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Daughter 'In Shock' to Find Her Messy Bedroom in the Driveway

Posted by on Apr. 4, 2014 at 6:18 AM
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Too far or effective problem solving?

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Craig Schlichenmeyer was fed up with having to tell his teenage daughter, Haley Sullivan, to clean up her messy room, so he took drastic action.

Schlichenmeyer, a soldier from Long County, Ga., Monday moved all of his 17-year-old daughter's belongings to the driveway of the family's home, along with a plywood sign that read, "Haley, room moved to driveway/clean it next time."

"I put everything outside to say we're tired of being ignored," Schlichenmeyer told ABC News.

Sullivan got the news from her dad via a text message while she was on the bus home from school. "I thought he was kidding at first, so when I arrived home I was completely in shock," she said.

After the initial shock, Sullivan says she and her dad resolved the issue, with her admitting that she should listen to her father but also pointing out that, though her dad is a soldier, their home is not the Army.

"We ended up talking and working through it and deciding that I would take better initiative to clean my room," Sullivan said.

ABC News was there Wednesday when Sullivan and her father moved her things back inside her room, which also received a fresh coat of paint, at Sullivan's request. The family insists everything is okay and there are no hurt feelings, and Sullivan has promised to keep her room tidy.

Schlichenmeyer says he is proud of his daughter, an honor student, and wasn't trying to embarrass her.

"She's a regular teenager," Schlichenmeyer said. "[She] does her homework and then just wants to go out with her friends."

Schlichenmeyer's photo of his daughter's temporary, outdoor bedroom generated attention online after it was reported on by local media and posted to Facebook. Thousands of parents weighed in, either in support of Schlichenmeyer or saying he'd gone too far.

"Mission accomplished, if your mission was to humiliate your daughter in front of thousands of people," poster Carl G. Godbee wrote.

But Melanie Pittman Giles felt differently, writing: "Do not judge this parent! When one has exhausted seemingly sane and conventional methods of parenting you will do whatever it takes! Giving up or giving in is not an option when your child's welfare is at stake!!

Schlichenmeyer says, no matter the opinions, he believes his form of "punishment" for his daughter's messy room was effective.

"Overall, it kind of ended up being a good thing," he said. "I'm pretty sure she knows where I'm coming from if I tell her to clean her room."

Father moves daughter's room to driveway

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nelopyma
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 6:42 AM
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I'm not a fan of messy kids' rooms.  In fact, my 11 year old will be cleaning hers this weekend, because I can't navigate through it without killing myself or losing a toe.  But all that effort to get her to clean it?  Does the dad realize that he essentially cleaned it for her, lol?

Lindsey1126
by Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 6:44 AM
I think it's stupid.
stormcris
by Christy on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:13 AM
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I have tossed my kids rooms for the same thing, even took all their furniture out either in another room or onto the driveway. It's effective for a while at least. I never put a sign out though.

fullxbusymom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:22 AM
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Sorry but imo it is her room and should be able to keep it as she seems fit.  As long as you can walk in it without hurting yourself then so be it. 

momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:26 AM
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I think parents who resort to publicly shaming their kids in order to get them to behave need parenting classes.  

I have a 16-year-old son who cleans his room when we ask him to, though.  I think the last time we had trouble over straightening up was when he was 5.  All of us prefer to live in a neat house.  

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:27 AM
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I don't agree with this...part of parenting is teaching kids how to take care of their belongings. A child doesn't magically grow into a responsible adult able to take care of themselves and their things. There are also health and safety issues too.

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Sorry but imo it is her room and should be able to keep it as she seems fit.  As long as you can walk in it without hurting yourself then so be it. 


~Parenting is not a Competitive Sport~
Woodbabe
by Woodie on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:29 AM
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At least they're actively working on the problem...and I'd rather see that than a parent throwing their hands up and claiming they can't do anything to fix the problem!

Quoting momtoscott:

I think parents who resort to publicly shaming their kids in order to get them to behave need parenting classes.  

I have a 16-year-old son who cleans his room when we ask him to, though.  I think the last time we had trouble over straightening up was when he was 5.  All of us prefer to live in a neat house.  


~Parenting is not a Competitive Sport~
fullxbusymom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:34 AM

LOL I have done just fine but thanks for the concern. I did state that there couldn't be anything that could cause injury.  Meaning if I have to crawl over piles than that is a safety issue. 

My kids are taught and do take care of their things.  There is no health or safety issues. 

Quoting Woodbabe:

I don't agree with this...part of parenting is teaching kids how to take care of their belongings. A child doesn't magically grow into a responsible adult able to take care of themselves and their things. There are also health and safety issues too.

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Sorry but imo it is her room and should be able to keep it as she seems fit.  As long as you can walk in it without hurting yourself then so be it. 


momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:35 AM

I see both of those responses--throwing up hands and public shaming--as equally bad parenting.  And by "bad," I mean ineffective.  Parents need to be able to admit it, when what they're doing isn't working, and look for help so that they raise responsible, emotionally stable kids.   

Quoting Woodbabe:

At least they're actively working on the problem...and I'd rather see that than a parent throwing their hands up and claiming they can't do anything to fix the problem!

Quoting momtoscott:

I think parents who resort to publicly shaming their kids in order to get them to behave need parenting classes.  

I have a 16-year-old son who cleans his room when we ask him to, though.  I think the last time we had trouble over straightening up was when he was 5.  All of us prefer to live in a neat house.  


Rhodin
by Bronze Member on Apr. 4, 2014 at 7:38 AM
Maybe it was Trash Night and he wanted to make sure the neighbors didn't help themselves to his daughter's furniture.

Quoting stormcris:

I have tossed my kids rooms for the same thing, even took all their furniture out either in another room or onto the driveway. It's effective for a while at least. I never put a sign out though.

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