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NJ Diner Leaves Anti-Gay 'Tip' for Lesbian Waitress

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NJ Diner Leaves Anti-Gay 'Tip' for Lesbian Waitress

 

A New Jersey waitress and former Marine says she was "offended" after a customer left an anti-gay note on a check in place of a tip because she is a lesbian.

Dayna Morales, a server at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, N.J., said a family dining at the restaurant Wednesday night skipped the tip on their $93.55 bill and scribbled an explanation why.

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"It says, 'I'm sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life,'" Morales told ABC News station WABC-TV Thursday.

Morales, who has been waiting tables on and off for 10 years, said she never told the family she was gay when she introduced herself.

"Normal introduction, 'My name is Dayna. I'll be taking care of you.' Right away the mom looked at me and said, 'I thought you were going to say your name was Dan,'" Morales said.

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After she served the family their meal without further incident, she discovered the note on the bill. Morales sent a picture of the receipt to the "Have a Gay Day" Facebook page, where it has since elicited more than 2,000 comments.

"I was rather offended, mad," Morales said of the incident. "I didn't know how to react to that. I never thought that would ever happen."

by on Nov. 15, 2013 at 10:13 AM
Replies (31-40):
kaylamom2004
by Bronze Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:06 AM

I'm so sick of people being "offended".

pansyprincess
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:06 AM
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It's a logical conclusion.  Which is probably why you didn't get there.  :)


Quoting SherryBerry106:


I never stated, anywhere that I condoned their behavior, I don't, same as I don't condone the religion haters in this thread that have jumped to conclusions that are not warranted.

I'm non-hypocritical like that.

Quoting pansyprincess:

You don't know what religious means?  The only other people that seems to be against homosexuality besides religious folks are old people who are just ignorant and don't handle change well.

These people were whining for religious reasons.  Everyone knows it.  Obviously we can't confirm it without tracking them down. 

I expect someone like you to try and make excuses for their behaviour though.  So feel free to continue on. 


Quoting SherryBerry106:


I don't even know what "the religious" means.

Not everyone who doesn't approve of the Homosexual lifestyle and agenda is religious, that is simply a fact.

Quoting pansyprincess:

Nope.  Can you name anyone but the religious who are obsessed with homosexuality?


Quoting SherryBerry106:

Anyone?

Is religion mentioned anywhere in the story - or is this simply a chance to bash religion?

(if it is written there and I missed it, just point to it).











12hellokitty
by Platinum Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:07 AM
So the establishment gave their approval for her to post a signed receipt? I would never be a patron of such an establishment. Who is to say the server didn't write the note? If she is capable of posting the note on social media for attention it would also seem possible she wrote the note for attention.
Quoting pansyprincess:

All the personal information was taken off the receipt ... all you see is what they wrote, and their eligible signature.  All other #s are blurred out.

Luckily the establishment is supporting her, they paid her out of pocket for the tip money, and they said the family who did this would not be welcome back there.

A good way to make sure your server doesn't post your judgemental asshole comments is to NOT MAKE THEM.  But sure, blame the woman who was treated poorly.  Good on ya!


Quoting 12hellokitty:

I agree, which is why IMO the server should be fired as a consequence. I don't condone personal attacks on her. It is odd how people are quick to personally attack an anonymous or possibly nonexistent person. Unfortunately posting receipts with these kinds of comments has become a way for many to get attention and make a lot of money.
Quoting krysstizzle:

If you're going through the trouble to be an exceptional asshole in this day and age, be prepared for the consequences.


Quoting 12hellokitty:

What do you know another whining server.  She should be fired for posting picture of personal information.  






PinkButterfly66
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:07 AM

If I were the manager of that establishment, I would contact that family and tell them to take their business elsewhere because they were not welcome to come back.

momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:07 AM
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Any diner who leaves a note blaming lack of a tip on anything other than terrible service is an asshole.  

I'm glad the owner made up the tip for the server.  

SherryBerry106
by on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:08 AM

 

Only for people with massive prejudice.

Quoting pansyprincess:

It's a logical conclusion.  Which is probably why you didn't get there.  :)

 

Quoting SherryBerry106:

 

I never stated, anywhere that I condoned their behavior, I don't, same as I don't condone the religion haters in this thread that have jumped to conclusions that are not warranted.

I'm non-hypocritical like that.

Quoting pansyprincess:

You don't know what religious means?  The only other people that seems to be against homosexuality besides religious folks are old people who are just ignorant and don't handle change well.

