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Why people think naked men are gross?

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I just read an interesting article that I thought you guys would enjoy. I had never really given it much thought, but I always found it odd that so many people would say things like "Seeing that dude's butt scarred me for life". As a teenager I recall my friends expressing concern over ever having to see a man naked, saying their genitals were gross, meanwhile I just felt curious and not at all disgusted.

I don't think naked dudes are gross, I actually enjoy them. But apparently lots of people find male nudity to be upsetting. I've heard the same thing about naked men on television. That audiences can handle a naked woman, but not a naked man, and that showing penises, especially erect penises is considered too "hostile".

So, why is there so much body hatred for men?


by on Jun. 24, 2014 at 10:14 AM
Replies (31-40):
jllcali
by on Jun. 24, 2014 at 11:42 AM
It happened to me from a young age. I'm not traumatized by it, but I can see how other women might be, especially considering how many have beenssexually assaulted.

Quoting SilverSterling:

something like that happened to me in my early Tweens.. I just pointed at laughed at them... Honestly I was not a normal child... Might explain why I am not a normal adult too.. Just your part about flashing made me think of the couple of times men tried to flash me. They really didn't like being pointed or giggled at.. *shrugs*

Quoting jllcali: I don't think naked men are gross. I do think fully naked women present as more aesthetically pleasing in general, although I am not attracted to women. And I enjoy a nice naked male.

It also depends on how the penis is presented. Sometimes it just doesn't add to the picture to see a penis.

Another thing is, it is more common to have been exposed to a naked (or flashing) male against one's will than a naked female. As a kid, I was flashed by men I really didn't want to see naked. I can see how that could traumatize some kids and lead to an adult woman feeling uncomfortable seeing a naked man when she wasn't planning to.

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Seracake
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 11:47 AM

Oh I know what stereotypical means enough that I am capable of putting together a stereotypical judgment about someone who says their former teacher got a gay boy for a photo shoot.

Quoting EireLass:

You do understand what stereotypical means, don't you?  

Quoting Seracake:

Lol well I could certainly put together some stereotypical assumptions based off your comment but I won't. I can assure you, there is no stereotypical gay  male form just as there is no stereotypical heterosexual male form. There are many androgynous looking heterosexual men. 

Quoting EireLass:

They sure do.

But I assure you, this 'boy' was the sterotypical 'gay boy'. 

Now, had he hired a male model who was gay, but buffed out, had 'typiical' manly charicteristics, but gay....it would have worked for me. Perhaps he wasn't clear on what I meant when I asked for a MAN. 

Quoting Seracake:

Yes you did. Why you couldn't have simply said skinny, hairless and femme looking rather than "gay boy", I'll never know. Just so you're aware, "gay boys" appearance do vary from human being to human being. 

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe I mistakenly thought people would understand the look I was refering to. 

Quoting Seracake:

Do you think only gay boys can be skinny and femme looking? I'm curious why you felt you had to add your teacher "got a gay boy."

Quoting EireLass:

Skinny, hairless, femme looking.....also had the 'young boy' look going on.  

Quoting Seracake:

What about "the gay boy" he got was unappealing for photographs?

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe it's part of the obesity thing?  I hate the sight of fat men without clothes.

My husband is very physically fit...competitive weight lifter...so I like that look.

I am now a photog, and have had opportunity to photograph nude women. They are comfy, I am comfy, and the pics are very artistic when finished. I asked my old photog teacher to hire a male willing to go mostly nude. He got a gay boy. Nope....didn't look good to me.


 


 


 


 


EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 11:56 AM

You can think however you'd like, but obviously you know what I'm talking about by your comment.

I have both 'types' in my life. 

Same with the lesbians. Although I have a larger lesbian circle, and more of them are manly than fem. And quite a few are 'man-haters', been married, etc. I've never met a 'woman-hating' gay man though.

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

Why? So I can think more stereotypically about what a gay man should look like? I didn't say I've never met a gay man that looks like that, just that the gay men in MY life do not look like that. 

