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Why I Quit Being a Christian (in order to better follow Jesus)

Posted by on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:25 AM
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Why I Quit Being a Christian (in order to better follow Jesus)

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The day I truly became “born again” was the day I quit being a Christian.

I can only imagine that some of those reading these first few words, are only doing so because you had an aneurysm when you read the title and your hand accidentally clicked through the link. If that’s you, please bear with me- it’s not what you think.

You see, during my seminary days I experienced a crisis of faith as isn’t uncommon for seminarians. Between homiletics, hermeneutics, theories on atonement, systematic theology, emergent theology, and the theology of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, I had lost sight of nearly everything I had believed coming into seminary– which was especially frightening since I went into seminary thinking that I already knew everything I needed to know. The process of letting go of old theology and old ways of viewing the world without having anything tangible to replace it, left me in a tailspin. My identity, and my faith, were slipping away before me. I didn’t know who I was, wasn’t entirely sure what I believed, and had no idea what label I was supposed to wear. I came to realize how unfortunate destructive it can be to live under a cultural expectation that everything be labeled, nicely sorted, and placed on the shelf where it belonged.

It’s as if we don’t know what to do with something, unless we know the precise terminology as to what to call it.

For me, I wasn’t sure what to call it, and wasn’t sure I belonged anywhere. I didn’t know what label to wear, and I certainly didn’t know how to neatly compartmentalize everything I was thinking and feeling in such a way that avoided the tension of a shifting worldview. There was no avoiding it, and no getting out of it. People had told me that if I went to seminary the Bible would become more black-and-white, and I did, only to find out it was far more grey than I had ever expected.

It was a true crisis of identity. Until then, I had always self-identified as a Christian, and along with that, all of the theology and doctrine which had been passed down to me. My identity was clear, and doctrine was so spelled out that one was left to wrestle with very few questions. Until then, I was a Christian and I knew exactly what that meant.

But now? Now I didn’t know anymore. I was more convinced than ever that I wanted to follow Jesus, but realized how unfulfilling it had been to blindly follow American Christianity.

In the midst of the tension I met my Pastor friend, Joel, and confided in him about my crisis of faith– which was really more of a crisis of identity, because my faith wasn’t diminished, I just didn’t know what to do with the faith I had. During our conversation, he told me: “It sounds like you are experiencing a reorientation of your faith around the person of Jesus. It sounds like you’re no longer oriented on a tradition, or specific doctrine, but simply oriented on Jesus.”

For the first time in months, I experienced clarity like never before.

I just wanted to follow Jesus, period. I wasn’t interested in the Americanized version, wasn’t interested in black and white fundamentalist thinking, and wasn’t interested in the never ending garbage unfairly gets associated with him.

I just wanted him- because his way seems the best way, the most exciting way, and certainly the most radical way to live.

So, I quit being a Christian so that I could better follow Jesus.

Today, while there’s certainly nothing wrong with the label of Christian and I obviously wouldn’t refuse it, I prefer to self-identify simply as a follower of Jesus which has been tremendously helpful in transforming my life. Here are my reasons:

1. The term Christian means “Christ-like”, and that doesn’t describe me.

Sure, I want to be “Christ-like”, but no matter how hard I try, I’m not. I am broken, insecure, imperfect, flawed… to the core of my being. The only thing I ever found compelling about Calvinism was the concept of total depravity– I get that, because there’s not a single area of my life that’s pure. There’s not an area of my life that is actually “Christ-like”.

Jesus, is everything I am not but everything I wish that I could be. So, if I’m to be completely honest, for me to call myself a Christian would be the sin of dishonesty, because I’m not anything like him. He is totally different than me.

2. The term Christian implies that I have arrived at something, and I haven’t.

Probably a more accurate way to use the term would be to say that “I am trying to become Christian” (Christ-like). But to say I’m already there? I’m not. Anytime I can get just one small area of my life to actually be Christ-like, I celebrate as I look over my shoulder and see 19 other areas of my life that are totally not-like-Christ.

When I think of being a Christian, I get tempted to think I’ve arrived. When I get tempted to think that I’ve arrived, I start acting like I have- which breeds laziness, arrogance, and keeps me disconnected from the broken world around me which hasn’t arrived at anything yet either. I don’t want to separate myself from a broken and messy world- instead, I’d prefer to be right next to everyone else who’s like me (which is all of us) so that I can point towards the one who is gentle, loving, slow to anger, and who will one day clean up what’s messy and fix what’s been broken.

3. The term “Jesus Follower” seems entirely more accurate and appropriate, so that’s how I self-identify.

When you’re following someone, it’s because you can’t get there on your own. It’s because you don’t actually know where you are going, and you have no hope of arrival if you’re not closely following behind someone who actually knows where they’re going. THAT is a far more truthful description of where I am at… I don’t have a clue how to get where I am going, but I’m happy to simply be on the path in the direction of Jesus.

