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'I'm gay. And I want my kid to be gay too':

Posted by on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:21 AM
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  • Sally Kohn is a political commentator for CNN, Fox News and MSNBC
  • She wrote in The Washington Post: 'I'm gay. I want my kid to be gay, too' 
  • 'When my daughter plays house with her stuffed koala bears as the mom and dad, we gently remind her that they could be a dad and dad' 
  • Kohn says like most parents she wants daughter to follow in her footsteps
  • But suspects her daughter, 6, is straight as she is already 'boy crazy'


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    A 37-year-old gay mom is set to spark controversy after she said she'd be disappointed if her six-year-old daughter wasn't gay when she grows up.

    Sally Kohn a political commentator who has appeared on CNN and MSNBC, describes herself as living in the 'liberal bubble of Park Slope, Brooklyn, where 'yuppies' want their kids to be happy.

    She said: 'I'm gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too.'

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    Family: Kohn, right, is raising her six-year-old girl daughter, Willa, center, along with her partner Sarah, left, whom she met at the World Social Forum in Porto Alegre, Brazil, in 2003 (Courtesy of Sally Kohn)

    Family: Kohn, right, is raising her six-year-old girl daughter, Willa, center, along with her partner Sarah, left, whom she met at the World Social Forum in Porto Alegre, Brazil, in 2003 (Courtesy of Sally Kohn)

    View: Sally Kohn, 37, a CNN and MSNBC political commentator  said 'I'm gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too'

    View: Sally Kohn, 37, a CNN and MSNBC political commentator said 'I'm gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too'

    In a lengthy essay in The Washington Post  Kohn explained that, she, like most parents simply wants her child to follow in her footsteps. 

    She writes: 'If we went to college, we want our kids to go to college. If we like sports, we want our kids to like sports. If we vote Democrat, of course we want our kids to vote Democrat.'

    Kohn said: 'When my daughter plays house with her stuffed koala bears as the mom and dad, we gently remind her that they could be a dad and dad. 

    'Sometimes she changes her narrative. Sometimes she doesn't. It's her choice.'

    'Time will tell, but so far, it doesn't look like my six-year-old daughter is gay. In fact, she's boy crazy.' 

    She is raising her six-year-old girl daughter, Willa Hansen Kohn, along with her partner Sarah Hansen, whom she met at the World Social Forum in Porto Alegre, Brazil, in 2003. 

    Hansen works in philanthropy advising foundations how to best support groups in the social and environmental justice movements. 

    Bond: Kohn, right, and her partner Hansen hold their daughter, Willa, center, in their arms during a trip

    Bond: Kohn, right, and her partner Hansen hold their daughter, Willa, center, in their arms during a trip

    Video: In 2010 she posted a Youtube video of her then two year-old daughter entitled 'My 2 year old explains the Bush tax cuts' featuring the precocious little girl

    Video: In 2010 she posted a Youtube video of her then two year-old daughter entitled 'My 2 year old explains the Bush tax cuts' featuring the precocious little girl

    Parenting: Kohn, pictured here with her daughter as a baby said 'If my daughter is gay, I don't worry about her having a hard life. But I do worry about people expecting her to have a hard life'

    Kohn, however, is no stranger to controversy.

    In 2014, she wrote that referring to an undocumented person as an 'illegal immigrant' was like calling a black person the N-word. 

    Meanwhile, she often writes about how her sexuality impacts her parenting style.

    In a parenting blog for The New York Times she described her experience of being 'a butch lesbian' taking her five year old daughter for a Princess makeover at Disney World. 

    A friend once told me 'I wouldn't even choose for myself to be gay.' It was a sad admission, because she was,' Kohn said.

    She wrote: I have been a tomboy all my life. When I played with dolls they were usually being sacrificed in some sort of erupting volcano-like mud hole in my backyard or running for their lives.'

    'My partner and I certainly didn’t teach our daughter to like pink and ruffles and such. And I can’t fathom some genetic or biological nodule that predisposes my girl to like dolls while little boys like trucks. Baloney.' 

    She adds: 'Even in the midst of our hyper-liberal and hyper-diverse neighborhood with girls and boys of all kinds on display every day, it happened. 

    'Did I do something wrong? Is feminism mysteriously skipping a generation? Meanwhile, I have to bribe her to wear jeans.'

    In 2010 she posted a Youtube video of her then two year-old daughter entitled 'My 2 year old explains the Bush tax cuts' featuring the precocious little girl. 

