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Chart of the Day: When does a woman owe you sex?

Posted by on Jul. 29, 2014 at 1:21 AM
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Apparently, there’s an emerging trend of dudes tracking when their partners refuse sex and whining about the “excuses” they use. Hoping to nip this one in the bud, Elizabeth Plank and Raquel Reichard put together a helpful chart to help you determine when a woman owes you sex:

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While a rampant sense of male entitlement to women’s bodies–which, as Plank explains, underpins so much of rape culture–means this reminder is particularly important for men to hear, it’s worth noting that the rule is gender neutral. Nobody owes anybody sex–which is why it’s so great when freely given.


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by on Jul. 29, 2014 at 1:21 AM
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-Celestial-
by Pepperlynn on Jul. 29, 2014 at 1:23 AM

I'm usually the one who initiates sex. I have a high sex drive..

Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2014 at 2:02 AM
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It's about equal with us. And we've probably rejected each other about equally. Doesn't happen often but it's not one sided.



Quoting -Celestial-:

I'm usually the one who initiates sex. I have a high sex drive..

stormcris
by Christy on Jul. 29, 2014 at 3:39 AM
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Bleh. My husband saw where a cop was charged with raping his wife. He said what she said no and he did it anyway? I said yes. He said "Stupid man!" He could still make that chart to address his feelings on the matter if he wanted to do so. It doesn't necessarily mean a man thinks a woman owes him sex. It means he is feeling neglected. That can be resolved without sex but their relationship may be in a rut that the only time he feels he gets attention is during sex thus the chart. Some people get so busy with their jobs and other interests their only together time is in bed. Plus, many men don't know how to sit and discuss emotions very well. A lot of people seldom are able to just open up about things that bother them. Just some thoughts...

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on Jul. 29, 2014 at 7:00 AM

We are adults and secure.  We get that sometimes one of us is more in the mood than the other. Sometimes we take one for the team but if someone isn't in the mood at all...It doesn't happen.

turtle68
by Mahinaarangi on Jul. 29, 2014 at 7:07 AM

I reject hubby all the time...Im over sex, he is not.  I dont owe him sex but feel sufficiently guilty for not giving it to him every time he is feeling frisky.  We're old FFS....when Ira when!!! sigh.

lub you long times my darling LMAO.

latashac
by Bronze Member on Jul. 29, 2014 at 9:01 AM

Ehh if you want things to be good, sex is necessary. Every time I see these things it amazes that people wonder why so many people cheat. Sometimes it isn't just abuot sex but most times it is. They are looking for something you don't give them. The concept is simple but thinking that just because you are in love or married should keep someone from straying is the biggest mistake people make.

EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jul. 29, 2014 at 9:37 AM
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Seeing as im heterosexual, a woman never owes me sex.
Mommabearbergh
by on Jul. 29, 2014 at 11:04 AM
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I saw the spread sheet the husband put on reddit and laugh super hard. Sex is owed to no one and if I say I don't want it here is some lotion and porn have fun. There are times people don't want sex and people shouldn't be made to have it.

dawnie1
by #1 Raider fan on Jul. 29, 2014 at 11:16 AM
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More than once I have said "no, I don't feel like it, but I will get you off."  It's what 3 min out of my day? It's the least I can do. lol  Keeps the Hub's prostate healthy!

Mommabearbergh
by on Jul. 29, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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it probably wasn't meant to be but I thought that was hella funny

Quoting dawnie1:

More than once I have said "no, I don't feel like it, but I will get you off."  It's what 3 min out of my day? It's the least I can do. lol  Keeps the Hub's prostate healthy!


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