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Before You Post Something Derogatory About Shopping On Thanksgiving…

Posted by on Nov. 27, 2013 at 11:42 PM
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Let me tell you a few stories.

On Christmas Day, 1999, I was waking up alone. My 4-year old child was spending Christmas with his Dad and I was bored and bitter and jealous of my friend who worked at a breakfast place down the road because – at least she could make money on Christmas. I worked in a lab at my college so I was alone AND unable to work to make money. Our pitiful Christmas tree that year was filled with presents from the Dollar Store because we had also been closed over Thanksgiving break and my November paycheck was smaller than usual. Making extra money that time of year would have been perfect. I had another friend who had to work that day and was missing Christmas with her family and – while I felt bad for her because she was irritated about missing family time – she also joked that half of her friends had offered to wear wigs and pose as her that day, but only if they could keep the tips they made.

One of my last Christmases at home, where I was raised by a single Dad and had a brother, we were bored after the 30-minute Christmas present opening session. It was cold and rainy and we decided to drive around town to see if there was any place open for breakfast. We were thrilled to find a Denny’s that was open and we had a great meal there while with several elderly single customers. Dad tipped really well.

I have only ever gone shopping on Black Friday once in my life. I hate shopping and I always avoid it. When I was out that day I noticed clans of women – usually a few generations – traveling in packs. I realized that the whole Black Friday thing was often about saving money, but mostly about a fun – often family – adventure for those people who liked shopping. I suddenly became jealous of all of those people.

Points to Consider

  • There are a lot of minimum wage workers who have paychecks smaller than usual right around the holidays, just because the place where they work is closed and maybe they were shorted a shift. Big stores sometimes have an employee base where they can try to give off the people who want it off – and trust me – there are PLENTY OF PEOPLE who want to work those days. Edited to add clarification: I do not mean this as a blanket statement…I have some friends who chose to work, and some who asked for it off at big chains and several friends got what they asked. SO! I only mean that locally and sometimes. This was pointed out in the comments so I added the clarification. So, yes…while many would like the day off to spend with their families…they don’t get paid for that day off like you do. They don’t get paid holidays. If their store/restaurant/etc is closed on a Holiday, they get to see their families, but they also have to hope they get an extra shift elsewhere in the week to make up for it on their paycheck.
  • There are a LOT of non-traditional families around you. Single people who don’t have family, or can’t afford to travel to see family for a one-day holiday. Those people sit at home all day and can’t even run out for an I’m Bored trip to the store because everything is closed. And the reminder of everything that is closed is also a reminder that they’re alone or different from the rest of their community. They aren’t trying to crap on their family by shopping at Target, they’re trying to just have a normal day since it’s just Thursday in their world.
  • A lot of those crazy people who get out to bargain shop? Are doing it in groups with friends and/or family. They aren’t ditching their family at the dinner table to buy a gaming console, they’re enjoying some fun after a day of feeding their family. Or maybe it’s their escape/therapy. There are a lot of sisters and mothers/daughters or best friends heading out for a fun trip together. It’s not some lone crazy woman leaving a family of 6 starving to death at home while they get a good deal on a tablet.
  • Movie Theaters are open on Christmas so families can go see movies together. I know dozens of families who love seeing movies with their family Christmas evening. Why is that an okay holiday outing where it’s okay to ask people to work their job at the theater? I think groups going shopping together are probably actually talking to each other, which is usually a more fruitful family outing than quietly watching a movie. If you don’t judge people who see movies on Christmas, then I don’t see how you can judge people who shop on Thanksgiving.


In Summary – If you have a job that is paying you for your Thanksgiving Holiday: Be Thankful. If you have a family and are enjoying their company all day and would have no desire to leave them to shop on Thanksgiving? Be Thankful. If you think those crazy Christmas shopping crowds are terrifying and therefore do all of your shopping online to avoid them? Be Thankful. And if you have to go to Target or some store on Thanksgiving – or ANY day for that matter – remember there’s always a chance the person helping you is missing something – Thanksgiving Dinner, a soccer game, a parent/teacher conference – to do the job you’re watching them do. So, make sure you treat them with kindness and respect. And just Be Thankful that you live a lifestyle where you have the family and the resources to be snarky about people shopping on Thanksgiving.

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by Whoopie on Nov. 27, 2013 at 11:50 PM
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I am working tomorrow by choice. My parents live close to the facility where I work, so I would be traveling there regardless.  I do not really enjoy the TGD foods, so working is a no brainer for me.

I also volunteered to work 3-7PM on Christmas Day- again, because I can still spend the day with family, and give another nurse the opportunity to work during the day and still have dinner with their family-

Shrugs- in a capitalistic society, some places never close.

by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 11:53 PM
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I understand some people need to or want to work on Thanksgiving. But I'm still upset my mom will miss her first real holiday with my daughter. She may or may not get Christmas off, we don't know yet.
by on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:07 AM
It's good for those who need the money and don't mind working on holidays. But I feel bad for those who want to be with family.
Actually, we might shop after dinner tomorrow evening. Better than goin out at 2 am on Friday !
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by AllieCat on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:09 AM
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Many people have to work tomorrow.

So be it.

Money to be made.

Shopping, however, for myself, is not necessary nor something I can even imagine doing.  I would rather stay home with my family and enjoy the day and relax.

My ex husband wanted to pick up our daughter Thanksgiving night at 6pm so they could head out to shop.  His visitation doesn't even begin until Friday at 5pm.  No.  Then he wanted to pick her up Friday morning at 5:30am to go shopping.  No.

There is nothing out there worth it.  

by Ruby Member on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:21 AM

I get your sentiment.  I wish it applied to my job.  I work Christmas day and New Year's day.

by Gold Member on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:42 AM
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I take call tomorrow-  life goes on, people live and people die, they need healthcare, food etc.  Shopping isn't important to me, especially not with a lot of people around- but hey, kudos to the workers and the shoppers. workers are making money, taking care of other people as shoppers or patients, etc. And shoppers are likely having fun, fine by me... Destress a bit. 

And the thankful part- we should be thankful every day, even when times are hard... Especially then. :)

by on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:49 AM
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Yeah I still think shopping on a holiday is stupid. It's the way I was raised. Black Friday started out okay but it has turned into a damn circus. Emt , police and fire truck detail shouldn't be at Walmart just my two cents. I don't agree with the article but to each their own
by on Nov. 28, 2013 at 12:55 AM
Do they not have to pay for holidays in the states?

I know in Canada if a holiday falls on a regular work day you get paid and if you work that holiday you get double pay.
by Angie on Nov. 28, 2013 at 1:28 AM

I will never shop on Thanksgiving, and in all the years that I worked (25) I made it known in the door that I did not work Thanksgiving, Christmas, Good Friday or Easter Sunday.

by Woodie on Nov. 28, 2013 at 6:26 AM
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Up until a couple of years ago people accepted that they weren't going to be able to go shopping on Thanksgiving. Was it the employees badgering mgmt to open that changed this? Or was it corporate greed trying to make more money? 

My daughter isn't coming home because she has to work 8-midnight tonight.

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