    Kohn said: 'If my daughter is gay, I don't worry about her having a hard life. But I do worry about people expecting her to have a hard life — helping to perpetuate discrimination that might otherwise fade'

    Kohn said: 'If my daughter is gay, I don't worry about her having a hard life. But I do worry about people expecting her to have a hard life — helping to perpetuate discrimination that might otherwise fade'

    And while the pundit is known for her outspoken views, she admits that her straight friends have a massive problem with her wanting her daughter to be gay when she grows up.

    She wrote: [One friend asked] 'Don't you want her to be happy?'  

    She adds: 'A friend once told me 'I wouldn't even choose for myself to be gay.' It was a sad admission, because she was.'

    She goes on to suggest that there is a widely-held viewpoint that 'no one would choose to be gay — even in the gay rights movement.'  

     'The problem is not the idea that homosexuality could be a choice but the idea that heterosexuality should be compulsory, Kohn adds.

    She adds: 'I've never for a single second regretted being gay, nor saw it as anything other than an asset and a gift. 

    'My parents were ridiculously supportive from Day One, and I had a great community of friends and mentors who made me feel unconditionally accepted. 

    'By the time my daughter comes of age, she'll have even more of a support network, including two moms, for crying out loud.

    'If my daughter is gay, I don't worry about her having a hard life. But I do worry about people expecting her to have a hard life — helping to perpetuate discrimination that might otherwise fade more quickly. 

    'I want my daughter to know that being gay is equally desirable to being straight. 

    'The problem is not the idea that homosexuality could be a choice but the idea that heterosexuality should be compulsory. 

    'In my house it's plainly, evidently not. We've bought every picture book featuring gay families, even the not-very-good ones and we have most of the nontraditional-gender-role books as well — about the princess who likes to fight dragons and the boy who likes to wear dresses.'  



     

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    kailu1835
    by Ruby Member on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:24 AM
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    Well that's a new one. I know many gay parents. They pray daily that their kids will be straight so that their kids' lives won't be as hard as theirs were and still are.
    numbr1wmn
    by Lina on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:32 AM

    She can hope she is. But you can't make someone gay.

    Elkamelka
    by KayGee on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:34 AM
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    I pray for my child's health, happiness, and the ability to succeed in whatever she wants. Who has time while raising a child to hope for anything else?!
    momtoscott
    by on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:49 AM
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    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    

    numbr1wmn
    by Lina on Feb. 23, 2015 at 9:54 AM

     How do you raise a child to be gay?

    Quoting momtoscott:

    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    

     

    lady-J-Rock
    by Bronze Member on Feb. 23, 2015 at 10:13 AM
    The same way you raise them to be straight.;)

    Quoting numbr1wmn:

     How do you raise a child to be gay?


    Quoting momtoscott:

    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    


     

    numbr1wmn
    by Lina on Feb. 23, 2015 at 10:15 AM
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     Oye.

     

    How do you raise them to be straight?

    YOU DON"T.

    Quoting lady-J-Rock: The same way you raise them to be straight.;)
    Quoting numbr1wmn:

     How do you raise a child to be gay?

    Quoting momtoscott:

    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    

     

     

    macksmom716
    by Member on Feb. 23, 2015 at 10:20 AM

     I didn't read it that way. After reading your comment I went back and it does read that way. Thank you.

    Quoting momtoscott:

    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    

     

    anxiousschk
    by anxiouss on Feb. 23, 2015 at 10:22 AM
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    I don't understand wanting a sexual orientation. 

    I want my kid to be happy, healty and have a great life.  That's it! 


    lady-J-Rock
    by Bronze Member on Feb. 23, 2015 at 10:35 AM
    By teaching them strict gender roles and being gay is a sin. My aunt is a devout baptist and sincerely believe you can teach your kids to be straight.

    Quoting numbr1wmn:

     Oye.


     


    How do you raise them to be straight?


    YOU DON"T.


    Quoting lady-J-Rock: The same way you raise them to be straight.;)
    Quoting numbr1wmn:

     How do you raise a child to be gay?


    Quoting momtoscott:

    Isn't part of the point of the essay that even though she has done all she could to raise her kid to be gay--modeling through her own relationship, toys and books, etc., just as recommended by a certain poster here to be used in the opposite direction--her kid is straight?  Perhaps--gasp--her child was born that way.    


     


     

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