allowing the government to limit your ability to succeed to your fullest extent.  You are, in essence, allowing the government to decide what your worth is.  You should be embarrassed you’ve allowed this to happen and you should make a change.  Problem is, just as as we see all the time when the government adds a temporary tax, once that money (or handout) starts coming in, it’s tough to stop it.

To that end, I offer some very sensible solutions:

Allow Unemployment Insurance to end.  You heard me right.  Actually let it expire.  I think a few months should be enough.  But, let’s call it a day at six months.  If you can’t find gainful employment in six months — doing something.  ANYTHING.  You’re not trying in America today.

 

Allow the use of the SNAP program for a finite amount of time.  Six months works here as well.  Plus, you can’t double dip.  If you’re getting food stamps, NO FREE LUNCH AT SCHOOL.  Make your kid a lunch.  If you want free lunch for your children, NO SNAP FOR YOU.  

 

Only offer Disability to those who are truly unable to work because of they physically can’t.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but if you can talk on the cell phone, drive, text, eat out, go shopping, et  al — you can get a job and work.

 

Very limited access to taxpayer-paid-for-housing.  Again, I would max this out at six months.  You don’t deserve a free place to live.  You have relatives.  Move in with them until you scratch together enough for first, last and security.  We’ve all done it.  You can too.  If you can’t get a cheap apartment in the US today, you’re not trying.  

 

A major issue in the so-called entitlement programs in our great land is the out of control fraud involved.  If you have an SUV, you don’t need an entitlement.  Sell it and feed your kids or pay your electric bill.  If you have a PlayStation 3, that’s not a necessity.  Sell it and buy your kids some food or pay your rent.  If you’re rolling on Dubs, you don’t need a hand out.  Sell them and buy your kid’s lunch at school or buy him some new pants.  If you have cable Internet or a big-screen TV, those aren’t necessities.  Sell them, get dial up and a 19 inch TV and get yourself an apartment or buy your family some food or pay your electric bill.  We could save billions if we used CPS or the IRS or some redundant agency we’re all paying for to do actual audits of those getting free stuff from the rest of us.

One thing that needs to be re-instituted right up front is a feeling of embarrassment when receiving something free from the rest of us.  You should be anxious to get off of the handouts and back on your feet.  And, there must be a new realization that you are selling yourself short by taking so much from others.  You see, the government is made up of a bunch of people who are convinced they’re smarter than we are.  They think they know better what  you should drive, where you should live, what you should eat, where or if you should work, how much you need to get by and more.  The 110 million with their hands out are allowing just that level of control to happen.  I urge you to stick your chest out, find some pride deep down, rebuild your self-esteem and stop allowing others limit your ability to live life to the fullest.  For those of you who are receiving YEARS of undeserved Unemployment who have said over and over, “why should I accept a job that’s beneath me?” stop it.  Really think about what you’re saying.  Do you really think a job is beneath you but, receiving free money from me isn’t?  You’re more proud of receiving money in the mail you didn’t earn than you would be working any job and getting paid?  Don’t allow the government to define you and what you’re able to accomplish.

 

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Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:10 AM
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I agree 100%.  This country has lost its sense of SHAME.

SHAME is a motivating emotion.  People are never supposed to feel SHAME anymore, and because we have colored it "bad" and decided no one should ever be made to feel shame, embarrassment, or even the most minor discomfort......the lessons people learned from shame have also gone out the window.

I would feel completely ASHAMED if I could not feed my own children if not for a handout.  I would be absolutely ashamed if I lived off the backs of others.

I have instilled the same sense of shame in my children, the only people I can impact.  Getting a free ride is not something to be proud of in THIS house.  I wish it wasn't considered a "win" in others as well.

T-HoneyLuv
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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I need my coffee before I deal with this fuckery.... I wonder if the writers opinion would change if he somehow was faced with the reality that so many Americans are faced with. Hmmmmm. Maybe then the Gov't cheese wouldnt look so bad.
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candlegal
by Judy on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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They have been taught that they are entitled to all of this, so why would they feel shame?

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I agree 100%.  This country has lost its sense of SHAME.

SHAME is a motivating emotion.  People are never supposed to feel SHAME anymore, and because we have colored it "bad" and decided no one should ever be made to feel shame, embarrassment, or even the most minor discomfort......the lessons people learned from shame have also gone out the window.

I would feel completely ASHAMED if I could not feed my own children if not for a handout.  I would be absolutely ashamed if I lived off the backs of others.

I have instilled the same sense of shame in my children, the only people I can impact.  Getting a free ride is not something to be proud of in THIS house.  I wish it wasn't considered a "win" in others as well.


Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:15 AM
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I know, and its killing the country.

