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Lawsuit: Mississippi school forced ‘pathetic dyke’ to use the boys’ bathroom

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2013 at 5:37 PM
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By David Edwards
Wednesday, December 18, 2013 11:05 EST
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A civil rights organization filed a lawsuit on Tuesday after a Mississippi school district refused to change its policies that allegedly resulted in a lesbian student being bullied for months.

The Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) said on Tuesday that it had met with Mississippi’s Moss Point School District in March to ask officials to change policies because Destin Holmes had been bullied to the point of attempting suicide.

“We are disappointed that the district fails to see the serious harm its deliberate inaction causes its students,” SPLC staff attorney Anjali Nair said on Tuesday. “District officials who are entrusted with the safety and education of all students not only ignored, dismissed and even blamed victims for the abusive behavior of faculty and other students, they also participated in discriminatory acts.”

According to the lawsuit, the anti-LGBT comments started after Holmes enrolled at Magnolia Junior High in 2011. The complaint said that teachers would call her a “he/she” and she was forced to use the boys’ restroom. Students regularly referred to her as “dyke,” “lesbo” and “dyke-ass freak.”

After meeting with Holmes’ father in March 2012, Assistant Principal LaJuna Payton brought the student in for a talk and called her a “pathetic fool,” and said, “I don’t want a dyke in this school.”

Holmes’ father later met with the principal again and realized that the school’s hostility gave him no choice but to homeschool his daughter.

“We’re asking that the district to create policies and procedures that will hold the district accountable for responding and investigating reports of harassment. We’re also seeking financial relief for Destin and her family for the harm that she suffered,” Nair told WLOX.

For her part, Destin said she hoped that school officials would “open up their mind and realize you don’t need to bully somebody just because they want to date girls or they want to be gay, or they want to be lesbian, or bi, or a transgender. I’m hoping it will just stop.”

The district said that it could not comment to the lawsuit, but it placed the “highest priority” on “[p]rotecting our students from acts of bullying, harassment, intimidation and threats by any individual.”


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billsfan1104
by Jules on Dec. 18, 2013 at 5:43 PM
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Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??
I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.
With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
meriana
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 8:50 PM

The complaint said that teachers would call her a “he/she” and she was forced to use the boys’ restroom

I'm wondering how they could force her to use the boy's restroom. Did they have some instructor or administrator go with her whenever she needed to use a restroom and make sure she went into the boys restroom? If it was the students, again, how did they force her to use the boys facility?

lga1965
by on Dec. 18, 2013 at 9:15 PM
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It hurts to be bullied. And you don't fight back with fists. That's ugly and ignorant and low class.
Schools need to step up and crack down on bullies.


Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??

I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.

With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
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billsfan1104
by Jules on Dec. 18, 2013 at 9:38 PM
I wish people would read. I didn't say with just fists. I said with words first.

Quoting lga1965: It hurts to be bullied. And you don't fight back with fists. That's ugly and ignorant and low class.

Schools need to step up and crack down on bullies.




Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??


I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.


With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
codfish
by Bronze Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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I am sorry but I have a hard time believing the teachers and principles said these things.
trippyhippy
by Gold Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 10:36 PM
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So she should hit the teachers and principle?

Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??
I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.
With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.


lga1965
by on Dec. 18, 2013 at 10:38 PM
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I know you said WORDS too. I read quite well.
I have been reading since I was 4.
I was skipped a grade.
I mentioned your "fists" comment because it is inappropriate to use fists to deal with people of all ages. />
Quoting billsfan1104: I wish people would read. I didn't say with just fists. I said with words first.

Quoting lga1965: It hurts to be bullied. And you don't fight back with fists. That's ugly and ignorant and low class.


Schools need to step up and crack down on bullies.




Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??



I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.



With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
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Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 11:07 PM
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Victim blaming 101. And encouraging violence "if necessary" as well. This response is disturbing.

Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??

I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.

With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
Bookwormy
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2013 at 11:08 PM
Why is that?

Quoting codfish: I am sorry but I have a hard time believing the teachers and principles said these things.
billsfan1104
by Jules on Dec. 18, 2013 at 11:08 PM
Sometimes fists will do the job. I don't think that should be the first action, but if it continues, maybe someone should be knocked the fuck out for being a bully

Quoting lga1965:
I know you said WORDS too. I read quite well.
I have been reading since I was 4.
I was skipped a grade.
I mentioned your "fists" comment because it is inappropriate to use fists to deal with people of all ages. />
Quoting billsfan1104: I wish people would read. I didn't say with just fists. I said with words first.

Quoting lga1965: It hurts to be bullied. And you don't fight back with fists. That's ugly and ignorant and low class.


Schools need to step up and crack down on bullies.




Quoting billsfan1104: Did she record the conversation, is there proof that this conversation took place??



I do not think that she should of been bullied and if she was, the school should have taken action.



With that being said, our society is raising a bunch of wimps. People are teased and the first thing they want to do is shoot up a school or commit suicide. Toughen up and fight back with words or if you have to, with fists.
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