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The most unfriendly states in the Union

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I've been in 49 states (out of the fifty) and while, I've never been to Alaska (and to be honest I've only been to Hawaii because the plane landed at the airport) I have had dealings of some sort of fashion in every state.

While; I know my experience doesn't constitute a (proven) fact. I feel I have spent enough time in these states that I list as "unfriendly" to feel justified in my belief in their "unfriendliness."

I feel (by far) that Oklahoma is the most unfriendly state. Honestly, it is the only state in the union where one is made to feel like a criminal, if one says, "Hello." I do understand that "hello" is just really just the big "O" next to "hell" and in the bible no where does God say "hello" to anyone. But, Why can't anyone from Oklahoma provide a friendly greeting of some sort to anyone that they don't know?

It's all the same from Boise City to Oklahoma City to Tulsa and down to the Red River area. It's not like I'm wearing a Longhorn t-shirt or such; but, I'm always made to feel unwelcome by anyone from that state.

If the whole state of Pennsylvania acted like the people in Philadelphia up through Scranton then Pennsylvania would top this list. Fortunately, the fine folks in the western part of that state truly understand how to be kind to a stranger; even if, that stranger has a funny ethnic accent.

So here is my top five unfriendly states:

1) Oklahoma
2) Pennsylvania
3) Massachusetts (especially the Boston area)
4) Michigan
5) Maryland (Baltimore is bad; but, Salisbury is worst ... I guess you get that way with Delaware always pooping on you)

What's your list?
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by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 6:38 PM
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sugarsmom2
by Bronze Member on Oct. 22, 2013 at 5:49 PM
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I AM FROM WEST VIRGINIA . WE DONT KNOW ANY STRANGERS . EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE . YOU ALL COME ON DOWN . HAVE A PIECE OF PIE OR CAKE AND TALK FOR AWHILE . I KNOW LOTS OF PEOPLE FROM PENNSYLANIA . LOVE THEM TO BITES . BUT I GUESS ANY STATE CAN HAVE SOMEONE WHO DOESNT WELCOME EVERYONE .

Cutenessmom
by Bronze Member on Oct. 22, 2013 at 6:44 PM

LOL  People seem to get the South  down pack!  A Northern will insult you right to  your face! and Southern will do it passive Agressively or indirect! LOL Get  in in there face or remind  them that,  Were all Americans and what  time frame were in and that ,if they went to another country and they  would be called  a Yank! LOL! really pisses them off! 

liltigersmom
by on Oct. 22, 2013 at 6:54 PM
Born and raised in Massachusetts. We mind our own damn business.

I lived down south, and everyone was in my face or my business. Everyone knew everyone's business.
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Looking4Truth
by on Oct. 22, 2013 at 9:57 PM

 In my opinion the worst state of all is Idaho.  I don't care what anyone says, there are still way too many racists living in that state! I know this first hand because my daughter, black son-in-law and two oldest black grandsons were getting it from everyone when they lived there.  Thank goodness they finally moved out of Idaho.  I just about died when they told my hubby and I that they were going to move there!  Ugh

atlmom2
by on Jun. 14, 2014 at 9:07 PM

I have lived in several states and by far NY was the most unfriendly.  The friendly people were not from there.  This was Syracuse NY. 

kahlansmommy
by Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 9:57 PM
As far as I can see Nebraska was not on the list of haters. Go Huskers
Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 9:59 PM
Unfriendliest states? Hmm. I really don't know. I like most the western states. Hated Texas. So I guess Texas.
owl0210
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 10:38 PM
I was born and raised in Massachusetts so I can understand why you feel that way. I went to college in Rhode Island and the people there are sooo unfriendly.
JaeMommy07
by Member on Jun. 15, 2014 at 2:56 AM
I've only been to Connecticut and New York City when I lived in the States. I felt more welcome in New York. Connecticut was nice but my wife and I liked being in the city.
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codfish
by Bronze Member on Jun. 15, 2014 at 7:30 AM
Thanks for the laugh! I am from TN and still live here. Nashville is routinely ranked as one of the nicest US cities by travel magazines. We have a huge Kurdish population along with refugees from just about every country. No one cares if you are Christian, as no one I know randomly ask that. While a large percentage are Baptist, you can find just about any religious house of worship you would like.

We say hi, look people in the eye, and welcome those who need shelter in. However, of you act like a jerk don't think it won't be reciprocated. Perhaps that is some you know view us as unfriendly. Just saying



Quoting muslimah:

 I have been through the mid west, east coast and the south all the way through the south of Florida several times.


Forget about just "unfriendly" Kentucky and Tennessee are absolutely by far the most hateful, evil people I have ever encountered. They're real nice until they discover you are not a Christian or American then they turn into the devil.


My husband and his cousin who are very obviously Iraqi worked and lived in Tennessee for a short time and they had to take their pool sticks with them everywhere they went.


They used to get off work and stop at this little bar. The bar owner and bartender loved them because they were good spenders but they would be sitting at the bar having their drink and just get jumped from behind. They fought like hell with those pool sticks. The police would come and automatically go to cuff them and the bar tender would tell the police every time not to arrest them but to arrest the group who jumped them from behind. When the police would find out it was the locals who were guilty they would not make an arrest.


When I used to cover in hijab I got treated like dirt at every restaurant, gas station, or store I went into in Kentucky and Tennessee both. If we have to stay in a hotel for a night while passing through we lower our standards and stay at those nasty hole in the wall motels owned by Indians just so we don't have to take shit from the white people and can feel confident that we will wake up safelyy in the morning and not find our car vandalized. They treat us just that bad that we do worry about those things happening.


 

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