Quoting EireLass:

You should get out more. 

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

The gay boys I know do not look like that. LOL 

 

EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 11:58 AM

Well, it's good to see people here admit they're judgemental. 

Quoting Seracake:

Oh I know what stereotypical means enough that I am capable of putting together a stereotypical judgment about someone who says their former teacher got a gay boy for a photo shoot.

Quoting EireLass:

You do understand what stereotypical means, don't you?  

Quoting Seracake:

Lol well I could certainly put together some stereotypical assumptions based off your comment but I won't. I can assure you, there is no stereotypical gay  male form just as there is no stereotypical heterosexual male form. There are many androgynous looking heterosexual men. 

Quoting EireLass:

They sure do.

But I assure you, this 'boy' was the sterotypical 'gay boy'. 

Now, had he hired a male model who was gay, but buffed out, had 'typiical' manly charicteristics, but gay....it would have worked for me. Perhaps he wasn't clear on what I meant when I asked for a MAN. 

Quoting Seracake:

Yes you did. Why you couldn't have simply said skinny, hairless and femme looking rather than "gay boy", I'll never know. Just so you're aware, "gay boys" appearance do vary from human being to human being. 

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe I mistakenly thought people would understand the look I was refering to. 

Quoting Seracake:

Do you think only gay boys can be skinny and femme looking? I'm curious why you felt you had to add your teacher "got a gay boy."

Quoting EireLass:

Skinny, hairless, femme looking.....also had the 'young boy' look going on.  

Quoting Seracake:

What about "the gay boy" he got was unappealing for photographs?

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe it's part of the obesity thing?  I hate the sight of fat men without clothes.

My husband is very physically fit...competitive weight lifter...so I like that look.

I am now a photog, and have had opportunity to photograph nude women. They are comfy, I am comfy, and the pics are very artistic when finished. I asked my old photog teacher to hire a male willing to go mostly nude. He got a gay boy. Nope....didn't look good to me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

..MoonShine..
by Redwood Witch on Jun. 24, 2014 at 11:59 AM

I'm going based on your replies about "stereotypical gay boys" rather than "knowing what you're talking about." I had the same question that seracake had, she just asked it first. 

Quoting EireLass:

You can think however you'd like, but obviously you know what I'm talking about by your comment.

I have both 'types' in my life. 

Same with the lesbians. Although I have a larger lesbian circle, and more of them are manly than fem. And quite a few are 'man-haters', been married, etc. I've never met a 'woman-hating' gay man though.

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

Why? So I can think more stereotypically about what a gay man should look like? I didn't say I've never met a gay man that looks like that, just that the gay men in MY life do not look like that. 

Quoting EireLass:

You should get out more. 

Quoting ..MoonShine..:

The gay boys I know do not look like that. LOL 

 


Seracake
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 12:03 PM

Yes I readily admit you are judgmental and ill informed about gay boys. Hopefully you've learned there are no more stereotypical gay boys than there are stereotypical male forms. If you didn't learn, well, I tried.

Quoting EireLass:

Well, it's good to see people here admit they're judgemental. 

Quoting Seracake:

Oh I know what stereotypical means enough that I am capable of putting together a stereotypical judgment about someone who says their former teacher got a gay boy for a photo shoot.

Quoting EireLass:

You do understand what stereotypical means, don't you?  

Quoting Seracake:

Lol well I could certainly put together some stereotypical assumptions based off your comment but I won't. I can assure you, there is no stereotypical gay  male form just as there is no stereotypical heterosexual male form. There are many androgynous looking heterosexual men. 

Quoting EireLass:

They sure do.

But I assure you, this 'boy' was the sterotypical 'gay boy'. 

Now, had he hired a male model who was gay, but buffed out, had 'typiical' manly charicteristics, but gay....it would have worked for me. Perhaps he wasn't clear on what I meant when I asked for a MAN. 

