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Boy Wears Skirt to School Because Parents Lack Common Sense

Posted by on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:14 AM
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by Jeanne Sager May 11, 2011 at 7:45 AM

school uniformWhen the school sent home an itemized list of what the elementary school kids could and couldn't wear as the weather got warmer, my husband threw it in the recycling bin. We don't dress our kid like a floozy, he figured, so why even bother looking at it? Let's just say it's a good thing I saw the school logo and fished it back out of there.

Because as a little boy who is wearing a skirt to his school in England to protest a punitive dress code that forces boys to wear pants even when it's sweltering out, common sense isn't enough when it comes to dressing your kids for school. The boy, 12-year-old Chris Whitehead, has made international news for his protest of the unequal treatment of boys and girls.

While boys have to wear long pants, girls are allowed to wear skirts that allow a cool breeze on their legs. Whitehead's hoping the school will relent on the boys' side, giving them a chance to wear shorts. I could see it backfiring pretty easily -- losing the girls the right to wear skirts too to even things out.

But he highlights how silly these broad brush policies are. Take the policy at my kid's school. It warns that no tank tops shall be worn. I don't have a problem with that per se. Rules are rules, and we follow them. At 5, I had to laugh at the vision of my daughter in a tank top causing a stir. Picture a 16-year-old with bouncing boobs and my 5-year-old. Yeah, you laughed too, didn't you? The district-wide policy comes across as a bit silly when you think about a 5-year-old versus a teenager.

Especially when I look at ways I could get around it. My kid has several tank tops that I picked up at one of her favorite stores with chunky straps that essentially look like a t-shirt with the sleeves cut off. Sometimes called muscle tanks, they cover as much skin as her other shirts, save for the tippy top of her arms. Common sense told me that was fine. But if I hadn't fished the paper out of the bin, I probably would have been called in to bring a change of clothing for my kid. Mom fail!

The rules technically state only that the chest and midriff on kids need to be covered at all times. So I COULD cut the sleeves off her t-shirt and send her in with essentially the same item ... with a different name. It's not a tank top! It's a t-shirt! Hey, that's what's gotten little Chris Whitehead in the door with his skirt on. 

I'll be honest. I feel BAD for school administrators. They have to have something on paper to back them up when a kid walks into school with a handkerchief covering her boobs and not much else. I wouldn't put it past some of these kids to wear pasties to class if they could. No, it isn't the school's fault. It's the loss of common sense on the parenting level.

If all parents could be trusted to make good choices, Chris Whitehead wouldn't have to wear a skirt to class. I wouldn't have to put perfectly nice tank tops in the "for play only" drawer.

Does your school dress code floor you? Do you see it as a necessary evil or just plain evil?

 

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Its.me.Sam.
by Silver Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:16 AM
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if a girl can where a skirt - so should a boy be able to.  plain and simple IMO.
 

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:19 AM

True. It would nice if he could wear shorts though.

Quoting Its.me.Sam.:

if a girl can where a skirt - so should a boy be able to.  plain and simple IMO.
 


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Its.me.Sam.
by Silver Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:21 AM

yeah i dont get why there has to be different rules for boys and girls.  its teaching them at such an early age that clothing the female body should have some special set of rules.  if the dress code is long pants then ALL shoudl wear long pants... if showing leg is allowed then it should be allowed for all.

Quoting paganbaby:

True. It would nice if he could wear shorts though.

Quoting Its.me.Sam.:

if a girl can where a skirt - so should a boy be able to.  plain and simple IMO.
 



canadianmom1974
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:27 AM
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Our dress code (division wide) is just common sense. No short shorts, no obscene or inappropriate logos/sayings on shirts, no midriffs, no low cut shirts. Nothing outrageous in my opinion.
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:27 AM

I get that either. When my mom was in school, she said girls were NEVER allowed to wear shorts or pants. Skirts or dresses only. Very odd...

Quoting Its.me.Sam.:

yeah i dont get why there has to be different rules for boys and girls.  its teaching them at such an early age that clothing the female body should have some special set of rules.  if the dress code is long pants then ALL shoudl wear long pants... if showing leg is allowed then it should be allowed for all.

Quoting paganbaby:

True. It would nice if he could wear shorts though.

Quoting Its.me.Sam.:

if a girl can where a skirt - so should a boy be able to.  plain and simple IMO.
 




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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:28 AM

Shoot, that's my dress code at home,lol.

Quoting canadianmom1974: Our dress code (division wide) is just common sense. No short shorts, no obscene or inappropriate logos/sayings on shirts, no midriffs, no low cut shirts. Nothing outrageous in my opinion.


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jcrew6
by Platinum Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:37 AM
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We moved to our current state. Some of the strictest dress code requirements we have experienced in nearly a dozen states.

But, we like it. No holes in jeans. Anywhere. No baggy jeans with underwear showing. No tanks. No hair color that is unnatural. Boys can't have hair past their collar. Piercing in ears only. No visible tattoos. No advertising/phrases on clothing.
DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:41 AM
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I find it pretty despicable a parent made a boy wear a skirt for their protest. I agree dress codes need to be revised. I live in FL. Its pretty damn hot here a lot. Especially when we start school. Tank tops are banned. it's ridiculous. I understand banning low cut and revealing clothing, but HELLO?!? 3/4 of the clothes we own down here are tank tops because it's hot! To my knowledge there is nothing randy about a 6 year old in a tank top. I also find the ban of flip flops insane. Again it's HOT HERE. for PE days? I get it, but for the rest when they claim the kids could get hurt by wearing them? Nuts. I guess they are just lucky the other 90% of the time? Ugh... 

While I like Jeanne normally? I find it ridiculous to compare a parent using their kid as their own protest versus the real problem of ridiculous dress code policies. I'd never send my "boy" to school in a skirt for any reason. That's wrong. 

DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:44 AM

I'm not on board with no tank tops, or the hair color and length thing, but I'm good with the rest, 

Quoting jcrew6: We moved to our current state. Some of the strictest dress code requirements we have experienced in nearly a dozen states.

But, we like it. No holes in jeans. Anywhere. No baggy jeans with underwear showing. No tanks. No hair color that is unnatural. Boys can't have hair past their collar. Piercing in ears only. No visible tattoos. No advertising/phrases on clothing.


teri4lance
by Silver Member on Dec. 9, 2013 at 12:48 AM

my son'slat school had this too - skirts ok but boys ca't wear shorts. I thought it was some bullshit. 

his new school allows shorts. 

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