Second, the term follower implies that I am attempting to do something. I so desperately want to be like Jesus- and each day is simply an attempt, as I follow. But, I fail more than I succeed, which proves even more that the title of “Christian” would be completely inaccurate for me to own.

4. When I quit being a Christian so that I could better follow Jesus, the Bible made a lot more sense.

Before my reorientation of faith around Jesus and following his example, I missed a whole lot in scripture. Since my orientation was around doctrine, there seemed to be a reason, excuse, or a loophole for everything. There were justifications for war, violence, the death penalty, greed… but once I reorientated my life around Jesus, I started to pay attention to what he said and take it much more seriously.

Stuff like “turn the other cheek”, “put down your sword”, “love your enemies”, and “whatever you’ve done to the least of these…” started become statements that I never again wanted to avoid, dodge, or explain away as I used to when I was a Christian.

As a Jesus follower, the “red words” become the lifeblood of faith and the compass for daily life. I see all the rest of scripture through the filter of the life, teachings, and example of Jesus.

So, while there’s no running away from a term that’s been here since Antioch, I’m personally not a fan of it for the simple fact that it’s not the best way to describe me.

I’m just a Jesus follower.

A messed up, broken, follower.

And, I’ve grown to be very okay with that.

by on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:25 AM
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idunno1234
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:27 AM
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I really relate to this. 

I hope all of you who will immediately assume this is a Christian bashing post read it and realize that it is anything but.

simplegirl2321
by Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:32 AM
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Love this thank for sharing it!
jadedcynic
by NerdyJen on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:32 AM

This is how I feel, as well. 

shannonnigans
by Platinum Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:33 AM
Lots of luck on that one.

Quoting idunno1234:

I really relate to this. 


I hope all of you who will immediately assume this is a Christian bashing post read it and realize that it is anything but.

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PamR
by Pam on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:34 AM

Interesting.  I think a lot of people can relate to this.  It seems that now more people who are religious identify themselves as followers of Jesus as opposed to a member of any denomination. 

idunno1234
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:36 AM

I know you are not who I was referring to but did you see it that way?

I'm really trying to draw people in for discussion, not polarize them.   

Quoting shannonnigans: Lots of luck on that one.
Quoting idunno1234:

I really relate to this. 

I hope all of you who will immediately assume this is a Christian bashing post read it and realize that it is anything but.

 

idunno1234
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:40 AM
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I think Christianity has ended up focusing so much on the bible, a document written mostly by people who didn't even know Jesus, than on the teachings of Jesus himself.

How great would it be if people stopped fighting among themselves and starting focusing on what would really change humanity for the better. 

Quoting PamR:

Interesting.  I think a lot of people can relate to this.  It seems that now more people who are religious identify themselves as followers of Jesus as opposed to a member of any denomination. 

 

snookyfritz
by Platinum Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:44 AM
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I'm happy for him.  I hope he continues to follow Christ to completion.

I was thinking the other day that I hear so much these words..."the bible says" and thought to myself that so many people live by that saying.  I decided to change that with "God says..." in an effort to redirect my thought patterns.  

Sisteract
by Whoopie on Aug. 16, 2014 at 11:19 AM
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When I quit being a Christian so that I could better follow Jesus, the Bible made a lot more sense.

Before my reorientation of faith around Jesus and following his example, I missed a whole lot in scripture. Since my orientation was around doctrine, there seemed to be a reason, excuse, or a loophole for everything. There were justifications for war, violence, the death penalty, greed… but once I reorientated my life around Jesus, I started to pay attention to what he said and take it much more seriously.

Stuff like “turn the other cheek”, “put down your sword”, “love your enemies”, and “whatever you’ve done to the least of these…” started become statements that I never again wanted to avoid, dodge, or explain away as I used to when I was a Christian.


Amen- I so agree.

The good and positive, the direction followers of Jesus should be heading- this is how I was raised-unfortunately, later in life, the negative, justifiers riddled the path.

idunno1234
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 11:55 AM

Do you think his idea has merit....both personally and generally for Christianity?

I wouldn't see it as wiping out Christianity at all, rather refocusing on what it was supposed to be about in the first place- following the teachings of Jesus.

I know that we actually have very few first hand accounts of Jesus's teachings.   So much is conjecture but the way I look at it is if we look at what leads to destruction and war and what leads to construction and peace, its obvious what we should be doing. 

Quoting snookyfritz:

I'm happy for him.  I hope he continues to follow Christ to completion.

I was thinking the other day that I hear so much these words..."the bible says" and thought to myself that so many people live by that saying.  I decided to change that with "God says..." in an effort to redirect my thought patterns.  

 

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