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‘Princeton Mom’ tells CNN: Getting raped while drunk is just a college ‘learning experience’

Posted by on Dec. 12, 2014 at 3:53 AM
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11 Dec 2014 at 14:04 ET                   

Susan Patton speaks to CNN (screen grab)

Author Susan Patton, who is better known as the “Princeton Mom,” told CNN on Tuesday that the modern definition of rape was meaningless because women could usually just “get up and leave” if they didn’t want to be assaulted.

“What makes this so particularly prickly is the definition of rape,” Patton opined to CNN host Carol Costello. “It no longer is when a woman is violated at the point of a gun or a knife. We’re now talking about or identifying as rape what really is clumsy hook-up melodrama or a fumbled attempt at a kiss or a caress.”

“This is with a friend, this is in your own home.”

Costello, however, pointed out that most rapes occurred between people who already knew each other.

“It makes one wonder, why do you not just get up and leave?” Patton asked. “Or why do you not as a woman tell a man who’s making advances that, ‘You know what, stop, leave.’”

The guest said that she had talked to victims of sexual assault, but didn’t always find their stories convincing.

“There’s rape, and then there’s rape,” she quipped. “I believe that she experienced something that she regretted. I believe that she got very drunk, and had sex with a man that she regretted the next morning. To me, that’s not a crime. That’s not rape. That’s a learning experience.”

Throughout the interview, Patton insisted that she was “not blaming victims.”

“The politically correct thinking at this point — fueled by the antagonistic feminists — is that even if there’s a whiff of assault, a man is guilty,” she said. “We could teach burglars not to steal, but better advice [is to] lock your door.”

“I’m not blaming victims, but when women accuse men of rape, when in fact, it was sort of a fumbled attempt at — when they have what I call regrettable sex, mistake sex.”

Costello, who is a domestic abuse survivor, concluded by saying that she would never contact Patton if she needed support after experiencing an assault in the future.

“You probably could come to me because I’m a sympathetic ear,” Patton argued. “But first, I would tell you, be smarter next time. Exercise more self control next time. Use better judgement next time in how you choose your friends.”

“And then you want me to go the police and file charges after you said that to me?” Costello replied. “After you said that to me, I ain’t going to the police! Are you kidding? You just said it was partially my fault because I was drunk!”

“I didn’t say it was your fault, I said you could have prevented it,” Patton said.

“It’s not as easy as that,” the CNN host sighed.

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turtle68
by Mahinaarangi on Dec. 12, 2014 at 6:09 AM
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Do women...college women actually go and cry rape after a regretful night....who is benefitting from this act?  

Ive known plenty of women who regret one night stands for the same reason men have jokes about running away from ugly women the next day...so do women.  None.....NONE have gone to the police station and said they were raped.  I dont know where she gets that from??

Healthystart30
by Gold Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 8:35 AM
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Its not her fault but she could have prevented it=her fault. And why would women up and leave when hanging out with friends? How are they supposed to know that the friend is actually a rapist?
gdiamante
by Gold Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 8:41 AM
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***sigh*** THIS is what I mean by the phrase "Ivy League Idiot."  Princeton should tell her to stop using their name because she makes the school look bad.

GLWerth
by Gina on Dec. 12, 2014 at 8:49 AM
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Victim blaming really is a new tradition isn't it?

This woman is vile and dangerously stupid.


Mrs.KAZ
by Gold Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 11:14 AM
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"There's rape and then there's rape"

Huh? Rape is rape, when did there become degrees of rape? This woman is clueless, I would not want my daughter to have this learning experience. If this is college, she is living at home.

12hellokitty
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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Sounds to me as if she is saying it's not rape when the women is not being forced to have sex and has the option of saying no.  If a woman gets drunk and has sex that wasn't forced on her but she would not have had sex with the person if she hadn't been drunk, is not rape.  

PamR
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:17 PM
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I wish the media would stop giving this woman attention.  She's an idiot.

It's definitely in a young woman's best interests NOT to get drunk, however, how many of us did get drunk at frat parties, etc. while in college?  I know I did - there but for the grace of God. . .

 Young men need to understand that it's not okay to take advantage of a girl who is so intoxicated she can't make a rational decision.  Instead of blaming the girl for the entire situation, hold young men responsible for their actions, too.

littlemum41
by on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:26 PM

 geeeeeeze.

12hellokitty
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:27 PM
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Quoting PamR:

I wish the media would stop giving this woman attention.  She's an idiot.

It's definitely in a young woman's best interests NOT to get drunk, however, how many of us did get drunk at frat parties, etc. while in college?  I know I did - there but for the grace of God. . .

 Young men need to understand that it's not okay to take advantage of a girl who is so intoxicated she can't make a rational decision.  Instead of blaming the girl for the entire situation, hold young men responsible for their actions, too.

So who is responsible to make a rational decision when both are intoxicated?

PamR
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 12:37 PM

Only one of them can be raped. 

Quoting 12hellokitty:


Quoting PamR:

I wish the media would stop giving this woman attention.  She's an idiot.

It's definitely in a young woman's best interests NOT to get drunk, however, how many of us did get drunk at frat parties, etc. while in college?  I know I did - there but for the grace of God. . .

 Young men need to understand that it's not okay to take advantage of a girl who is so intoxicated she can't make a rational decision.  Instead of blaming the girl for the entire situation, hold young men responsible for their actions, too.

So who is responsible to make a rational decision when both are intoxicated?


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