Family members, beliefs and children -- What is appropriate?
Last week my daughter was at a family member's house when adults started discussing racial things ("Did you know that black people can run faster than white people because they have an extra bone in their foot?")
She felt uncomfortable, so she walked away. (I wasn't there.)
Later, my nephew, (age 12, same as my daughter) somehow wound up on the topic of homosexuality. He was talking about how wrong it was.
Again, she felt uncomfortable (because she disagrees with him) and so she walked away.
I'm proud of her from walking away from things that made her feel uncomfortable. I just wonder how to talk to her about other optional, proper responses--if I even need to suggest alternative responses, should she ever be unable to walk away. I'm completely fine with her speaking up and saying things like "No, it's not wrong to be gay." (etc.) but I also understand the desire to avoid conflict.
What's right? Do you feel it's a problem to avoid the topics? Would you encourage your child to speak up? Even if it was going to cause a problem with family?