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Why do gays scare conservatives?

Posted by on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:12 PM
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Why Are Conservatives So Freaked Out by Gays?

The push in Arizona to legalize discrimination didn’t come out of nowhere. It was a response to the imaginary belief in the “homosexual agenda” of “total domination.”

Some on the right are really freaked out by gays. In fact, some don’t even want to do business with them.  You really need to have some serious issues with gay people to say “no” to their money in this challenging economy.

Why is fear mongering against the LGBT community part of the conservative platform? True, Arizona governor Jan Brewer just vetoed a bill that would’ve in essence legally sanctioned discrimination against members of the gay community, but still 13 other states are or have recently considered similar laws. 

People like Rush Limbaugh, Michelle Bachmann, and Tucker Carlson all publicly support the proposed Arizona law, with Carlson calling it necessary to prevent“fascism.” Tea Party Nation President Judson Phillips even said that without this law, Christians could be forced to bake wedding cakes in the shape of a giant penis.  

Then there are the influential conservative “Christian” groups who have long demonized gays, such as Bryan Fischer at the American Family Association (AFA) who said the “homosexual agenda” is “the greatest immediate threat to every freedom and right that is enshrined in the First Amendment.” Even the Republican Party’s 2012 platform made it seem like the end of days were approaching with their description of gay marriage as “an assault on the foundations of our society.” 

Is there really a nefarious “homosexual agenda”? Could it be that gay people personally did something to piss off the right?

Being neither gay nor a conservative, I wanted to figure out what’s up. So, I employed a two-prong approach: First, ask conservatives: What’s your problem with gays? Second, ask gay people to reveal their “homosexual agenda” and find out what the hell they are doing that scares the right so much?

I began by reaching out the conservative groups like AFA, The Family Research Council (FRC), and the Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF), which is the organization that championed the Arizona anti-gay bill.

Could it be that gay people personally did something to piss off the right?

Not all responded, but the AFA’s former general manager, Dr. Buster Wilson, responded via email in his personal capacity. Wilson explained the “homosexual agenda” in this light: “Simple ‘equality’ is not the goal of the gay activists.  They want total domination in some cases…not just ‘accept them’ but to bow to them and their wants.“

I also heard from a spokesperson for the FRC who forwarded me its organization’s pamphlet, “The Top Ten Myths About Homosexuality.” This pamphlet makes it clear that some at the FRC are truly obsessed with gays, it’s an almost a stalker-esque fixation with comments about the alleged dating and even sexual habits of gays.

I connected with a conservative Republican political strategist who wanted to remain anonymous. He explained that conservative Christians are not just opposed to homosexuality, but to all sins, like adultery and gluttony. However, he commented that adulterers aren’t having parades in the streets nor are they seeking legal protection to commit their sins.

Okay, let’s turn to the LGBT community. First, they all denied doing anything personally to piss off conservatives.  But each offered their own theory for the right’s fear and loathing.

Ross Murray, GLAAD’s Director of News, said that some conservatives are angry because they erroneously view freedom as a “zero-sum game,” meaning that if LGBT community achieves equal treatment under the law, they will lose it.  Murray explained that while many in the LGBT community no longer have to hide for fear of losing, “our jobs, our family, and all of our resources,” they are still subject to violent attacks and, “gay people can still be fired from their jobs in 29 states, and transgender people can be in 33.” 

Comedian Sabrina Jalees, in a moment of brutal candor, revealed a bit of the homosexual agenda: “You should see what we've got planned once we get our equal rights. We're gonna go ahead and keep living. Almost exactly the same was heterosexuals do, just with better clothes.”

Daily Beast columnist and CNN contributor Sally Kohn responded: "Apparently, fairness and equality just piss some people off…I'm not going to say that all the extremist homophobes are really just jealous.  So I won't say it.  But..."

Comedian Judy Gold was puzzled by the right’s anger considering: “They listen to our music and radio shows, watch our films…buy our clothes and jewelry, let us style their hair…and design their homes and offices.”

Jim David, also a comedian, responded succinctly: “People who aren't having any good sex are seriously threatened by those who are.” 

I also reached out to a person who straddles the two communities, Gregory Angelo, executive director of the Log Cabin Republicans. Angelo believes that only a small vocal portion of the right truly has issues with gays.  He was optimistic that many Republicans views of the LGBT community were evolving for the better, especially millennials.

However, the most alarming response was from a friend who works for a non-profit organization. He wouldn’t permit me to include his name in this article because a big part of his employer’s funding comes from a Christian organization and he fears being fired if they discover he’s gay.

So what’s my conclusion? Clearly some, not all, on the right are angry, afraid or simply freaked out by gay people.  They fear that the LGBT community, which is a small percentage of our population, will one day dominate America.

The LGBT community, on the other hand, simply seeks equal rights under the law.  They want to be judged on their work, not fired for their sexual orientation.

Who will win? Well, if our history of evolving on issues of race and religion is any guide, the LGBT community will prevail. It will take time and effort, but I predict confidently they will overcome, and that’s a good thing for our nation.


Denial ain't just a river in Egypt. - Mark Twain 

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FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:18 PM
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I read this the other day.

I have never, nor will I ever, be able to comprehend any individual who would, for any reason, make the conscience choice to lift a finger to hold someone back from what they themselves have, based on a book and deep rooted, misguided feelings.

There is no logical reason, try as some might, to deny another person what I myself can do in this life simply because I was born heterosexual.

Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:20 PM
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Quoting mcdun:


Second, ask gay people to reveal their “homosexual agenda” 

LindaClement
by Thatwoman on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:37 PM
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I love the meme 'LGBT community is having non-stop great sex.'

I know (and have known for decades) a fairly broad collection of LGBT folks, and I gotta say: on average, I'm having more of better quality than what they report...

Where comes the idea that they're not just people, who may or may not be good at or even very interested in sex? People who may be too busy or too distracted or too frustrated-over-where-the-towels-got-left... just like regular people living with other people who keep failing to be paragons of Perfectly Convenient & Thoughtful Housemates?

bellawomen
by Bronze Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:41 PM
Too much love.
MidwestMama55
by on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:41 PM
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*Big sigh* Conservatives are not afraid of gay people. Conservatives are not freaked out by gay people.

coolmommy2x
by Gold Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:43 PM
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I've been to 2 gay weddings and neither had a penis shaped cake. For argument's sake, what if a straight person wants a penis cake for a bachelorette party? I've seen pictures of them on CM so yes, people. Do want them. I guess the baker could put up a sign that says "We will not make penis cakes." End of problem!

People fear change and things that question their beliefs. In this case, it was conservatives but they're not the only ones who fear change and new ideas.
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bellawomen
by Bronze Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:46 PM
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Really gay pride parades offend people?? They are so much fun. Glitter, rainbows, whistles, dancing, laughing, cheering, support....yup. evil.
RandRMomma
by Maya on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:48 PM
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Because they're ignorant. People tend to hate things they don't understand. I wish people would take the time to educate themselves instead of holding on to outdated beliefs from a book that was written to control the masses.
RandRMomma
by Maya on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:49 PM
Pride parades push the "homosexual agenda." Of course they're evil!

Quoting bellawomen: Really gay pride parades offend people?? They are so much fun. Glitter, rainbows, whistles, dancing, laughing, cheering, support....yup. evil.
Sekirei
by Nari Trickster on Mar. 3, 2014 at 12:53 PM
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Quoting bellawomen: Really gay pride parades offend people?? They are so much fun. Glitter, rainbows, whistles, dancing, laughing, cheering, support....yup. evil.

being fabulous... >. >

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