Quoting Seracake:

Yes you did. Why you couldn't have simply said skinny, hairless and femme looking rather than "gay boy", I'll never know. Just so you're aware, "gay boys" appearance do vary from human being to human being. 

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe I mistakenly thought people would understand the look I was refering to. 

Quoting Seracake:

Do you think only gay boys can be skinny and femme looking? I'm curious why you felt you had to add your teacher "got a gay boy."

Quoting EireLass:

Skinny, hairless, femme looking.....also had the 'young boy' look going on.  

Quoting Seracake:

What about "the gay boy" he got was unappealing for photographs?

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe it's part of the obesity thing?  I hate the sight of fat men without clothes.

My husband is very physically fit...competitive weight lifter...so I like that look.

I am now a photog, and have had opportunity to photograph nude women. They are comfy, I am comfy, and the pics are very artistic when finished. I asked my old photog teacher to hire a male willing to go mostly nude. He got a gay boy. Nope....didn't look good to me.


 


 


 


 


 


IhartU
by Gold Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 12:04 PM

I just find that dangling or erect organ in between their legs to be unattractive but I love naked buttocks whether they be man or woman. Asses are like snowflakes- no two are exactly the same and the shapes fascinate me lol.

Gamer_mom1
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 12:04 PM

Women are more objectified. More feminine.

Men are more masculine and less objectified. So we find their bodies a little weird looking. But it also depends on the man. Some men look awesome. But you get the bald hairy old guy, yeah... sorry lol.

Gamer_mom1
by Bronze Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 12:06 PM
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Seriously I'm so liberal I'd make Obama blush and you're being a little ridiculous. You know exactly what she meant. You just found an opportunity to correct someone.

Quoting Seracake:

Yes I readily admit you are judgmental and ill informed about gay boys. Hopefully you've learned there are no more stereotypical gay boys than there are stereotypical male forms. If you didn't learn, well, I tried.

Quoting EireLass:

Well, it's good to see people here admit they're judgemental. 

Quoting Seracake:

Oh I know what stereotypical means enough that I am capable of putting together a stereotypical judgment about someone who says their former teacher got a gay boy for a photo shoot.

Quoting EireLass:

You do understand what stereotypical means, don't you?  

Quoting Seracake:

Lol well I could certainly put together some stereotypical assumptions based off your comment but I won't. I can assure you, there is no stereotypical gay  male form just as there is no stereotypical heterosexual male form. There are many androgynous looking heterosexual men. 

Quoting EireLass:

They sure do.

But I assure you, this 'boy' was the sterotypical 'gay boy'. 

Now, had he hired a male model who was gay, but buffed out, had 'typiical' manly charicteristics, but gay....it would have worked for me. Perhaps he wasn't clear on what I meant when I asked for a MAN. 

Quoting Seracake:

Yes you did. Why you couldn't have simply said skinny, hairless and femme looking rather than "gay boy", I'll never know. Just so you're aware, "gay boys" appearance do vary from human being to human being. 

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe I mistakenly thought people would understand the look I was refering to. 

Quoting Seracake:

Do you think only gay boys can be skinny and femme looking? I'm curious why you felt you had to add your teacher "got a gay boy."

Quoting EireLass:

Skinny, hairless, femme looking.....also had the 'young boy' look going on.  

Quoting Seracake:

What about "the gay boy" he got was unappealing for photographs?

Quoting EireLass:

Maybe it's part of the obesity thing?  I hate the sight of fat men without clothes.

My husband is very physically fit...competitive weight lifter...so I like that look.

I am now a photog, and have had opportunity to photograph nude women. They are comfy, I am comfy, and the pics are very artistic when finished. I asked my old photog teacher to hire a male willing to go mostly nude. He got a gay boy. Nope....didn't look good to me.


 


 


 


 


 



furbabymum
by on Jun. 24, 2014 at 12:06 PM

 I was thinking this may be because we're taught that if a man is showing things he's a pervert. I remember seeing very few guys in thongs at Water World when I was younger and when I did they were "gross perverts" for showing things.

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