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Do what the nice doctor tells you….

Posted by on May. 17, 2015 at 8:46 PM
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Is this how you approach medical advice? 

Do you do your own research and discuss it with your doctor? 

Do you just simply do whatever the doctor says b/c he/she went to medical school, therefore should know better than you?  


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D-Town
by Platinum Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:05 PM

I do my own research and discuss it with my brother who is also a doctor before discussing it with our family doctor. More than once my brother and I into testing for an issue that my family doctor didn't consider and turned out to be a good thing. 


Doctors are people. They make mistakes. They don't always have the right answer. They are overworked and are also prone to looking out for their own interests as well. 

anxiousschk
by anxiouss on May. 17, 2015 at 9:20 PM

I asked this question because there was a discussion today in which a woman said "my doctor is my boss and has been in practice for x (a lot) of years.  He clearly knows more than women on the internet."  

Well, yeah.  No one is claiming to be a doctor.  But, doctors are human (like you said, D-town) and don't have the time to do indepth research on EVERYTHING as it comes up.  


petie1104
by Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:25 PM
If we took that stance dh would probably still be taking antibiotics for his throat cancer. He had to demand to be referred out because his PCM insisted it could not be cancer and told him that sometimes it takes months for antibiotics to work and they hadn't exhausted all possibilities, like if antibiotics and lupus, even though his blood tests confirmed no infection or autoimmune.

So, no, we do not just believe doctors. We research and fight them of necessary. As it was, we fought too late and the cancer grew too far for surgery to get it all. Maybe if we had gone with our gut sooner, dh wouldn't be in the position he is in now.
fullxbusymom
by Silver Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:27 PM

If it is an illness yes, we do what the doctor tells us and follow the directions to the letter.  That is what I am going to them for because I don't know.  

If it is preventative care we do a lot more research and make an educated decision because we have a lot more time to do so.   

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by Ruby Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:35 PM

I do my own reseacrh and then listen to my doctor. if I am still not sure, I will go for a 2nd opinion. Then, I will make a decision.

I have been misled by doctors which ultimately worsened my condition after following their advice. never again. I always ask questions. I need to know and feel that I am part of the planning in my healthcare needs.

lancet98
by Gold Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:35 PM

I've studied medicine, neurology, anatomy, biology, chemistry, microbiology, genetics, infectious diseases, nursing, psychiatry, mental illness, human behavior, psychology, epidemiology, medical statistics, research methodology, and many other areas of medicine.  I test out as being intelligent enough to comprehend the material.

And guess what?  The crappiest doctor in the world knows more and can help anyone, more than I can.

After 10, 12 or more years of school, they spend the rest of their lives surrounded by - medicine.   Their friends are doctors, they go to conferences and talk to othe doctors, they spend an immense amount of time reading on new things, and the nowadays subscribe to dozens of services to make sure they get the latest and greatest information.  Most have kids, ageing parents, and all the same concerns we all have.

I don't BLINDLY accept everything any doctor says, because there are some quacks out there, and some hucksters(like the doc who gave me the 45 min 'bre**t exam', and the one who missed the fact that I had pleurisy), but in general, I find that the doctor knows the subect way better than I do.   I generally respect the doctor's advice, but I also read up on whatever the subject is and make an effort to follow what's going on in that area.

So for example I found a very promising article on a new asthma treatment, but my doc pointed out some risks and explained why it's not going to be for everyone, and that it's going to be a long time in testing.

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by Ruby Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:39 PM

((((hugs))))

My dad has been battling mouth cancer that spread to his glands. Fingers crossed the docs have been able to cut it all out and radiation burned out the rest.

Cancer sucks.

Quoting petie1104: If we took that stance dh would probably still be taking antibiotics for his throat cancer. He had to demand to be referred out because his PCM insisted it could not be cancer and told him that sometimes it takes months for antibiotics to work and they hadn't exhausted all possibilities, like if antibiotics and lupus, even though his blood tests confirmed no infection or autoimmune. So, no, we do not just believe doctors. We research and fight them of necessary. As it was, we fought too late and the cancer grew too far for surgery to get it all. Maybe if we had gone with our gut sooner, dh wouldn't be in the position he is in now.


sj2014
by Silver Member on May. 17, 2015 at 9:42 PM
I don't trust doctors at all. In my last job, I was a disability advocate. The stories I could tell...

More personally, I have had a knee problem for a decade. Seen many specialists. My last ortho (a highly recommended one) had me scheduled for knee surgery, but on the morning of my surgery, we found out I was pregnant. So, I got through my pregnancy, got to the point where my husband had enough pto to take off to care for my son while I recouperated. Went in to the doc to reschedule my surgery. First, his assistant came in and grabbed my right ankle and said, "which ankle is it?" I thought he was joking, so I chuckled. He said, "I'm serious. We are rwally busy, so just tell me." Told him it is my left KNEE. Also told him I was having left hip problems at that point. Doc comes in, says, "there's nothing wrong with your knee, it's your hip!"

Ugh :0(
AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:27 PM

Absolutely depends on the doctor. I have doctors that we have had for many years now, and who have been through so much with us, that I do tend to just trust them, because I have seen for myself that they do sincerely have our best interests at heart, and I know that they know us well enough to be considerate of our individual needs. Our son's cardiologist comes to mind when I think of doctors that I tend to just trust instinctively and not question much, likely because he does encourage our questions and any questions we have are answered in a timely, honest fashion by him; I feel the same about my GYN. I have other doctors, and our son has other specialists that we LIKE, but that we tend to question more.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff:  we're Catholic, we're conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee

coolmommy2x
by Platinum Member on May. 17, 2015 at 10:40 PM
My SIL is a doctor so if she tells me to do something, I listen to her. If I see another doctor and he tells me something, I will ask SIL for her opinion.
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