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According to Richard Land, Southern Baptist Leader: Single Moms Should Put Their Kids Up For Adoption

Posted by on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:10 PM
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I cannot even imagine why anyone would say something like this.

Baptist Leader Calls Single Moms Selfish For Not Putting Kids Up For Adoption

In a Christian Post column his week, Southern Baptist leader Richard Land argues that single women are unqualified to raise their children and should always give their kids up for adoption as “the best option for everyone concerned.”

“Keeping the baby is almost never preferable to allowing a baby to be adopted into a solid, faithful Christian home,” Land writes. Although Land notes that there are “more than 100,000 children in foster care in America alone,” he cites the Judgment of Solomon to suggest that single mothers are being selfish by not putting their kids up for adoption.

Currently there are more than 100,000 children in foster care in America alone, with many times more across the globe, awaiting permanent adoption into loving "forever" families.

Adoption is not only the best answer for the heartache and loneliness of foster children and those in orphanages both here and around the world, but it is also the best answer in almost every case where a mother finds herself with a "problem" pregnancy. Such pregnancies can arise from numerous circumstances, but most commonly they are a "problem" because the father is not married to the mother. Currently, almost all such single mothers choose either to abort or keep their babies (only 1 percent of such pregnancies currently end in adoption). Last year, 53 percent of babies born to women under thirty were born to single mothers. And yet, though adoption is seldom chosen in response to such pregnancies, it is virtually always the best option for everyone concerned.

Killing your "problem" or "unwanted" pregnancy through abortion is never an acceptable option (unless the child is a direct and immediate threat to the mother's continued physical life.) In an abortion, the baby always dies, and we lose that child's unique and never to be known God-given gifts and contributions to the world. Further, an abortion is much more traumatic physically to a mother's future reproductive life than carrying a baby to term would be. There are also often lingering psychological issues for the mother as well.

Keeping the baby is almost never preferable to allowing a baby to be adopted into a solid, faithful Christian home. A single mother who keeps her baby is quite often denying that baby the father that God wants for that baby, and every baby, to have. Furthermore, in most circumstances, keeping the baby circumscribes and forecloses both the mother's and the baby's economic futures in tragic and unfortunate ways.

If the mother is doing what is best for her baby (one of the defining marks of maternal love), she will part with her baby so that it will have the future God intended for him or her to have. The Old Testament story of the two harlots who both had babies and one died in the night comes to mind (1Kings 3). Both women claimed the surviving baby was their child and wanted the king to give the baby to them. King Solomon decided to have the baby divided in two and each be given half. Immediately, the real mother told the king to give the baby to the other woman in order to save the child's life. In other words, she was thinking of the child's best interest, not her own.

Adoption allows the mother to give her child both a mother and a father who will love and cherish the child.

http://thecontributor.com/religion/baptist-leader-calls-single-moms-selfish-not-putting-kids-adoption

A few other places this has been posted:

http://childfriendlyfaith.org/2013/12/conservative-christian-leader-says-single-moms-should-put-their-kids-up-for-adoption/

http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/land-single-moms-selfish-should-always-put-kids-adoption

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2013/11/27/single-moms-surrender-kids-land/

by on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:10 PM
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Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:13 PM
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I wonder what he say about the choice between a child staying with a devoutly Christian single mother, or being adopted by a married Muslim couple?

GLWerth
by Gina on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:19 PM

I can guess, but I try not to use that kind of language here.

Quoting Clairwil:

I wonder what he say about the choice between a child staying with a devoutly Christian single mother, or being adopted by a married Muslim couple?


furbabymum
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:22 PM
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 Is it just publisized more or are people really getting crazier?

mcginnisc
by Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:22 PM
I did not read all of it, but as an adoptive mother I will say he is a moron.
momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:23 PM
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A faithful Christian home, if the religion was Southern Baptist, wouldn't be a home environment I would choose for my baby, were I single and pregnant.  Especially if the child was a girl.  

ashellbell
by shellbark on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:23 PM
What a douche
ashellbell
by shellbark on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:23 PM
That's the truth!

Quoting momtoscott:

A faithful Christian home, if the religion was Southern Baptist, wouldn't be a home environment I would choose for my baby, were I single and pregnant.  Especially if the child was a girl.  

mikiemom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:24 PM
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Sigh, these people need to just stfu already. What a heartless sociopath this man is.

So they don't want her having an abortion, didn't want to give her BC so she could prevent the pregnancy and think that they should take the child if she choosed to keep the child. Seriously where do these deranged lunatics come from?

ceedee77
by on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:25 PM
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A friend of mine become a widow while she was pregnant. I'll be sure to let her know what Richard Land thinks she should have done. 

autodidact
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:27 PM
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According to me, Richard Land should eat shit and die. 

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