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I’m Not Going To Pretend That I’m Poor To Be Accepted By You

Posted by on Oct. 19, 2013 at 8:49 PM
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I’m Not Going To Pretend That I’m Poor To Be Accepted By You


I came straight from the Mulberry Sample Sale, big ass shopping bag in tow back to the Gristedes by my West Village Apartment. I get to the checkout and there’s this girl in front of me probably a little older than I am talking to the cashier. The girl says to the cashier “I went in-state to save my parents money for school”. The Cashier then replies “That’s smart”. They then both glare at me with my shopping bag and my Coco Lite snack cakes and Diet Coke as if to say here’s daddy’s little princess wasting money, that little piece of shit. They exchange words and then the girl leaves. I try to be chipper and ask the cashier how her day is and she doesn’t answer me. She just looks down and scans my items not saying a word or even glancing in my direction. I say have a great day, as happily as I can and walk out feeling like a turd.

What the fuck? Could they not be that obvious? I should have stopped at my apartment and put my bags down then if they were going to judge me like that. And I got my purse at a 70% discount so they can fuck off. I am sorry that I was born into great financial circumstances and my father likes to provide for me. I am sorry I don’t have to go to a state school to save my parents money. What do you want from me?

People shouldn’t make others feel bad about their own personal finances. How people spend their money is their own choice. There is a certain amount of tact you should show around people who can’t buy exorbitantly expensive things. But should you classify someone as a person based on how they are showing their wealth, or lack of it? It just seems really petty and makes you look bitter and unhappy with your own life if you are casting nasty glares at college girls in Gristedes because you’re a cashier. What purpose does it serve if all you want to do is reflect your own misery on other people?

Fortunately I grew up with a decent amount of money in a decently rich area where people who work for the government go to raise their perfect kids. But I went to private school when I was younger and there would always be someone so much richer than me. There were kids who owned their own horses and whose parents were billionaires, so I had no idea that I had any money until I was about 14 and people called me “Rachael Sacks of Cash”. My parents bought me clothes from Old Navy and I ate at McDonalds on weekends when I was a kid.

I’m not one of those people who try to be poor to relate to people. I think that’s honestly really disgusting behavior, it’s as if you’re saying that you have to make yourself into something you think is beneath you to get others to like you. Thinking that other people are beneath you just because of the financial circumstances they were born into is just gross. People give Gwyneth Paltrow shit for saying that she can’t live like someone who makes $25,000 a year. The statement itself is accurate, she was born into Hollywood royalty, it’s just the sneer implied with that type of statement that is disgusting. It’s the fact that she had to point out how much of a gap exists between her and someone who earns that income. That she is placing them in the dirt eating cheese from a can while she gets freshly made cheese from Genoa or some shit delivered by a damn fairy.

What I’m saying is that it should not be made into a spectacle that there are differences in income. It should not be made to define who people are, even though we do it all the time. And if we do judge people for displaying wealth or not we should attempt to show tact because fortune can change.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/rachael-sacks/2013/10/im-not-going-to-pretend-that-im-poor-to-be-accepted-by-you/

http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/co-ed-don-hate-rich-article-1.1489621


Thoughts?

by on Oct. 19, 2013 at 8:49 PM
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Donna6503
by Platinum Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 8:56 PM
Why am I so tempted to say a Jewish joke here ... Why cow why?


(J/k)


Still interesting
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collectivecow
by Gold Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 8:57 PM
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I'm not sure - I'm poor as hell lol.

Quoting Donna6503:

Why am I so tempted to say a Jewish joke here ... Why cow why?
(J/k)
Still interesting


NWP
by guerrilla girl on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:01 PM
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Well OK then

krysstizzle
by DeepThought on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:02 PM
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My initial thought is that the author is making an awful lot of assumptions. From two small sentences - I went to school instate to save my parents money, and, that's smart - she just suddenly knows that these two random people think she's a rich asshole who should pretend to be poor? 

Nah.


I don't know, I can't put my finger on it...something about this chick really rubs me the wrong way. 


And the writing is kind of terrible. I kept feeling like somone put the sentences in the wrong order.  

collectivecow
by Gold Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:05 PM

Yea. I mean...how could she honestly tell what the cashier was thinking?

Quoting krysstizzle:

My initial thought is that the author is making an awful lot of assumptions. From two small sentences - I went to school instate to save my parents money, and, that's smart - she just suddenly knows that these two random people think she's a rich asshole who should pretend to be poor? 

Nah.

I don't know, I can't put my finger on it...something about this chick really rubs me the wrong way. 

And the writing is kind of terrible. I kept feeling like somone put the sentences in the wrong order.  


quickbooksworm
by Silver Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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My experience with New Yorkers is they really don't give a fuck about you.  I'd say that she was probably being a little self centered in her assumption that they 1) gave 2 shits about her and 2) that it was because she had money, which they really had no way of knowing.

canadianmom1974
by Gold Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:11 PM
Yeah, it seems like she's projecting what she thinks they're thinking. I work as a cashier in a grocery store, some customers I talk to more than others. I might chit chat with a friend or acquaintance, and do minimal talking with the next.

Quoting krysstizzle:

My initial thought is that the author is making an awful lot of assumptions. From two small sentences - I went to school instate to save my parents money, and, that's smart - she just suddenly knows that these two random people think she's a rich asshole who should pretend to be poor? 

Nah.


I don't know, I can't put my finger on it...something about this chick really rubs me the wrong way. 


And the writing is kind of terrible. I kept feeling like somone put the sentences in the wrong order.  

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momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:16 PM
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She seems awfully defensive.  

Although I do hate it when I'm in a long line and the cashier is just making conversation with customers and taking lots of time when it's obvious that many people are waiting.  (This always seems to happen when there is just one register open.)  I may occasionally shuffle my feet and sigh and look at my watch.  If this chick was doing something similar, maybe the cashier picked up on that and gave her the cold shoulder.  

Somehow I just don't think it was her shopping bag, especially since it seems like this is a regular occurrence.  She might just be kind of a bitch.  

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:16 PM
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I think she was reading too much into it. However, I do think people think negatively of people with money. I've heard people say things like "must be nice" and assuming they are stuck up.
mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Oct. 19, 2013 at 9:24 PM

I worked at Nordstrom for two years. 

I could tell who had money. I could tell those who were middle class and just liked things of quality (I'm one of them) because they last a lot longer. Those who threw attitude around like this chick liked their labels. Almost like they wanted people to know they had money. Then there those who obviously also had money but were quiet and polite and wore stuff that was well tailored and classic. They were respectful and didn't make a fuss about anything. 

I'm guessing this chick is "new" money and probably feeling defensive because she knows that she didn't earn what she's wearing. Or she's just a bitch with poor writing skills and doesn't like to be treated as what she perceives to be rude. I don't know. 

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