These people were whining for religious reasons.  Everyone knows it.  Obviously we can't confirm it without tracking them down. 

I expect someone like you to try and make excuses for their behaviour though.  So feel free to continue on. 

 

Quoting SherryBerry106:

 

I don't even know what "the religious" means.

Not everyone who doesn't approve of the Homosexual lifestyle and agenda is religious, that is simply a fact.

Quoting pansyprincess:

Nope.  Can you name anyone but the religious who are obsessed with homosexuality?

 

Quoting SherryBerry106:

Anyone?

Is religion mentioned anywhere in the story - or is this simply a chance to bash religion?

(if it is written there and I missed it, just point to it).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

PinkButterfly66
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:08 AM

I posted that if I were the manager I would do the same thing.  I'm glad the manager stood up to those bigots.

Quoting pansyprincess:

I'm so disgusted by this.  This place is in the next town over from mine.  The manager posted on their facebook page how upset they were over the bill, which they have all seen.  They said Dayna is a great server and is a member of their family at the restaurant.  He also covered the 20% tip for her so that she didn't lose that money.  The manager also said that those people will not be welcome back in his restaurant again.  I love that!

Me and my friends just put together a girls night out next weekend to go to this place and give her a big ass tip!  I just hope she's working!


PinkButterfly66
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:10 AM
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Fortunately, that won't happen as the manager of the establishment backs the server 100%

Quoting 12hellokitty:

What do you know another whining server.  She should be fired for posting picture of personal information.  


pansyprincess
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:10 AM
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Yup.  They do not support bigotry.  I think that they would happily not have your patronage, if you are one who feels like it is acceptable to write a rude note about a person you don't know, and stiffing them out of their tip based on your personal beliefs.

And if I had received that, I would have posted it too ... because asshole behaviour should be called out.  And if I got fired, so be it.  Luckily, she didn't. 

So because she posted it on her private (not public) FB page, she must have written it herself?  That's some logic you got there ... you are SO quick to believe this didn't really happen to her.  I'm not sure why.  Probably because she's gay.


Quoting 12hellokitty:

So the establishment gave their approval for her to post a signed receipt? I would never be a patron of such an establishment. Who is to say the server didn't write the note? If she is capable of posting the note on social media for attention it would also seem possible she wrote the note for attention.
Quoting pansyprincess:

All the personal information was taken off the receipt ... all you see is what they wrote, and their eligible signature.  All other #s are blurred out.

Luckily the establishment is supporting her, they paid her out of pocket for the tip money, and they said the family who did this would not be welcome back there.

A good way to make sure your server doesn't post your judgemental asshole comments is to NOT MAKE THEM.  But sure, blame the woman who was treated poorly.  Good on ya!


Quoting 12hellokitty:

I agree, which is why IMO the server should be fired as a consequence. I don't condone personal attacks on her. It is odd how people are quick to personally attack an anonymous or possibly nonexistent person. Unfortunately posting receipts with these kinds of comments has become a way for many to get attention and make a lot of money.
Quoting krysstizzle:

If you're going through the trouble to be an exceptional asshole in this day and age, be prepared for the consequences.


Quoting 12hellokitty:

What do you know another whining server.  She should be fired for posting picture of personal information.  








pansyprincess
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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ha!  Now theres the pot calling the kettle black.


Quoting SherryBerry106:


Only for people with massive prejudice.

Quoting pansyprincess:

It's a logical conclusion.  Which is probably why you didn't get there.  :)


Quoting SherryBerry106:


I never stated, anywhere that I condoned their behavior, I don't, same as I don't condone the religion haters in this thread that have jumped to conclusions that are not warranted.

I'm non-hypocritical like that.

Quoting pansyprincess:

You don't know what religious means?  The only other people that seems to be against homosexuality besides religious folks are old people who are just ignorant and don't handle change well.

These people were whining for religious reasons.  Everyone knows it.  Obviously we can't confirm it without tracking them down. 

I expect someone like you to try and make excuses for their behaviour though.  So feel free to continue on. 


Quoting SherryBerry106:


I don't even know what "the religious" means.

Not everyone who doesn't approve of the Homosexual lifestyle and agenda is religious, that is simply a fact.

Quoting pansyprincess:

Nope.  Can you name anyone but the religious who are obsessed with homosexuality?


Quoting SherryBerry106:

Anyone?

Is religion mentioned anywhere in the story - or is this simply a chance to bash religion?

(if it is written there and I missed it, just point to it).















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