Quoting candlegal:

They have been taught that they are entitled to all of this, so why would they feel shame?

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I agree 100%.  This country has lost its sense of SHAME.

SHAME is a motivating emotion.  People are never supposed to feel SHAME anymore, and because we have colored it "bad" and decided no one should ever be made to feel shame, embarrassment, or even the most minor discomfort......the lessons people learned from shame have also gone out the window.

I would feel completely ASHAMED if I could not feed my own children if not for a handout.  I would be absolutely ashamed if I lived off the backs of others.

I have instilled the same sense of shame in my children, the only people I can impact.  Getting a free ride is not something to be proud of in THIS house.  I wish it wasn't considered a "win" in others as well.



candlegal
by Judy on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:16 AM


Actually if they had to go pick up cheese, powdered milk, etc when the entitlements came to town instead of eating steaks, crab legs, chips and soda at the taxpayer expense, more people probably would be ashamed

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I know, and its killing the country.

Quoting candlegal:

They have been taught that they are entitled to all of this, so why would they feel shame?

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I agree 100%.  This country has lost its sense of SHAME.

SHAME is a motivating emotion.  People are never supposed to feel SHAME anymore, and because we have colored it "bad" and decided no one should ever be made to feel shame, embarrassment, or even the most minor discomfort......the lessons people learned from shame have also gone out the window.

I would feel completely ASHAMED if I could not feed my own children if not for a handout.  I would be absolutely ashamed if I lived off the backs of others.

I have instilled the same sense of shame in my children, the only people I can impact.  Getting a free ride is not something to be proud of in THIS house.  I wish it wasn't considered a "win" in others as well.




Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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Just because someone has circumstances that put them in the position they are in doesn't mean they shouldn't feel embarrassment or shame.

I would be ashamed if I couldn't provide for my family on my own NO MATTER WHAT put me there.

And that would motivate me to spend as little time there as possible.

That is the point of the article, the motivating factor of not wanting to live like that is GONE.  In fact, the opposite has happened where its almost celebrated.

Quoting T-HoneyLuv:

I need my coffee before I deal with this fuckery.... I wonder if the writers opinion would change if he somehow was faced with the reality that so many Americans are faced with. Hmmmmm. Maybe then the Gov't cheese wouldnt look so bad.


Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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Certainly.  If you get all the things other people who work get, but without working, there is nothing to strive for.

Quoting candlegal:


Actually if they had to go pick up cheese, powdered milk, etc when the entitlements came to town instead of eating steaks, crab legs, chips and soda at the taxpayer expense, more people probably would be ashamed

Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I know, and its killing the country.


T-HoneyLuv
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:29 AM
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Oh you're right. I forgot all about those big " Welfare Celebrations " that happen everywhere. WOOHOO!!!! * Eyeroll *


Quoting Wicked.Jester:

Just because someone has circumstances that put them in the position they are in doesn't mean they shouldn't feel embarrassment or shame.

I would be ashamed if I couldn't provide for my family on my own NO MATTER WHAT put me there.

And that would motivate me to spend as little time there as possible.

That is the point of the article, the motivating factor of not wanting to live like that is GONE.  In fact, the opposite has happened where its almost celebrated.

Quoting T-HoneyLuv:

I need my coffee before I deal with this fuckery.... I wonder if the writers opinion would change if he somehow was faced with the reality that so many Americans are faced with. Hmmmmm. Maybe then the Gov't cheese wouldnt look so bad.



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tanyainmizzou
by Platinum Member on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:30 AM
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Saving my place for later

Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 15, 2013 at 8:32 AM
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You aren't very smart are you?  It doesn't matter that CM is not an exact demographic of the entire country.  There are many people here who are PROUD of living off the tit.  It provides an example that these people do exist.

How is CM any less representative than "my neighborhood," which you asked about originally?  CM is certainly more diverse and more representative than "my neighborhood."  So its as good an example as any.

Culturally speaking, it is quite evident that the shame that was typically associated with being on welfare is gone.  If you refuse to recognize that, its your choice.  Its quite ironic though because your FIRST response was to say yourself that people SHOULDN'T be ashamed because of life circumstances.  So even YOU feel that way.

You have no idea what my "ideals" are...lol.  But go ahead and jump to conclusions out of one side of your mouth while the other complains about other people doing the same thing.

Quoting T-HoneyLuv:

Lmfao! You judge the entire population of this Country by what you see posted on CM? Perhaps it is YOUR first day. I am no idiot, I call it as I see it. You seem to have the same ass backwards ideals that is seen all to often on here. How does the saying go??? People who live in glass houses....


Quoting Wicked.Jester:

Is today your first day on CM?  Just look around here to see how many people are proud of it.

And I am not a conservative.....your generalization makes you look like an idiot.

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