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FINALLY! A Gay Guy who GETS How Real World Traditionalists Think and Interact and it is OK!

Posted by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:46 AM
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 What a breath of fresh air!  A gay guy who gets it, and is mature enough to have a relationship with his conservative brother, rather than excoriates and spews hatred at every individual who does not support redefining marriage, as is typical. 

THIS is how the real world amongst educated people - as opposed to CafeMom world - actually works.

From here:

State Sen. Delph, leading lawmaker for same-sex marriage ban, has gay brother

Feb. 14, 2014
State Sen. Mike Delph, R-Carmel, (left) and his brother, Stephen.
State Sen. Mike Delph, R-Carmel, (left) and his brother, Stephen. / Photo provided by Sen. Mike Delph
 
 When state Sen. Mike Delph launched what some are calling a Twitter filibuster in support of a proposed same-sex marriage ban, critics were quick to ask him a pointed question: Do you even know any gay people?

 "When was the last time you had a REAL interaction and built a relationship if communication with a gay person?" one person tweeted. 

 The Carmel Republican had a ready response: "My brother Steve, my entire life." 

 In an interview with The Indianapolis Star, that brother, Stephen Delph, staunchly defended his brother - though not his position on gay marriage. 

 Despite the senator's efforts to ban same-sex marriage, his older brother, a 46-year-old Carmel resident, said they have a tight-knit relationship. 

 "I did his wife's makeup for his wedding," said Stephen Delph. "I've baby-sat their kids. After the death of my father and grandmother, Mike was the most supportive." 

 Stephen Delph said his brother has seen him win pageant titles in drag and has met his boyfriends. Once, Mike Delph even tried to set him up with a gay friend, Stephen said. 

 "During his swearing in, I'm down there with makeup and long hair and Ralph Lauren turtleneck, meeting everyone, and he had no problem with that," Stephen said. "He knows I'm artistic and different, and he has no problems with that at all. ... Never once has he called me evil or an abomination. He's never told me I'm unChristianlike." 

 In fact, his younger brother stuck up for him after Stephen came out as a 13-year-old student in Carmel-Clay schools.

"He got in fights to defend me."

That information may come as a shock to some gay rights advocates given the senator's relentless defense of a constitutional same-sex marriage ban now pending in the General Assembly.

After failing to get other GOP lawmakers to go along with his effort Thursday to also ban civil unions in the legislation, Delph fired off more than 200 tweets within 18 hours.

He took shots at several local churches, Republican leadership and The Indianapolis Star.

“And that folks is our self absorbed Godless culture that is fast tracking our nation to ruin,” one tweet said.

“If I believe that sin separates a person from God and heaven is paradise, do I truly love that individual if I say or do nothing?” he said in another.

During the Twitter spree, critics slammed Delph. Some tweets got personal. When one person criticized Delph for home schooling his children, he shot back: “Classy! Attack my daughters. You need your ass kicked!”

Even though he disagrees with his brother’s position on same-sex marriage, Stephen Delph said he loves his nieces and is disgusted that they’ve been brought into the fray.

“There’s below the belt and then there’s at the toenails. That’s at the toenails,” he said. “I’m very concerned if the gay community is doing this.”

Stephen Delph said he has made an effort to sway his brother on the issue of same-sex marriage.

“We’ve had numerous talks about it,” Stephen said. “I have asked him to consider, if I have a significant other and it gets to that level, how would you feel if we adopted a child?”

But so far, he hasn’t moved his brother, he said.

“He doesn’t hate homosexuals. He just believes in the traditional marriage values. He’s a conservative. He makes no bones about it,” Stephen said. “It’s like one person saying my favorite color is purple and the other person saying my favorite color is yellow.”

Mike Delph declined to comment for this story but said he would be making an announcement of some kind Monday.

The Senate is expected to approve the constitutional same-sex marriage ban that day, without the civil unions sentence. If it does, that change means a second General Assembly would need to approve the measure next year or in 2016 before it could go to voters for final consideration.

In the meantime, Delph’s position is likely to stay in the forefront. He’s running against an openly gay Democrat in the November election.

J.D. Ford, a 31-year-old senior director of recruitment at the international headquarters of Theta Chi fraternity, said Delph’s Twitterthon has brought unexpected attention to the campaign in a district that is heavily Republican.

“The campaign has gotten a lot of attention, which I’m happy about,” he said. “The election in November is going to present a very clear contrast. Voters can choose Senator Delph’s views, or they could choose a different candidate like me, who won’t berate them for expressing a different opinion from mine.”

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candlegal
by Judy on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:50 AM
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His brother understands principles are part of who you are.

stormcris
by Christy on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:53 AM

Interesting...

I wonder though does the Senator support the same legal conditions to be available to same sex unions and just oppose the use of the word. I wonder if most people who oppose same sex marriage would support all the legal considerations be applied to all.

SuperChicken
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:56 AM
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"Stephen Delph said he has made an effort to sway his brother on the issue of same-sex marriage.

We’ve had numerous talks about it,” Stephen said. “I have asked him to consider, if I have a significant other and it gets to that level, how would you feel if we adopted a child?”

But so far, he hasn’t moved his brother, he said."

That is so sad :(   Even the thought of his own brother can't melt his heart to the point where he doesn't feel he has to force everyone to live by his beliefs.      The gay brother seems like a great guy, but I have to wonder about the straight brother being just fine with the gay brother being part of his family and babysitting his kids while he does every thing he can to make sure that he'll never have a family of his own just because he's gay.   Heartbreaking really. 

Josie_P
by Member on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:57 AM
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Lol at redefining marriage.
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Iconoclast
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 9:59 AM
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I love when certain groups become important when they (or a member of that group) approves an argument against said group.
lga1965
by Ruby Member on Feb. 15, 2014 at 10:00 AM
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 "Spews hate" ? Who? Where?

I haven't seen anyone spew hate uness it is to say that gays and lesbians are sinners.....!

Where is this "real world"? as opposed to CM. Seems to me that  bigotry against gays exists everywhere, like,.....in the "real world", not just CM.

Gays and straights in families love each other and don't discriminate or criticize. Why is this pair of brothers so unusual?

Ahhhhh, it all comes down to "traditional marriage". I see.

Marriage was a whole different thing, there were historically many different reasons for marriages,  before Christians decided to define marriage.

I believe that people who love each other all can marry. If two women or two men marry, it won't hurt YOUR marriage so why get yourself all in a tizzy?

Iconoclast
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 10:01 AM
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IKR gotta love that argument

Quoting Josie_P: Lol at redefining marriage.
Iconoclast
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 10:03 AM
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coolmommy2x
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2014 at 10:04 AM
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I would hope so because how can you love and support your brother and then push for legislation that is against him? How would he feel if his brother pushed for legislation to ban hmeschooling (since the senator does that)? would he be OK with that or would he feel betrayed?

Quoting stormcris:

Interesting...

I wonder though does the Senator support the same legal conditions to be available to same sex unions and just oppose the use of the word. I wonder if most people who oppose same sex marriage would support all the legal considerations be applied to all.

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momtoscott
by Gold Member on Feb. 15, 2014 at 10:05 AM
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And I hope that his gay brother lovingly and respectfully casts his vote for other candidate in November.  

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