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At Purity Balls, Young Girls Give Their Virginity to Their Fathers

Posted by on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:39 PM
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At Purity Balls, Young Girls Give Their Virginity to Their Fathers

At first glance they look like weddings: girls in white dresses, the exchanging of a ring, even the traditional father-daughter dance. But closer examination reveals that the girls are all around the age of 12, and the man giving the girl the ring is actually her father.

Welcome to the world of purity balls, a phenomenon that is how held in 48 states.

The purity movement began in the U.S. in the 1980s and now exists in over 17 countries and across America. The concept of a girl “giving” her virginity to her father's protection developed later on in alliance with Evangelical church movements.

Purity balls are held, as the name implies, to preserve a young girl’s purity; and purity, according to the movement, means abstinence of sexual contact of any kind, including kisses, until after marriage.

During the ceremony, fathers present their daughters with purity rings, which the girls wear to symbolize their commitment to virginity. By participating in the purity ball, a girl vows to remain pure until her wedding day and symbolically marries God.

“I will be pure in my own life as a man, husband and father,” reads a vow which the girl’s father must sign. In signing the vow, he chooses “before God to cover [his] daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity.”

The father also promises to “be a man of integrity and accountability as I lead, guide and pray over my daughter and my family as the High Priest in my home.”

As they lay down a white rose at the cross, the daughters silently commit to living pure lives before God.

One of the largest father-daughter purity balls has been held yearly in Broadmoor Hotel in Colorado Springs for the past 14 years.

Nightline Prime recently investigated the ceremony, and discovered that more than 60 fathers were participating in the movement to “pledge their daughter’s choices for purity.” The documentary follows two families through the ritual: the Wilsons, whose father Randy helped found the tradition; and the Johnsons, from Indiana.

Although both are committed to the idea of purity, the two families have raised their children quite differently: all seven Wilson children are home-schooled, while the Johnson children attend a regular high school.

“One of the things I think it’s important to remember is this is your desire to do it the Lord’s way and really save yourself from kissing a lot of toads along the way and wait for your prince charming to come along,” Ron Johnson says to his young daughter as he presents her with her purity ring.

As he places the gold ring on his daughter’s wedding finger, he reminds her that keeping herself pure is important. Ron tells his daughter that keeping the ring on her finger means that “from this point you are married to the Lord and your father is your boyfriend.”

Sources: http://www.dailymail.co.uk, http://abcnews.go.com

Photo Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk

by on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:39 PM
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Seracake
by Bronze Member on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:43 PM
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There is something very creepy about this, IMO.

romalove
by Roma on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:44 PM
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Speechless over the stupidity.
IhartU
by Gold Member on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:44 PM
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Some zealots really LOVE ceremonies and symbolism. Creepy...

Sisteract
by Whoopie on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:45 PM
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And the ring that daddy gives them-m placed on the right hand.

I agree, something just a bit off.

The F/D bond should be based on love, respect, knowledge, truth- My dad was far more concerned with my full character, health, education, skills, well being than my purity.

Freela
by Member on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:48 PM
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While I see nothing wrong about deciding to wait until marriage, I find the whole purity ball concept creepy and the idea of the father safeguarding the daughter's virginity archaic as well as creepy!  Why not empower girls themselves to make choices about sexuality rather than symbolically putting them under the dominion of one man (dad) until they are under the dominion of another (husband)? 

On a related note, is there a similar ceremony for boys to pledge purity?  Or is it only the virginity of the women that is important?

stormcris
by Christy on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:48 PM
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I do not think returning to the time that daughters were property of their fathers until that property was given to their husbands is a good idea.

PurdueMom
by Sherri on Mar. 23, 2014 at 1:54 PM
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When do  I get to take my son to a Purity Ball and marry him?

motha2daDuchess
by Bruja on Mar. 23, 2014 at 2:15 PM
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I saw a documentry about these things...creepy is just the tip of the iceburg

Bethsunshine
by on Mar. 23, 2014 at 2:15 PM
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I'm a conservative Christian and this even gives ME the willies!

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Mar. 23, 2014 at 2:19 PM
Uh...
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